Guilt Trip Didn't Work

[BumbleBee]

Update

Sorry to keep you all waiting Haven't been on since early this morning.

Yes she showed up today. It is a scheduled day for her dck so it's all fine and good. She wasn't rude or friendly. Very business like.

She picks up at the end of the day. Here's the conversation:

Dcp: I called some other daycares.

Me: Oh good! You still have another week (letter is due next Friday by 6pm) so you can tour those daycares and find one that suits your needs.

*chirp, chirp, chirp*

Dcp: What do I need to do to keep dck here?

Me: Sign, date & return the letter before next Friday. Respect me, my home, and my time. If you don't feel you can do that consistently, don't bother. I have made it clear that you have crossed the line. I am willing to give you a second chance. If you lie to me again, ask for special treatment, show up without necessary supplies, cops an attitude, attempt to drop off early, pick up late, or break a single policy I will terminate your child care immediately.

Dcp: Thank you. I will have the letter on Monday.

So yes, I am giving her one more chance.

ETA: Guess who just CALLED (not text!) to ASK (not tell) if dck could come on an unscheduled day next week! She also nailed the total for drop in!

*Side Note* I know who Arsenio Hall is. I know who NKOTB are. Who the h*ell are One Direction???????????? I'm 28-Backstreet Boys, N*SYNC, & Hanson were plastered on my walls.

[EchoMom]

Holy cow! I can't believe you said ALLLLLLLLL that! Did you REALLY?! I can't believe she said what do I have to do to keep her here, that's amazing! I WISH one family I had to term had had that response! Wow! Do you think that you'll be able to continue working together after this? Do you think she will be really bitter & resentful of you being so brazen with her? Not that it's bad you stuck to your guns, just that do you think she can really move on from it and not be out to "get you back" in some way? I'd be worried! But if she really turns it around that's amazing.

The fact that she asked and then you said all that and then she said she'd have it Monday shows some humility so that's great. I would think that if a DCP even had the guts to ask the question, I couldn't imagine someone responding so well after all you said. Wow!

[Starburst]

Me: Sign, date & return the letter before next Friday. Respect me, my home, and my time. If you don't feel you can do that consistently, don't bother. I have made it clear that you have crossed the line. I am willing to give you a second chance. If you lie to me again, ask for special treatment, show up without necessary supplies, cops an attitude, attempt to drop off early, pick up late, or break a single policy I will terminate your child care immediately.

happyface Wow I wish I had that kinda khutzpa

[ABCDaycareMN]

Awesome response!

How old would you say the dcp is?

[BumbleBee]

Holy cow! I can't believe you said ALLLLLLLLL that! Did you REALLY?! I can't believe she said what do I have to do to keep her here, that's amazing! I WISH one family I had to term had had that response! Wow!

Do you think that you'll be able to continue working together after this? I sincerely hope so.

Do you think she will be really bitter & resentful of you being so brazen with her? Not that it's bad you stuck to your guns, just that do you think she can really move on from it and not be out to "get you back" in some way? I'd be worried! But if she really turns it around that's amazing.

If she is bitter & resentful or out to get me back, I think-knowing how she is-it will be obvious.

The fact that she asked and then you said all that and then she said she'd have it Monday shows some humility so that's great. I would think that if a DCP even had the guts to ask the question, I couldn't imagine someone responding so well after all you said. Wow!

I was talking with my "2nd mom" last night about the situation and she recommended I think about what I would say if the mom asked to stay. She also recommended I think about what I would say if the mom got nasty. I had both scenarios laid out in my head exactly what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. If it weren't for that I wouldn't have been able to say what I did.

happyface Wow I wish I had that kinda khutzpa

I didn't know I had it!

[BumbleBee]

Awesome response!

How old would you say the dcp is?

Thanks! Early 20's. No older than 23.

[melilley]

Awesome...I envy you! I hope I can have the courage to do that one day if it comes up! Oh, 1D or One Direction is the new NKOTB or Backstreet boys.... My daughter is almost 10 and that's all she talks about...

[laundrymom]

Holy crap!!!!
I'm so proud of you!!
Girl you got an arsenio battle cry, a Ron Weasley " bloody brilliant" a huge Indiana basketball foot stomp mosh pit mixed in with the flair of tony stark!!!!! Love it!!!

[melilley]

My daughter is obsessed with 1D and I gave her 3 walls in her bedroom for the pictures. She is known as Mrs. Harry Styles!! She is 12.

Haha my daughter "loves" Niall. I hope I spelled that correctly or I'm in trouble...

[lovemykidstoo]

Haha my daughter "loves" Niall. I hope I spelled that correctly or I'm in trouble...

I bet our daughters would get along so great!!

[AnneCordelia]

Good job!!!! I always do easier when I lay out the conversations and scenarios in my head first too. You did great!!

[Meeko]

I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall!

I am feeling very old.......I was the Osmonds/David Cassidy/Bay City Rollers era!!

In fact...to be totally honest....Donny Osmond still makes my heart race..Sexiest grandpa (and one of the sweetest people I have ever met) on the planet!!!!! ::::

[Play Care]

I was talking with my "2nd mom" last night about the situation and she recommended I think about what I would say if the mom asked to stay. She also recommended I think about what I would say if the mom got nasty. I had both scenarios laid out in my head exactly what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. If it weren't for that I wouldn't have been able to say what I did.



I didn't know I had it!

One of the things I always do when I have to have those "talks" with dc clients is to practice in front of the mirror. I also try to envision different scenarios and make sure my responses are always professional. DH laughs when he finds me talking to myself in the mirror. Of course his next question is "who's in trouble?!"::

[itlw8]

I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall!

I am feeling very old.......I was the Osmonds/David Cassidy/Bay City Rollers era!!

In fact...to be totally honest....Donny Osmond still makes my heart race..Sexiest grandpa (and one of the sweetest people I have ever met) on the planet!!!!! ::::

Now I loved those boys in plaid glad I am not the only experienced one here LOL

[kitykids3]

way to go happyface

maybe I should start practicing in the mirror