Why Are You Crying... Again... DCB?

[providerandmomof4]

Does anyone have any strategies on dealing with whiner/cry cry boys. I don't think I'd have any more patience with girls if they were doing it either but I have a family of two boys who every time I look at them (exaggeration) they cry. I'm so tired of it. I guess this is how they get what they want at home but I don't have any patience with it any more. When they were new, I would try to figure out what I could do to make it easier for them but anymore..I'm just spent and out of energy with it. If it's not one (age 3) it's the other (age 5)

Today, dcb (5) didn't want to go outside. I say...sorry, everyone's ready to go out and play. You can have fun or not, it's up to you. Five minutes later...he's crying. Says his tummy hurts and wants to go in. I say, okay and we all go in. No temp, and five minutes later, he's up and playing with play dough with the other kids. Urghh! Little manipulator! I say, "oh, feeling better dcb?" He says, "yes" and looks like he wants to cry again. What the? I'm tellin ya, I handle crying from the babies, although they don't do it near as much as these boys...but I just really need a new strategy with these boys ....Help!

[blandino]

I will designate a spot for crying. Right now we have a "cozy corner" with pillows and blankets, also called and used as a "calm down corner". And the minute they start crying, they go straight there and the only words I say are "when you are done you can get up". For a whole they sat and cried in the corner, but now, they stop quickly.

[Play Care]

I feel your pain. I think I have their cousins in my dc!!

[countrymom]

I think its their way of getting what they want. I have one who likes to do this till she gets her soother. I just let her cry, if she's not hurt, she's feed and changed, then she can cry all she wants.

[williams2008]

I care for twins that are the same way! We have what we call a "comfy corner" for them to get themselves together. The crying stops really quick when they have to go there!

[ABCDaycareMN]

I think it may just be the kids. My son was/is like this his whole life. It really takes a tole on you. My son will cry and whine over everything and anything. If he does not get his way he cries, if he has to do something on his own he cries, if he has to go to bed he cries,

He is almost 6 and it is just now getting better. But he is in kindergarten. I really think that was the turning point for him.

Just hang in there it gets better.

[Heidi]

I use a crying spot as well.

The 5 year old, especially, is way to old to be behaviing that way. With both, I would also say "I cannot understand you when you whine. Go over to the cozy spot for a few minutes, and once you've calmed down, come talk to me and I will listen".

When they try to manipulate you with the "I'm sick". Say "Oh, I'm sorry that you're not feeling well. You don't have a fever, though, so we are still going outside. Maybe you'd prefer to sit on the step while your friends play, since you're not feeling too good". tee hee...

[crazydaycarelady]

I have a chiar in my laundry room (right next to the dcroom) that we use for this type of thing. I have them sit in it until they can get it together. It is not a time out since they can come back out whenever they are ready (done crying) but I send them right back in if they start up again.

[Play Care]

I think it may just be the kids. My son was/is like this his whole life. It really takes a tole on you. My son will cry and whine over everything and anything. If he does not get his way he cries, if he has to do something on his own he cries, if he has to go to bed he cries,

He is almost 6 and it is just now getting better. But he is in kindergarten. I really think that was the turning point for him.

Just hang in there it gets better.

I think this is my biggest issue - it is just so exhausting and draining to care for a child who cries crocodile tears everytime they don't get their way, or may be tired, hungry, etc. I also have had success with a "crying corner" because it takes the attention away from him. I try to give him plenty of positive attention throughout the day as well as praise for using his "big boy words." I've learned to ignore the "I don't feel wells" (once I've checked every thing to make sure he really isn't ill) because he totally uses it to manipulate.

[cheerfuldom]

dont forget to make a cry spot outside. i would not come inside for a crying child

[lovemykidstoo]

dont forget to make a cry spot outside. i would not come inside for a crying child

I don't come in for a cryer either. I let them sit on the step until they want to play nicely. Ignore and have him sit somewhere. It's an attention getter.

[Happy Hearts]

My cryer took an extra step today to get attention while she was sitting in the snow crying for attention. She was upset because dcb abandoned her and the sled they were playing with together when she got too bossy. I just kept walking right by her and tending to the others who were having fun. She's yelling at me, "Miss J___, look at my eyes," as she's pointing to the tears. "look, I'm crying."

Well, I would have more sympathy for her, but really this is an everyday, thirty times a day event. Really upsets her when I ignore this behaviour. Maybe one day she'll learn.

[SunshineMama]

I will designate a spot for crying. Right now we have a "cozy corner" with pillows and blankets, also called and used as a "calm down corner". And the minute they start crying, they go straight there and the only words I say are "when you are done you can get up". For a whole they sat and cried in the corner, but now, they stop quickly.

This, exactly!

Even my 2 year old understands this concept. "You may cry as long as you want to, but you have to sit here and cry. When you are all done crying, you may get up."

If they get up but are still crying, repeat.

I do this for all whines and unreasonable cries. If they have a legitimate gripe I am empathetic, but for the whiney no reason cries, its straight to the crying spot.