No bath for 6 weeks!

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This past Monday, I was so angry when I noticed a three year old DCG have so many live lice in her hair because she don't take a bath for 6 weeks when the last time I gave her a bath at my house. I gave her a bath again to get rid of a lot of live lice in her hair and it took me to get it done within three hours. I know I should have call her mother to come get her and give her hell to get rid of her daughter's hair. I just felt that she might will not give her a bath. At pick up, I told her mother about everything and she got really embarrassed. I thought she might will be learned a lesson, nope!!

let me tell you about her little background, Dcg is the boss of her parents. For example, she don't have to go bed until 12am or 1am. She can eat any candy for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks that she refused to eat real foods. Also, she wouldn't take a bath at all whatever her mother told her that she needs a bath and she WOULD fight with her mother. Her mother gave up.

DCG knew she can't be boss of me because I would put her in time out. She have to follow my rules. I always tell her, "who is the boss?" and she said it is me, not her. She is so right!

Today, I got upset because she hasn't taken a bath for 4 days row. I have been venting a lot about her to my husband. He told me it is time to call CPS because CPS can make them to give her a bath and give her healthy foods whatever she likes or not. He said CPS will not take her away unless they see something is not right or whatever reasons. Is it possible for CPS take a serious about this if I make a call. I know I may be losing this child if I report it to CPS.

[Angelwings36]

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This past Monday, I was so angry when I noticed a three year old DCG have so many live lice in her hair because she don't take a bath for 6 weeks when the last time I gave her a bath at my house. I gave her a bath again to get rid of a lot of live lice in her hair and it took me to get it done within three hours. I know I should have call her mother to come get her and give her hell to get rid of her daughter's hair. I just felt that she might will not give her a bath. At pick up, I told her mother about everything and she got really embarrassed. I thought she might will be learned a lesson, nope!!

let me tell you about her little background, Dcg is the boss of her parents. For example, she don't have to go bed until 12am or 1am. She can eat any candy for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks that she refused to eat real foods. Also, she wouldn't take a bath at all whatever her mother told her that she needs a bath and she WOULD fight with her mother. Her mother gave up.

DCG knew she can't be boss of me because I would put her in time out. She have to follow my rules. I always tell her, "who is the boss?" and she said it is me, not her. She is so right!

Today, I got upset because she hasn't taken a bath for 4 days row. I have been venting a lot about her to my husband. He told me it is time to call CPS because CPS can make them to give her a bath and give her healthy foods whatever she likes or not. He said CPS will not take her away unless they see something is not right or whatever reasons. Is it possible for CPS take a serious about this if I make a call. I know I may be losing this child if I report it to CPS.

My first thought when reading your thread was why is dcg in daycare with lice? How come you are allowing this child to be in care and around other children (which I am assuming you have other children) with lice? I would NEVER allow a child to attend my daycare with lice.

Also you said that dcg has lice in her hair because she has not been bathed in 6 weeks but later on in your post you said that she hasn't been bathed for 4 days in a row now? Is it 6 weeks or 4 days? I am really confused over this.

I would be calling dcm immediately to pick up her child and she would not be allowed to return until she was lice and nit free.

[Scout]

My first thought when reading your thread was why is dcg in daycare with lice? How come you are allowing this child to be in care and around other children (which I am assuming you have other children) with lice? I would NEVER allow a child to attend my daycare with lice.

Also you said that dcg has lice in her hair because she has not been bathed in 6 weeks but later on in your post you said that she hasn't been bathed for 4 days in a row now? Is it 6 weeks or 4 days? I am really confused over this.

I would be calling dcm immediately to pick up her child and she would not be allowed to return until she was lice and nit free.

Actually lice prefer clean hair so I don't see how this is possible??:confused:Maybe someone with more experience can enlighten me.
edited: oops wrong person quoted...meant to " OP"

[crazydaycarelady]

Any kid with lice would be out of here in 2 seconds. I'd probably wait outside on the porch until they got picked up too!

[Country Kids]

My first thought when reading your thread was why is dcg in daycare with lice? How come you are allowing this child to be in care and around other children (which I am assuming you have other children) with lice? I would NEVER allow a child to attend my daycare with lice.

Also you said that dcg has lice in her hair because she has not been bathed in 6 weeks but later on in your post you said that she hasn't been bathed for 4 days in a row now? Is it 6 weeks or 4 days? I am really confused over this.

I would be calling dcm immediately to pick up her child and she would not be allowed to return until she was lice and nit free.

Child hadn't had a bath in 6 weeks, op batherd child on Monday and child hastn't had a bath since-4 days since Monday.

[Crystal]

First of all, if the child has lice as badly as you say, then it is IN YOUR HOUSE and you need to SERIOUSLY clean. This child also should NOT be at daycare until she is 100% louse and nit free. YUCK!!!

If it is as bad as you state then yes, you need to call CPS. This is serious neglect and you are a mandated reporter.

