Not Cutting Your Baby's Hair....

[youretooloud]

This is just a vent with no actual advice needed. LOL

I had this boy this week who is nine months old, and seriously needs a haircut. But they "don't want to cut his beautiful baby hair". Which is silly, because it was nearly the first thing the mom said when dropping him off to me. I didn't bring it up, so it's obviously an issue at home.

It's that long, thin, whispy baby hair, that is uneven, and is much longer on the top and in the front than in the back, so his hair is always in his face.

He has a slightly runny nose...nothing bad, just normal baby boogers. His hair was always getting stuck in his boogers. If it wasn't stuck in his boogers, it was in his mouth, and it was FOREVER in his eyes.

But, mom and (maybe dad) see him and think "What beautiful hair", I see him and think "wow...he needs a hair cut".

So, on Friday, they picked up his professional pictures, and brought them to me to see. They LOVE these pictures. He is the most beautiful child they've ever seen, and his hair is wonderful. So, they are rightfully proud of these pictures. They adore this kid.

But, to me, the pictures aren't as cute as they would be if his hair was not across his face. To me, I see a messy boy doing an expensive photo shoot. Even a cute hat would have made him look really cute.

Last week, I clipped his hair out of the way a few times (with a girl clip that I made look more boy-ish) and then one of the other kids brought him a beanie shaped like Yoda. The yoda hat was seriously cute. Plus, he has red hair, so the yoda hat over red hair cracked me up every time. *He IS super cute when his hair is not in his face...I've only had three red headed kids in 35 years of daycare, so he's so very cute and unique*

Anyway... just my rant..... long wispy baby hair is not cute to me. I don't have a problem with long hair on boys, but not this thin unkempt infant hair.

[DaisyMamma]

Nope, it looks dumb. I agree entirely.
I had a dcb whose mom thinks he's a baby and doesn't need it cut. His bangs were in his face all the time. Finally she got it "trimmed" but was barely worth the time and efforts of whoever cut it. Two weeks later it looks just as bad as it did before.
With that said, my daughter was over 2 when I cut her hair the first time :: after it was cut I realized how dumb it had looked.

[countrymom]

I had one like this too "oh his curly hair is so cute" ya, its cute when its full of food and boogers and he can't see because its in his eyes. So I started clipping it up, with a small rubber band, they got the hint.

[SilverSabre25]

I agree...with both the pps. The bangs should at least be trimmed back so they are out of his face. I was going to suggest clipping...maybe a bobby pin? Or maybe let mom and dad see him with the clip in :P

And yeah, I waited 3 years to get DD's hair cut (it grew so slowly...and she was bald until after 1) but she looked sooo much better after that I really regret not doing it sooner.

DS will probably be close to two or even older before he needs a hair cut, but then, he's 18 months and still has very short wispy hair (that my MIL comments EVERY TIME SHE SEES HIM, "Oh did he get a hair cut? His hair is so cute and even!").

[momofboys]

None of my kids had "real" hair cuts until they were all over 2 - but then none of them had much hair until they were 1. My youngest (now 5) had beautiful hair (but not in his eyes) and got it trimmed many times but not really truly a full hair cut - he didn't get that until he was 4. All of my kids had really curly hair also & it was hard for me to "cut their curls" so to speak knowing that the curliness would likely not last after they had their hair cut. But I can understand if this child's hair is in their eyes, frustrating I am sure. Can't the parent at least trim the bangs?!? But that being said whether you think it is stupid or not realize that for some parents (myself included) cutting their child's hair is a very personal thing & is a stage of them seeing their child growing up - maybe part of the reason I waited for so long with our last - it is hard to let go of that for some parents so try to cut these parents a little slack - all they see is their cutie and they don't care if their hair covers their eyes! And I don't regret for one minute waiting (but then my kids always gotbang trims!!!).

[littlemissmuffet]

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Start sending him home in very girly hair clips/bows - I promise, they'll cut it asap! :: Mine always cut it after I even mention putting in clips

[Kaddidle Care]

To each his/her own. If it is affecting the child's eyesight then I would say something. Otherwise I would treat it as you would a girl's hair. If you're doing something messy and the hair is going to get in it - or if they are using scissors then I would tie it back.

[youretooloud]

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Start sending him home in very girly hair clips/bows - I promise, they'll cut it asap! :: Mine always cut it after I even mention putting in clips

I did pull it back into clips, but I took them out before nap time, I'd never send him home like that. We used colored fabric paint to make it into a racing car looking clip, so at least it was boy-ish. I saw a lego clip that would be cute and easy... I even have some of those thin legos.

[MarinaVanessa]

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Start sending him home in very girly hair clips/bows - I promise, they'll cut it asap! :: Mine always cut it after I even mention putting in clips

I've done this also. Like another poster said ... I treat it like it was any other child's hair. If a girls hair gets in her face and it becomes a hazard (can't see and causes falls, gets in mouth or nose etc) I put a little hair tie on the top of her head (like a fountain) and call it a day. I did this for a 2yo DCB not too long ago and the DCD wasn't too happy about it but I explained that it was getting in his way (in his mouth when he was eating, getting stuck to his boogies, covering his eyes and he was having trouble seeing etc) and he understood. It took about 2 months but they did eventually cut his hair.

It doesn't bother me to have a child's hair long as long as the parent's don't mind that I put it up.

[mema]

I have one of those dcb's too. I also just put a clip in it if we are doing something messy. I guess if they want it long and "fuzzy" looking, that's their deal. I wouldn't be able to do it. My ds had his first haircut at 2 months because it was past the nape of his neck. He looked like such a little man when it was donelovethis. I actually should have cut it a few weeks before I did.

[daycarediva]

I have a dcb with hair past his shoulders. It drives me crazy, as it is always in his face! I pulled the bangs/top half into a ponytail last week and Dad was NOT HAPPY at pickup. I just said that I was sorry, but he kept getting boogers stuck in it and was resistant to letting me clean it (understatement of the year) and he said "Oh, gross" and seemed less upset. I did tell him that I would repeat as necessary.

[Scout]

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Start sending him home in very girly hair clips/bows - I promise, they'll cut it asap! :: Mine always cut it after I even mention putting in clips

This is just what I was thinking too...

[Scout]

With my oldest son I was reluctant to cut his hair(but, I do not think it was in his eyes) until one day someone said "oh, what an adorable little girl!"...out came the scissors!! Maybe they need something like this to happen also.

[DBug]

I have a dcg like this! On Friday, her bangs were attached to her nose because it was running so much after playing outside . Ick!

I'll be getting out the baby elastics today

[SilverSabre25]

I have a dcb with hair past his shoulders. It drives me crazy, as it is always in his face! I pulled the bangs/top half into a ponytail last week and Dad was NOT HAPPY at pickup. I just said that I was sorry, but he kept getting boogers stuck in it and was resistant to letting me clean it (understatement of the year) and he said "Oh, gross" and seemed less upset. I did tell him that I would repeat as necessary.

but...but...but...usually when they wear a boy's hair that long they don't MIND a ponytail!!! :confused: