Princess Slowpoke Pt. 2

[Hunni Bee]

I hope you made her clean up her own mess before she was able to go with her friends!!!


Honestly, I wonder if she doesn't know this bothers the poo out of you and that's why she's pushing things farther and farther.

Either that or could she be developmentally delayed?

I did.

And I think you may be right...about both. She does recognize that it irks me, because there's this look she gives me, like "are you going to make me hurry?".

While I dont think she's delayed necessarily, she just has no initiative. That's why it's so hard with her, because it seems she just does not care. She's like the kid who sleeps in the back of all her classes and does just enough to pass.

[Hunni Bee]

I would do the opposite of what you've been doing. It obviously isn't working.

I would give her just as much time with things as the fastest child.

If Sam is the fastest eater, make them buddies. When Sam finishes, she gets up too. If joe is fastest at art, pair them up. Move her physically if you need to.

I feel the extra attention you are giving her. Ex- cleaning up around her. Watching her do the peeped dance. Is like giving a barking dog a cookie.

You don't give attention, good bad or indifferent, for undesirable behavior.

She doesn't finish a project, pick it up and mOve on. She doesn't finish eating, when the others get up, she gets up. No more special.

She is LOVING the attention she gets for taking her time. She has you RIGHT where she wants you. Catering and waiting on her. Giving her attention for things she shouldn't do.

Good luck.

Thank you very much. I did this for a short while, but I thought by "forcing" her along, I was reinforcing the message to her that "you dont have to be accountable for anything" because someone will take care of it.

But you're right, giving her the choice isn't working either because she never chooses. One day, she was doing the peepee dance and staring at me, I continued to make eye contact and even pointed to my ear several times. She still didn't ask until she was about to have an accident.

So i will definitely try your advice. Thanks.