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A former client of mine that was here for 4+ years & aged out, left on good terms, SA girl/12, has special needs (severe ADHD, aspergers).
Her Mom called me yesterday evening stating that dcg wasn't doing well home alone after school AT ALL. That she was upset to the point of tears within 2 hours alone (home at 2:30, Mom is getting out as early as possible-4:15, home by 4:30). But really needs to work until 5.
I took this dcg on as a client because her Mom was literally in tears when she called me, desperate, with nowhere for dcg to go the following day. Dcg had been kicked out of every single program that accepted SA kids in our school district (no lie, I checked!) Mainly it was because providers weren't used to dealing with a child with special needs, dcg wasn't trusting and said many times "You will just kick me out too so it doesn't matter what I do!" I promised her I would NEVER kick her out, and I stuck by it (even at times when I wanted to because of behavior!) Since the first year, dcg was a gem, a few issues that were to be expected, but nothing major. I typically only take SA kids with a younger sib in care, but HAVE made exceptions to this (for this dcg previously).
Here are the issues- she is in 6th grade, and in special needs classes. My dd is in 8th, at the same school. DD doesn't want to ride the bus with dcg. I was pretty upset with dd over this---(she has a special needs brother!) but after she talked to me about what dcg would do/say previously that she never told me, I understand. (dcg would tell kids on the bus about dd, that they were best friends, that dd got in trouble, that dd wet the bed, that dd liked a certain boy, etc) some of it true, some not but obviously embarassing to dd.
If I had known about this, I beleive I could have stopped the behavior but dd didn't want to get dcg in any more trouble.
My program is really geared towards kids under 8. Dcg is immature and did well with the little kids, little kid toys, etc. She would be here from 2:30-5:30 after school and on most non school days.
My question is, would you accept this dcg back into care? She has been gone since early Sept, so I am guessing her transition won't be easy. I also don't want to embarass her, so I think if I tell parents she is my helper that would be better if I were to accept her? wwyd?
Her Mom called me yesterday evening stating that dcg wasn't doing well home alone after school AT ALL. That she was upset to the point of tears within 2 hours alone (home at 2:30, Mom is getting out as early as possible-4:15, home by 4:30). But really needs to work until 5.
I took this dcg on as a client because her Mom was literally in tears when she called me, desperate, with nowhere for dcg to go the following day. Dcg had been kicked out of every single program that accepted SA kids in our school district (no lie, I checked!) Mainly it was because providers weren't used to dealing with a child with special needs, dcg wasn't trusting and said many times "You will just kick me out too so it doesn't matter what I do!" I promised her I would NEVER kick her out, and I stuck by it (even at times when I wanted to because of behavior!) Since the first year, dcg was a gem, a few issues that were to be expected, but nothing major. I typically only take SA kids with a younger sib in care, but HAVE made exceptions to this (for this dcg previously).
Here are the issues- she is in 6th grade, and in special needs classes. My dd is in 8th, at the same school. DD doesn't want to ride the bus with dcg. I was pretty upset with dd over this---(she has a special needs brother!) but after she talked to me about what dcg would do/say previously that she never told me, I understand. (dcg would tell kids on the bus about dd, that they were best friends, that dd got in trouble, that dd wet the bed, that dd liked a certain boy, etc) some of it true, some not but obviously embarassing to dd.
If I had known about this, I beleive I could have stopped the behavior but dd didn't want to get dcg in any more trouble.
My program is really geared towards kids under 8. Dcg is immature and did well with the little kids, little kid toys, etc. She would be here from 2:30-5:30 after school and on most non school days.
My question is, would you accept this dcg back into care? She has been gone since early Sept, so I am guessing her transition won't be easy. I also don't want to embarass her, so I think if I tell parents she is my helper that would be better if I were to accept her? wwyd?
) but anyways, there was this girl in girl guides and last year she was mean to my dd (this girl would hang out with another girl) well my dd and this girl moved up to a higher level. And because this girl was mean to the other girls no one wanted to be her friend. As time went on, I found out that she didn't have many friends, and acually had a hard time making friends. So I told my dd to go and befriend her. Well as it turned out, they are really great friends. They really click. All my dd did was give her a chance. Her mom thanked me the other day when I was in michaels.
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