The only other thing I suggest is that, before you call CPS, you get your facts straight, write it all down, try to be as specific as possible, including dates, conversations with mom, etc.

[MarinaVanessa]

Also you said that dcg has lice in her hair because she has not been bathed in 6 weeks but later on in your post you said that she hasn't been bathed for 4 days in a row now? Is it 6 weeks or 4 days? I am really confused over this.

I understood that DCG didn't get bathed so the OP gave her a bath and then the DCG didn't get another for another 6 weeks so OP gave her another bath to remove the lice. And now it's been 4 days since the last time that OP has given DCG the last bath and DCM still hasn't given her a bath since then.

Back to OP. In all honesty it sounds neglectful to me and we as child care provider are mandated to report all suspected child abuse and neglect. If anything CPS can help DCM by working with her and doing home visits to help guide her. If they feel like DCG's home life is extreme then they may choose to remove her from the home and the DCM will have the opportunity to improve and try to get her back.

I would call your licensor to make her aware of the situation but I have I have a feeling I already know what they are going to say ... to call CPS. Then I'd call CPS and tell them the situation and then leave it up to them to decide whether or not to investigate. At least you did your part.

CPS won't tell DCM that you reported her but because you have already talked to DCM about it DCM will know it was you (most likely) so just be prepared for DCM to pull DCG out of your daycare if only from embarrassment (hopefully not from anger). She might not pull her out, not saying she will ... only that it's likely.

[NeedaVaca]

I am horrified to hear a child went 6 weeks without a bath! Seriously? That is neglect!

[registered]

My first thought when reading your thread was why is dcg in daycare with lice? How come you are allowing this child to be in care and around other children (which I am assuming you have other children) with lice? I would NEVER allow a child to attend my daycare with lice.

Also you said that dcg has lice in her hair because she has not been bathed in 6 weeks but later on in your post you said that she hasn't been bathed for 4 days in a row now? Is it 6 weeks or 4 days? I am really confused over this.

I would be calling dcm immediately to pick up her child and she would not be allowed to return until she was lice and nit free.

I gave her a bath 6 weeks ago (it was end of October). She haven't take a bath at home ever since. I had to give her a bath again in my house last Monday morning, that is when it was last time. Now she hasn't take a bath in 4 days row this week.

Please keep in mind, she is only child in my daycare for now. In fact, I know lice prefer to have clean hair but it is baby hair that don't have oil like kids or adults. Her mother should have checked her hair to see if she have lice or not. I have to take care of her like mother should be. I wouldn't let her sit on my couch until I get rid of her lice. Oh boy, it was so, so, so, so many! I told my husband this will be my last time to give her a bath. I had given her a bath 4 times in my house and I am planning to term her if her mother don't give her a bath again or lice. She dont have nit and lice right now. I still check on her everyday. I got rid a lot last Monday morning but I told her mother that she would need special lice shampoo which I don't have. I used to put her hair in olive oil to kill all of it.

[Crystal]

Question for OP....how do you KNOW the child did not have a bath for 6 weeks?

I ask because that is a significant allegation and unless you KNOW this to be a FACT and not just speculation, I would tread very carefully.

[Unregistered]

You need to report them to CPS, this is neglect.
you have already spoken to mom about this problem and she has done nothing about it. CPS will most likely put them thrugh a program that helps them Parent better. hopefully.

[registered]

First of all, if the child has lice as badly as you say, then it is IN YOUR HOUSE and you need to SERIOUSLY clean. This child also should NOT be at daycare until she is 100% louse and nit free. YUCK!!!

If it is as bad as you state then yes, you need to call CPS. This is serious neglect and you are a mandated reporter.

The only other thing I suggest is that, before you call CPS, you get your facts straight, write it all down, try to be as specific as possible, including dates, conversations with mom, etc.

Don't worry, I clean my house everyday with power vacuum and I spray with rid killer. I am very lucky my children don't have it because I checked on them everyday! My husband and I checked each other to make sure we don't get it.

I know she shouldn't be in my daycare, I know that but I do care about her and I just need to give her a bath. She sure don't like it and she knows that she cannot control me like she does to her mother. I just feel lost. I have two new kids will be starting in January and I hope she still have nit and lice free for now.

[Angelwings36]

Question for OP....how do you KNOW the child did not have a bath for 6 weeks?

I ask because that is a significant allegation and unless you KNOW this to be a FACT and not just speculation, I would tread very carefully.

This is also what I was thinking.

[registered]

Question for OP....how do you KNOW the child did not have a bath for 6 weeks?

I ask because that is a significant allegation and unless you KNOW this to be a FACT and not just speculation, I would tread very carefully.

Because of her stuck hair and she wrote her pen on her leg from her home the next day after I gave her a bath. I know I need to be very careful. I know her parents very well for a long time before she exists.

[Angelwings36]

If you are certain that dcg has not been bathed by the mother in 6 weeks and you have documented everything leading up until this point I would call CPS. That is serious neglect and gross! I feel so bad for the little girl.