Showing Up Early!

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I dont get this at all.

You changed your hours to make it so you are open for 10 hours a day not 12 right? Said you are not going back to early mornings, ever.

Then your upset because dcm showed up early. You reminded her that you changed your hours.

Then you proceed to say you will try and work with her to be open early when she needs you to be.

So why did you change your hours then?

She is either there at 7:30 or not at all OR you are open early forever or not at all.

She is trying to get "special" because you are wishy washy about your hours.

[daycarediva]

I dont get this at all.

You changed your hours to make it so you are open for 10 hours a day not 12 right? Said you are not going back to early mornings, ever.

Then your upset because dcm showed up early. You reminded her that you changed your hours.

Then you proceed to say you will try and work with her to be open early when she needs you to be.

So why did you change your hours then?

She is either there at 7:30 or not at all OR you are open early forever or not at all.

She is trying to get "special" because you are wishy washy about your hours.

Thanks for your help.

[daycarediva]

I spoke to dcd about this at pick up, and he said dcm will only be needing early drop off in Feb for (date on calendar dcd is out of town-1) and that she will be dropped off at 7 and the extra fees would be X and that they would be paid the previous week, per contract.

Dcm sent me an apology text after she spoke to dcd about dropping off early and said that she felt bad if I was upset or missed my morning time with my kids because of her.

All's well that ends well.

[daycarediva]

this is the kind of crap that is one of the reasons why I am closing down my daycare. I have no problem saying no to parents but the constant pushing. hinting, threatening is so exhausting! I just dont understand what goes thru a parents mind to keep up this behavior. All the sneaking around, passive aggressive tactics, sending hubby to do the dirty work? what is up with that?! I am just confused out how these parents normally are very easy to work with at their jobs for the most part, successful in other areas of life and that sort of thing.....yet cannot maintain an appropriate relationship with their daycare provider.

OP my guess is that their little angel is being very bratty at home and mom is trying to give her the old heave ho and letting you deal with her. you said that DCG is challenging in the morning. most of the time that means she is worse it home. mom is missing almost 2 hours with her in the morning to get a work out in and supposedly eat dinner together....if that was her logic, then why could she spend breakfast together and then workout in the evening? same difference right? i bet its because Dad is there to help in the evening and mom does not want to do it alone in the morning. am i right?

DCG is usually a DOLL for me, I swear, baby talk is her only correction during the day, EVER ("dcg I like your big girl voice better" to which I get "Ok Miss *****'...in her big girl voice)...when other kids are here. I CANNOT, EVER leave her (at 3.5) for a MINUTE alone. My ds's room is adjacent to the daycare room and she can hear me, and still cries.

These parents are awesome in every other way, and previously were about this as well but in Dec I let my early morning client go. I never knew dcg was like that, until they left, bc she had never been alone. Dcp's say she is like this at home/grandma's as well.

[Heidi]

DCG is usually a DOLL for me, I swear, baby talk is her only correction during the day, EVER ("dcg I like your big girl voice better" to which I get "Ok Miss *****'...in her big girl voice)...when other kids are here. I CANNOT, EVER leave her (at 3.5) for a MINUTE alone. My ds's room is adjacent to the daycare room and she can hear me, and still cries.

These parents are awesome in every other way, and previously were about this as well but in Dec I let my early morning client go. I never knew dcg was like that, until they left, bc she had never been alone. Dcp's say she is like this at home/grandma's as well.

will SHe walk away from YOU? Or does she stay right at your hip all the time? Will she go to the bathroom, walk out of the room for something, or walk accross the yard?

If she does...it's a control thing. If she doesn't, it's an anxiety thing.

If it's a control thing, it needs some behavioral intervention. If it's an anxiety thing, maybe you could give her a substitute for you? A special "friend" like a stuffed bear or something, that sits on the shelf until you need to leave the room? THen, he can "keep her company" while you're out of the room.

[snips&snails]

will SHe walk away from YOU? Or does she stay right at your hip all the time? Will she go to the bathroom, walk out of the room for something, or walk accross the yard?

If she does...it's a control thing. If she doesn't, it's an anxiety thing.

If it's a control thing, it needs some behavioral intervention. If it's an anxiety thing, maybe you could give her a substitute for you? A special "friend" like a stuffed bear or something, that sits on the shelf until you need to leave the room? THen, he can "keep her company" while you're out of the room.

I disagree - it could still be an anxiety issue - she may have anxiety about someone leaving her, whereas choosing to leave is a different thing altogether. Many adult women have this same issue Seriously though, I feel this is a major oversimplification of an issue in an otherwise well-behaved child, especially when this behavior is typically not a problem. If it's not causing problems why not let her outgrow it on her own?

[snips&snails]

I heard her pull in, and knock, but I didn't open the door until 7:25. I did sit here and watch the news and drink my coffee. Dcm was upset when I opened the door. "I was just going to call you to make sure you were open today! We have been waiting in the car for almost 30 minutes!"

Love this!

I ended up getiing stuck with a child that arrives at 5:45 (about to give 2 week notice thankfully, the parent was aware that it was a temporary agreement to begin with). At interview AND on the contract, drop-off time is at 6 AM - well, turns out his parent meant he STARTS WORK at 6!

[daycarediva]

Dcg is afraid of being alone. She has to have me in sight at all times. Same with dcm/d at home, grandparents and her weekend sitter.

She will voluntarily leave my side to play, but she looks/checks my location more than any of the other children. She has been like this (per parents AND grandma) since infancy. They thought it was severe separation anxiety and that she would outgrow it, they have mentioned it to her pediatrician, who says that as she ages she should outgrow it.

She is also timid/shy in almost all other areas. Strangers scare the heck out of her. Even super nice daycare Moms who she has seen 5 days a week for over a year she will NOT speak to, ever. It took her two weeks to say a word to me when she started. It's worse with men, for instance, my dh. She has known him for a year and is just starting to say "Goodbye Mr *****" with all the kids when he leaves, etc.

[creativekids1]

New here, can someone please tell me what dcm and dcg stand for?

[Zoe]

New here, can someone please tell me what dcm and dcg stand for?

dcm is Daycare Mom

dcg is daycare girl

dcb is daycare boy and so on

[Blackcat31]

New here, can someone please tell me what dcm and dcg stand for?

Here is a list of acronyms for use on the board. https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=31167

Hopefully it will help!

Welcome aboard! Nice to have you!