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  • daycarediva
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jul 2012
    • 11698

    Poor behavior during two week termination period?

    I have NO idea what to do. I termed a family for a variety of reasons. The kids are old enough to understand (almost 4 and 8) that they will not be coming here anymore. The behavior of the kids is escalating to the point that I am ready to just cut my losses and tell them not to come back.

    The SA kid who has always been very catty/mean spiritied but sweet to her younger sib is now talking back to me at an extreme level. Every Friday we try a new fruit, this week was relatively tame (star fruit) and dcg said "I am not trying that, you make disgusting food and I don't care about eating healthy because my Mom doesn't make me like you make your kids!" I just said that it was her decision not to try it but it was not ok to speak to me like that. I got a smirk and shrug in response.

    Yesterday dcb broke 3 of the 12 figures in our Santa village, intentionally knocked over a plant, screaming and running ALL DAY (and is normally better behaved) he is independent in the bathroom and now I have to supervise ad he put an entire roll of paper towels in the toilet, unpumped all of the hand soap in two different incidents yesterday.

    I would like to discuss this with the Mother and tell her that if this continues, it would be grounds for immediate termination. Would you do this verbally? Both verbal and written? I am tempted to get a signature as this is a problem parent. I have been paid for next week, but not the following week. Money is not a huge concern for me, although I would like the final payment (12/14)
  • bunnyslippers
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2012
    • 987

    #2
    If the money is not an issue, I would speak to the mother and let her know that if there is even one more day like this, immediate termination will occur. At the conclusion of the conversation, hand her a written notice. After that, I would call her at the first instance of this behavior and immediately terminate.

    I don't think you should be disrespected for any reason. Ever. If her children are that out of control, you need to tell them to go.

    I would be mortified if my children EVER behaved like this!!!! Good luck ~

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    • EntropyControlSpecialist
      Embracing the chaos.
      • Mar 2012
      • 7466

      #3
      Originally posted by bunnyslippers
      If the money is not an issue, I would speak to the mother and let her know that if there is even one more day like this, immediate termination will occur. At the conclusion of the conversation, hand her a written notice. After that, I would call her at the first instance of this behavior and immediately terminate.

      I don't think you should be disrespected for any reason. Ever. If her children are that out of control, you need to tell them to go.

      I would be mortified if my children EVER behaved like this!!!! Good luck ~
      Absolutely this!

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      • countrymom
        Daycare.com Member
        • Aug 2010
        • 4874

        #4
        give her money back and tell her good bye. Really I wonder if mom told them to act like this, because for it to be so out of character you kind of wonder.

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        • JenNJ
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Jun 2010
          • 1212

          #5
          Have their things ready and a termination notice. I would not put up with anyone treating me or my home that way.

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          • PolkaTots
            Extreme Multi-tasker
            • Sep 2011
            • 247

            #6
            I do not allow disrespectful, willingly destrutive, or agressive behavior. At this age, I would have zero tolerance for these behaviors. If money isn't an issue, just tell her at the end of the day, due to the behavior of the children, care will be terminated after today. No sense in putting yourself through this stress...who knows what they will destroy next week

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            • littlemissmuffet
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2011
              • 2194

              #7
              Originally posted by daycarediva
              I have NO idea what to do. I termed a family for a variety of reasons. The kids are old enough to understand (almost 4 and 8) that they will not be coming here anymore. The behavior of the kids is escalating to the point that I am ready to just cut my losses and tell them not to come back.

              The SA kid who has always been very catty/mean spiritied but sweet to her younger sib is now talking back to me at an extreme level. Every Friday we try a new fruit, this week was relatively tame (star fruit) and dcg said "I am not trying that, you make disgusting food and I don't care about eating healthy because my Mom doesn't make me like you make your kids!" I just said that it was her decision not to try it but it was not ok to speak to me like that. I got a smirk and shrug in response.

              Yesterday dcb broke 3 of the 12 figures in our Santa village, intentionally knocked over a plant, screaming and running ALL DAY (and is normally better behaved) he is independent in the bathroom and now I have to supervise ad he put an entire roll of paper towels in the toilet, unpumped all of the hand soap in two different incidents yesterday.

              I would like to discuss this with the Mother and tell her that if this continues, it would be grounds for immediate termination. Would you do this verbally? Both verbal and written? I am tempted to get a signature as this is a problem parent. I have been paid for next week, but not the following week. Money is not a huge concern for me, although I would like the final payment (12/14)
              When I give a term letter I include a claus that lets the parents know that all of the policies in my handbook are still in full affect and will be enforced - this includes my policy that violent or damaging (to my home, belonings, myself or other children in my home) behavior is ground for immediate termination without fee reimbursement.
              When a parent terminates, I have them sign a similar claus stating they agree and understand that all policies are still in affect and must be followed or I am entitled to term without notice, and without fee reimbursement.
              This helps eliminate the problem you are currently experiencing.

              It's too late for something like this now, and the money isn't an issue for you - I would simply terminate today - and reimburse. Chalk it up as a learning experience and ensure you have something in place to prevent a similar situation in the future!

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              • daycarediva
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jul 2012
                • 11698

                #8
                I will probably have to term them immediately. We are only up to morning snack and dcb is off the wall. It's going to be a lonnnngggg day.

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