Infertility and Daycare-Anyone?

[newtodaycare22]

Anyone had to deal with this? I'm currently going through infertility testing and I know this must be a horrible experience for everyone who must, but it seems 100% worse that I've chosen a job that surrounds me by kids every day (and parents that complain about them, when I want to shout ID GIVE ANYTHING TO HAVE THEM! Oh ...and most of them were 'accidents')

I'd love to hear from anyone that could offer a little support...although I hope not many of you have to deal with this situation!

[pandamom]

Big hugs to you. You are so strong- when I was struggling TTC, I had to quit volunteering at our church's Sunday nursery- it was too hard for me. I ended up needing IVF ICSI to have my twins- so I know what you're going through. I hope your road to motherhood is short

[Daycarelady1979]

Yes, I went through it for 8 years.

[jokalima]

Went through it for almost 4-5 years, is hard really hard. Try not get frustrated w/parents that complain about their kids, is normal, I do it now that I have mine I know what you are going through and in a way I still go through it, even though I have my child I am not able to have more, so imagine that, going through a battle with infertility to have a child and then get to know that you are facing infertility permanently, no hope, no ifs, nothing so it is still hard for me to deal with pregnant mothers, even pregnant family members. But through the time I was trying to convective I had God and I trusted him with all my heart that kept me strong, now I still have him but I also have my own child and I am grateful for him even when I wish I could have more, I know in my heart it was just meant to be him. hang in therehappyface

[MN Day Mom]

Been there too! I started doing daycare when we started 'trying'. Trying didn't work. Gave the fertility route a short run and then decided on adoption. I guess I knew I was going to be a mother one way or another, so having my day kids in my life while I waited was a 'fix' of sorts for me and I learned a lot from the kids and their parents and what I wanted and didn't want for my family

When parents would feel frustrated or complain about their children in front of me I would just say something simple like "Yes you are lucky" or "can't wait till I am this blessed" ... something to remind them of who they were talking to "A wannabe mommy"

Good Luck... hope it happens for you soon!!

[Play Care]

I was not doing day care when we were having our issues, but it did seem like everyone (and their brother ) were getting pregnant. I tried to keep in mind that just like anything else, their comments had nothing to do with me, and just as I had a right to my feelings (which were pretty dark at that time ) they had a right to theirs. Infertility is usually such a private struggle that most people don't even know that you are trying (and why should they?) so I tried just to let the comments/complaints roll off my back.
Now, if people DID know and made comments that is inexcusable. More than once I was told by someone that I "just needed to have a glass of wine and relax" to get pregnant.
I wish you luck with your journey.