Is This A New Trend? Or Just Here?

[Scout]

Apparently I am not the norm. When I was off for 3 mos I did not take my oldest to dc at all, NOT ONE SINGLE DAY! I wanted him with me, to assure him that just because he has a brother, it doesn't make him less important. I would have never wanted him to be away from me during that transition. I had no problems with him retransitioning to dc when I returned to work. I don't get it, probably never will.:confused:

[crazydaycarelady]

I agree that I do like the kids to keep coming at least a few days to stay in the routine, but this last older sibling got sooooo whiney. His dad works from a home office so each day he got dragged over here while mom, dad and the new baby all stayed home. He knew what was going on!

And the other mom, I offerred her a reduced rate but she would rather pay the money and not have her kid at home. I think whoever said it was right - they just are not used to being at home with their kids, it is foreign to them.

[Mom&Provider]

Norm here too. :confused: DCF brings their child 3 days per week, sometimes asks for more if they have things to do that would be easier done with the child - appointments or shopping kinda thing.

I guess I don't mind, since if they had pulled their child, then I would of had to find another family (and this family is very good, so I would hate to loose them!), which I didn't have to do in this case and soon enough I will be getting the little one too!

I also have a DCF only has one child and if they get off early or have a day off they spend it alone...spa day is what DCM has told me! I've had DCD from the same family drive past me while picking up kids from the school, so I know he is home, but he shows up on the button at closing...says he went to have a nap or start dinner!? It really floors me to be honest. I worked after I had my son and any day I could leave early to get him I would in a heart beat! It's kinda sad actually...

[Unregistered]

Apparently I am not the norm. When I was off for 3 mos I did not take my oldest to dc at all, NOT ONE SINGLE DAY! I wanted him with me, to assure him that just because he has a brother, it doesn't make him less important. I would have never wanted him to be away from me during that transition. I had no problems with him retransitioning to dc when I returned to work. I don't get it, probably never will.:confused:

I used to think like this. BUT as time goes on I think most parents are thinking to try to keep the older child on their routine/schedule as obviously having a sibling is a huge change. In addition the parent is probably thinking that it's better for the older child to be at care with friends, planned activities, and attention from the caregiver then home with mom who may have been up all night with baby and is too exhausted to do anything other than snap on the tv... I know I was so happy I had my second child in the summer so DH could run interference with our older child. Mat leaves are so short in the US that it doesn't really make sense to keep the older child home only to have to transition them back a few short weeks later.

[momma2girls]

In the 11 years I've been running my daycare it is more the norm than not to see the mentality "well I'm paying for it" - and that means bringing the kids when home with a new baby as well as all other scenarios. Of course its not ALL parents, but I'd say most.

It certainly true with 90% of the parents anymore!!! They go on vacation, they leave their kids here, etc. etc...... It might not be 90%, but for me it is close to it or over it!!

[Willow]

I PREFER THat they stay in daycare on their normal schedule so that when they come back, it's not heck trying to get them back into our routine and daycare schedule.

I strongly encourage the same.

I think it's great for moms to have that time to recover and bond with the new baby and a fantastic idea for the child already in care to keep their schedule as consistent as possible.

[MamaG]

I don't see a problem if they use me full time. Why pay for something you aren't using? Who can afford that? I personally would keep my child in care but for less hours per day if we could afford it. I'm big on consistency for kids.

[littlemissmuffet]

I think MANY parents would only have one child if they knew they would have to have both home. Daycare providers make raising kids too easy for parents.