Annoying Drop Off Time

[Unregistered]

Maybe im just over reacting but just curious if anyone else has this problem or what should i do to fix it....

I have a 4.5 dcb that at drop off comes in the house and i immediately say "okay dcb, take off your shoes" and every day he wont take them off and every day his mom tells him "dcb you need to take off your shoes, you have to listen to mrs. D." and then while she is signing him in the dcb just stands and does nothing, and then the mom takes his shoes off and. The dcb whines and dcm says "give me a kiss" and dcb whines and dcm says "you be a good boy for mrs. D, you listen, you be a good boy okay" and dcb whines and dcm tries to take off his jacket and dcb whines and then she asks him "you want to take off or you want to leave on" like half a dozen times and he whines and pulls away, this is like a 5min process and it just anooys the heck outta me.

Then at pick up he doesn't want to leave he tries to get back in the daycare room and then will play with toys while mom just stands there smiling...........so i started locking daycare door before his pick up so that he cant get back in, but then he tries to dash into the living room and starts taking toys out of the toy basket in there, which i usually can head off fairly easy so thats not a big issue, but now he started pulling this, "I gotta go potty" and then just sits goofing off. I started making him go before his mom gets here but he still claims he has to go as soon as she shows up, and i tell her "oh, well dcb just went potty a few minutes ago." but now she started saying "well i dont want him to have an accident" ..........seriously, he is just goofing off

[cheerfuldom]

tell mom you need her to work together and make drop offs and pickups smoother and faster for everyone involved. meet her at the door at drop off, take the boy in and scoot her out. meet them at the door for pickup. put him in front of you all ready to go and stand right there in the door and dont let them come back in. i know that seems a little harsh or rude but you need to take control of this situation. he's 4.5, he can "hold it" and potty at home in 10 minutes.

[grandmom]

I agree totally. He's just checking to see who's in charge when you and mom are there.

Mom, this seems to be excallating and so I've been thinking about what to do. From now on, until we can get this under control, when you come, I want you to simply sign him in and leave. I will take of shoes and coat and everything. And when you arrive, he will be toileted, with shoes and coat on. I want you to sign him in and walk out the door with him. If you want to talk to me about anything, I am happy to do that on the phone while you are driving.

[lovemykidstoo]

I would have the sign in sheet right outside the door so she can sign him in before they even step in. I have had kids do the whole "I can't take my shoes off" routine, when they do it just fine when we area going outside. Then the stalling when the parents are trying to get the shoes/coats off. I just say "Oh come on Johnny mommy has to get to work, let ME help you". Then tell mom that you have it. At pickup, have him ready to go out the door. EVerything on.

[daycarediva]

Tell Mom that it is getting excessive and we need to cut down on his pick up and drop off 'frustration'. On your end you will assist dcb to take off his coat, hat and shoes at drop off. At pick up you will have him toileted & ready to go. Her job will just be to greet him and take him in and out. If she has any concerns about his day, call or email!

I have a dcb that has started this too. Dcm will stand in my doorway until dcb allows her to put him in his chair for breakfast, and it took 20 minutes today! I actually had to say "breakfast time is almost over" then he scooted down, wiped his face and was FINE. I felt like saying "See, he's playing you!"

[providerandmomof4]

I have the same situation with a pt dcb. When he arrives, I have a full house of kiddo's. Everyone at my dc uses the side door and you have to travel up a few stairs and then through the kitchen to get to the dc area. My point is....I can't see the other dc kids when I'm at the arrival door. Dcb and his dad have a 5 min goodbye process that drives me nuts! I used to see them pull up and I would greet them at the door as they were walking up. I've stopped this and started waiting until they actually ring the doorbell. My thinking was that they may be finished with goodbyes by this point. Uhhhh, no. The process starts again when I come to the door So I say, "come on guys I have kids left unattended and really need to get back with a big smile on my face." Dcd looks at me like he can't believe I just said that and I thought....seriously, this is ridiculous! So I think that I've embarrassed him and he will stop. Next day; same thing. Again I say that I have babies and toddlers and we really need to come in and join the group. I didn't smile that time.... We'll see how it goes next week