I have a family that has a 3 1/2 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl and I have been caring for them for 3 years. The boy has been really aggressive lately. Within the last month he has broken a child's glasses and last Friday he intentionally kicked a baby for no reason. (Not that there ever is a reason for a child to kick a baby!) The parents are apologetic for his behavior and state that they have tried different things at home. It is obvious from drop off and pick up times that he rules the roost and they just give him whatever he wants to appease him.
The kids come 2 days a week and her schedule at work changes so some of the days the mom brings them she has off work. I have a 2 day minimum to hold the spot for them, so have been ok with them coming when she does not work. However, I don't like watching kids when their parents are at home and there is not a reason for the kids to be away from them.
The dad thinks he needs medication and has ADHD, but in my opinion he is not hyper and has no trouble paying attention. They are taking him to a counselor today for advise.
In light if recent events I suggested that I waive the 2 day minimum and that they only bring the kids when they are working. The mom said she likes her time alone, because she already spends 4 days a week with them. I am having trouble understanding her mentality and find it problematic that I am here struggling to keep him under control while she is at home.
She is quite sensitive and I am not sure how to kindly tell her that she is the parent and needs to spend the extra time with her own child to deal with his aggression. Any ideas on how to handle this gently, but firmly?
The kids come 2 days a week and her schedule at work changes so some of the days the mom brings them she has off work. I have a 2 day minimum to hold the spot for them, so have been ok with them coming when she does not work. However, I don't like watching kids when their parents are at home and there is not a reason for the kids to be away from them.
The dad thinks he needs medication and has ADHD, but in my opinion he is not hyper and has no trouble paying attention. They are taking him to a counselor today for advise.
In light if recent events I suggested that I waive the 2 day minimum and that they only bring the kids when they are working. The mom said she likes her time alone, because she already spends 4 days a week with them. I am having trouble understanding her mentality and find it problematic that I am here struggling to keep him under control while she is at home.
She is quite sensitive and I am not sure how to kindly tell her that she is the parent and needs to spend the extra time with her own child to deal with his aggression. Any ideas on how to handle this gently, but firmly?
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