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  • Binkybobo
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Oct 2012
    • 212

    I've Lost All Respect For This Parent

    I used to hold a particular dcm in very high regard. She always corrected her older son and made him say yes ma'am. She always makes the little dcg apologize and cleanup before she leaves. She seemed to be very concerned about teaching her children manners. I have always bragged about her. Early on, I had a problem with her trying to slip out the door on Fridays so that she wouldn't have to pay on time. Because of this and other reasons, I implemented a 3 strike rule in regards to late payments and late pickups. Once since the rule has been implemented she tried to send her husband on Friday hoping that I wouldn't ask him for payment. They gave me a sob story about all the had was $60, and could they pay me on Monday. All of the parents are aware that they can talk to me openly about financial problems but not in excess. She tried to be sneaky about this.
    She works a split shift and use to pick the toddler up and bring her back later until it became disruptive. Since she has had this free time to herself in the middle of the day,it seems that she has filled this time with social activities. So much to the point that she is constantly facebooking on her phone when she tags along on fieldtrips while her child runs wild. She is always on the phone at pickup so I never get to giver any updates, etc..
    Before she left for Christmas break, she paid me for the time she would be gone.(I also gave her a generous break on the amount she would have to pay) She told me that she would be back this past Friday to pay me for this week.(The child will return tomorrow) She did not show up on Friday. I texted her Friday and asked if the child would be back this week.(I wasn't sure.) I was actually going to tell her not to worry about driving up on Friday, and that she could just pay me on Wed. when she returns. When she only texted back that the child would be back on Wed. and said nothing about payment I knew that she was being shady again.
    I should have just been upfront and told her that I needed payment that day, but I didn't.
    She will just show up tomorrow and hand me the money I guess.So rude. I have other parents that may not be the perfect parents, but they go out of their way to pay me even if their child is absent that day.
    One parent who picks up at 3:00 comes back every Friday at 5:30 after her husband gets paid. Another mother who's child leaves to go with dad every Thursday drives out of her way to my house every Friday morning without the child in order to pay me.
    I know this is a rant,but I just think it is ironic that someone who is constantly barking at their children to say please, thank you, yes ma'am, and no ma'am is the rudest, shadyiest person of the bunch with a cell phone strapped to her face!
    Ok, I'm done.
    Thanks for listening daycare forum.
    BTW, I will hold this against her for the 3 strike rule. I think she is doing this becaues I will be moving soon and my bunch is dwindling down so she thinks I need the money no matter what. Respect level= dwindling
  • laundrymom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 4177

    #2
    I recently implemented a new policy. Pymnt due fri @ dropoff. If paid at pick up there's a 10$ fee. If paid later than 530 Friday your fee goes up 5$ per week for 3 months.

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    • WDW
      Daycare.com Member
      • Apr 2011
      • 238

      #3
      Originally posted by Binkybobo
      I know this is a rant,but I just think it is ironic that someone who is constantly barking at their children to say please, thank you, yes ma'am, and no ma'am is the rudest, shadyiest person of the bunch with a cell phone strapped to her face!
      She is putting on a show for you with the behavior corrections...

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      • MarinaVanessa
        Family Childcare Home
        • Jan 2010
        • 7211

        #4
        Payment due in advance with a "No Pay/No Play" policy and add your late fees. I'd have returned this DCM's text with "Ok thanks, Payment was due Friday as we discussed before and is now late again. If you pay tomorrow don't forget to pay the extra $XX in late payment fees. Also this is your 2nd late payment strike. See you tomorrow"

        But I have no problem being firm .

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        • cheerfuldom
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Dec 2010
          • 7413

          #5
          I agree with the PP! you need to be more clear and firm with what you expect. You should always insist on payment as outlined in your contract. You give her wiggle room and she is going to take it.

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          • Binkybobo
            New Daycare.com Member
            • Oct 2012
            • 212

            #6
            Originally posted by MarinaVanessa
            Payment due in advance with a "No Pay/No Play" policy and add your late fees. I'd have returned this DCM's text with "Ok thanks, Payment was due Friday as we discussed before and is now late again. If you pay tomorrow don't forget to pay the extra $XX in late payment fees. Also this is your 2nd late payment strike. See you tomorrow"

            But I have no problem being firm .
            I know. I was just being a little relaxed becuse I knew I would be closing and moving soon. It still bothers you when someone is completely taking advantage of you. Lesson learned.
            Extended rant: I open at 6:00, and she attempts regularly to ring my doorbell at 5:45. She has no respect for my time whatsoeever. What type of person is like that with their kids? She tries to take my last 15 minute sof solitude before my own kids even wake up, before my daily rat race begins!
            I now know the things to go over when I start dc at my new house. At least I had a starter dc , and don't feel stuck with all of the bad habits that have formed.

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            • Binkybobo
              New Daycare.com Member
              • Oct 2012
              • 212

              #7
              Originally posted by WDW
              She is putting on a show for you with the behavior corrections...
              You may be right about that. I think she was more invoved with the kids early on and now only cares about herself. It's just a show now.

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              • Binkybobo
                New Daycare.com Member
                • Oct 2012
                • 212

                #8
                Originally posted by laundrymom
                I recently implemented a new policy. Pymnt due fri @ dropoff. If paid at pick up there's a 10$ fee. If paid later than 530 Friday your fee goes up 5$ per week for 3 months.
                Oh, wow! That is very strict. How did the parents react? I have just learned that I would rather kick a bad apple out than collect fees.

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