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  • Daycarelady1979
    • Jul 2025

    Underage Drinking...wwyd?

    Let's just say, hypothetically, that you knew of an established licensed Type A provider that condones underage drinking at her home/daycare...what would you do? The drinking is NOT happening with daycare children, it is her own children & her daycare assistant's children. I'm talking like 16 or 17 years old & younger. I'm not 100% sure if she buys the alcohol, but I do know for a fact that she stores it in her fridge & lets these kids have access to it. Her son & his friends hang out there & drink often. She knows about it, condones it, and I'd venture to say, encourages it.
    So...report it or not report it? Who would I contact?
  • snips&snails
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Oct 2012
    • 91

    #2
    I think that is a police issue if it is after hours - if she recieves a conviction it would affect her license. Probably the only way they could prove anything is if she was caught while the youngsters where drinking.

    I really hate that so many people do this. Even allowing your 18/19 year old to have a drink in the evening I would let it go. But 16 & under - and other people's children - that is not ok. I wonder if their parents are aware? The earlier regular drinking starts the more likely a person is to become an alchoholic - and the harder it will be if when they try to quit.

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    • snips&snails
      New Daycare.com Member
      • Oct 2012
      • 91

      #3
      I just reread & see it's her daycare assistant's children so I would guess that person knows. Is this happening during childcare hours then? If so I would call licensing immediately

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      • AnneCordelia
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jul 2011
        • 816

        #4
        Where I live it is legal for an underage child to drink on private property (home) with their guardians permission. Underage means they cannot buy their own booze or drink in abar/restaurant.

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        • laundrymom
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Nov 2010
          • 4177

          #5
          I'd call.
          Personal reasons, but yeah. I'd make the call.

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          • Heidi
            Daycare.com Member
            • Sep 2011
            • 7121

            #6
            Originally posted by AnneCordelia
            Where I live it is legal for an underage child to drink on private property (home) with their guardians permission. Underage means they cannot buy their own booze or drink in abar/restaurant.
            In WI, a parent may buy and/or serve alchohol for their own child. Not for other people's children. So, if assistant is present and dcp allows them to drink there, it's not against the law (although no one can consume alchohol in the presence of dck's, but that's not an issue, right?)

            She may not, however, serve alchohol to her son's friends, unless their parents are PRESENT, in which case the parent is serving the alchohol.

            So, I can take my 15 yo to a bar and order her a drink, but I can't take my 15 yo and her friend. Also, many bars/restaurants have their own policies against it. My sister was once going to let her 19 yo have a margarita at Olive Garden, and they said no...company policy.

            All that said, what is the law in your state? If she is breaking it, she is putting herself in a very dangerous situation. If you don't report her, someone else probably will eventually. If anything happens as a result of it, I'm guessing her insurance would not cover her. Just not a good idea!

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            • LoraJenkins
              Daycare.com Member
              • Oct 2010
              • 395

              #7
              I would report. Maybe if the Mother has some consequences she will wake-up. Sometimes parents would rather be their child's friend than actually parent. I see it ALL the time and it makes my blood boil. JMO though.

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              • Crazy8
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jun 2011
                • 2769

                #8
                Originally posted by AnneCordelia
                Where I live it is legal for an underage child to drink on private property (home) with their guardians permission. Underage means they cannot buy their own booze or drink in abar/restaurant.
                I believe that is the law here too. If that's the case where you live I would not report. It may be poor parenting but if it is not a violation of any daycare regulations it shouldn't be reported.

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                • Daycarelady1979

                  #9
                  Hypothetically, this may also be a person whose husband had to take a leave of absence from work due to mental issues. This daycare provider called me & said that her husband (who is also an assistant/caregiver for the daycare at times) was not in a good mental state & was getting counseling & had been put on medication.
                  She 100%, without a doubt, absolutely, for sure told me that she was afraid to be alone with him. The kicker? Guess where he was while she was telling me this?? AT THE DAYCARE, ALONE & IN CHARGE OF THE CHILDREN WHILE SHE WAS OUT SHOPPING!

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                  • Daycarelady1979

                    #10
                    I don't think I will call licensing, but I may call the local police & just see what the laws are on contributing to a minor. The issues I have with her are more on a personal level, as a parent...her values are just not the same as mine. I don't want to see anything bad happen to her daycare business, I just think she needs a wake-up call!

                    As far as the drinking goes, I'm really not sure if it has happened during business hours. According to her, she works almost around the clock. I know she has SEVERAL children enrolled & that they all come at different times. I don't have any way to find out if the daycare was open during the times she allowed these kids to drink.

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                    • Blackcat31
                      • Oct 2010
                      • 36124

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Daycarelady1979
                      Hypothetically, this may also be a person whose husband had to take a leave of absence from work due to mental issues. This daycare provider called me & said that her husband (who is also an assistant/caregiver for the daycare at times) was not in a good mental state & was getting counseling & had been put on medication.
                      She 100%, without a doubt, absolutely, for sure told me that she was afraid to be alone with him. The kicker? Guess where he was while she was telling me this?? AT THE DAYCARE, ALONE & IN CHARGE OF THE CHILDREN WHILE SHE WAS OUT SHOPPING!
                      I'd be much more concerned about that than I would be about the hypothetical underage drinking.

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                      • Daycarelady1979

                        #12
                        If I can be honest, I was hoping someone else would try to report her so I didn't have to...there is a personal reason I do not want to rock the boat.

                        She is not what you would call a "quiet" person. She tells everyTHING she knows to everyONE she knows! I figured she would say the wrong thing to the wrong person & someone would make a call. It's a VERY small town.

                        I'm sure the kids are safe, I'm sure she is doing a fine job as far as that goes, it's just her PERSONAL life choices that drive me batty.

                        And maybe I'm just a tad jealous that every time she calls me, she is out shopping while an assistant is home with the kids. I wanna shop! I wanna leave the house! I want an assistant!

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                        • kendallina
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Jul 2010
                          • 1660

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Daycarelady1979
                          Hypothetically, this may also be a person whose husband had to take a leave of absence from work due to mental issues. This daycare provider called me & said that her husband (who is also an assistant/caregiver for the daycare at times) was not in a good mental state & was getting counseling & had been put on medication.
                          She 100%, without a doubt, absolutely, for sure told me that she was afraid to be alone with him. The kicker? Guess where he was while she was telling me this?? AT THE DAYCARE, ALONE & IN CHARGE OF THE CHILDREN WHILE SHE WAS OUT SHOPPING!
                          I agree with BlackCat, this is the hugely concerning part, not the underage drinking.

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                          • crazydaycarelady
                            Not really crazy
                            • Jul 2012
                            • 1457

                            #14
                            Since the drinking is not happeneing during the daycare hours it really has nothing to do with the dc. I think you should mind your own business and leave it alone.

                            As for the other that could effect the dc kids that is another matter.

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                            • kitykids3
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2012
                              • 581

                              #15
                              I would be reporting the mental issues of the dad! The worrying about possible underage drinking would be minor compared to a mentally unstable person in charge of the kiddos alone!
                              lovethis daymommy to 7 kiddos - 5 girls and 2 boys

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