no instinct, or what is it??

[daycare]

I have posted about this dck before.

DCK is here PT and ESL. DCK has been with me for 9 months and is almost 3years old

I am very baffled by many things with this child and wondering if there is something wrong with the kid or is it really a language barrier????

examples....this child is PT at home, but not here.

I will take the child into the bathroom and say go potty..........DCK will stand there and do nothing. OK maybe they didn't understand the words that I said, but wouldn't instinct or memory tell DCK to use the toilet, because that is what you do in there???

same goes with everything else to do with the bathroom. Will not flush the toilet, wash hands, dry hands...NOTHING.. I have to do it all just as I would an infant....



Another example- the other day we are on a field trip and I took DCK to the bathroom. After finishing up at in the bathroom they dried their hands with a paper towel. We were staying over the trash can and I pointed and said, throw the paper towel away. I said it about 10 times. Even tired to shake the paper towel out of their hand into the trash can....NOTHING....

The child also is like a rag doll. Will not climb in or out of anything.....like when its time to get out of the car seat, they do nothing to get in or out. just like an infant.

I have many kids in my care that are ESL and NONE of them have ever had this issue.... I am also ESL, so I know that I work well with kids like that are too.....

any suggestions???

[crazydaycarelady]

I have had a kid similar to that who wasn't ESL so I don't think that is it. I would say "okay, let's get ready to go outside," all the kids would run over and start getting shoes on etc. but this kid would just stand there watching. He just did not pick up on any visual clues what so ever. It was so frustrating!

[cheerfuldom]

are you sure this is not because mom does everything for child? I have kids both special needs and not special needs that have been like this. mom does everything and they actually end up "training" their child to not help themselves and just stand there and wait for things to be done. I have also met moms that are mad or even punish a child for trying to do anything on their own. I have one special needs girl right now that is physically and mentally capable of much more than what she will actually do for herself. I know her preschool is having a tough time with it. For instance, she wont walk downstairs, not even one. She can do it but she wouldnt even step down the one stair on my porch for the longest time. her mom would always pick her up and lift her down the stair....she is 3.5.

[countrymom]

yup it sounds like everything is done for this child. I would get mom to come and see what is going on at your house. she NEEDS to see what is happening. Then you will see if there is a problem or what.
If she doesn't come, then you need to call her and tell her she needs to come and get him because he can't physically participate, outings needed to be out for this kid because you can't do things for him if he should be doing it himself.