The Tattle Tale What Do I Do

[Blackcat31]

I like BC's idea but I'd feel bad for the child that to hear it all day ::.

Our Complaint Department though has no idea the other kids are tattling....he just knows they are talking to him and he LOVES it!

[Scout]

Got this idea from a great provider friend, but we assigned one of our DCK's to be our "Complaint Department"

Our "Complaint Department" is 20 months old, LOVES to be talked to and definitely has an opinion and/or response to each complaint filed with him.

He is a wonderful addition to our staff.

Most the time tattling kids just want some one to listen to them or to have their feelings validated. Our "Complaint Department" serves that purpose perfectly.

Here are some other threads about tattling https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.php?tag=tattling

OMG...This actually made me ::::::::. I love it!

[Scout]

I don't have one but, I sure got a lot of great ideas!

[lovemykidstoo]

I love some of these ideas. I had my 2 yr old almost 3 yr old tell me yesterday that his dad puts his head in the toilet and flushes his head down it. I said, oh really, he really does that? He says, yup alllll the time LMAO!

[blandino]

I have taken to saying "who are you supposed to worry about ? - you" or "you worry about you, I will worry about everyone else". And really try and reidirate that if they are doing the correct thing - then that's all that is their business.

But I don't use this for tattling about hitting & taking toys, I use it for situations like "Johnny isn't using his spoon" or "Katie isnt staying in her spot for circle time".

For tattling, we have also used the bear approach. I drew a face on a posterboard, and we tattled to him. They then realized how useless And silly they sounded, and tattling definitely slowed down.

[melilley]

I walk them into the mirror and tell them that they have to tell him/her all about it but no one else will listen. About three times is average to curtail them.

Hahahaha This is a good one! I can't stop laughing, you made my day!::

[Neekie]

I posted some pictures of the children's parents on the wall at their height and in a place where the toddkers couldn't get at them. Then I told the tattlers to go talk to their mom or dad about it. It is hilarious! They stand there in front of those pictures and tell the whole drama with such expression and then they run off to play. So now that their parents are aware of the event, they don't have to listen to it either when they pick-up because the kids have already told them. One time I asked a child what his parents said to him in reponse. He siad, "They asked me what I did to ----first?" LOL

Oh, and I love all the cool ideas everyone has! Thanks for sharing!

[Unregistered]

OMG Too Funny! I had a tattletale girl in care for a few years and I was constantly telling her to talk to her friends, not to me and to work out her problems with them. When I asked her Mom about whether she did this tattling and narrating the day nonstop the Mom told me that the little girl told on the cat and dog at home. HELLO!? PARENTS!

[brookeroo]

I have a lot of frustration with this right now because I have 2 - 3 year olds. One is wearing out time out. It literally has no effect on him at all. He will go to the time out spot and cry to his hearts content but about 2 minutes after he is off the spot he is at it again. It's ALWAYS pushing, he has stopped hitting and kicking for the most part but it's still always pushing although he has thrown toys at the other kids recently. I am beyond frustrated with this kid. He knows it's wrong. He knows he's not supposed to. It is almost always when I am not in the room, making lunch or whatever. If I bring him in to sit down while I am cooking or doing what I need he drives me absolutely batty by snipering questions at me, asking me relentlessly for snacks even after I repeatedly tell him "no" and then of course the repeated ominous "WHY?!". You can't ignore it because he will continue to ask. You can't tell him because I said so, because he will continue to pester. The kid is driving me insane and he's just not getting it.

He actually is very smart. Which I think he knows what he's doing and he knows that it's driving me crazy. The other three year old has begun tattling on him for everything. They like to play together but because kid #1 doesn't play well it is a constant thing ALL.DAY.LONG. And then we have the younger ones that burst out crying...and as soon as I look over or round the corner he's running from them saying... "I didn't do it".

I am so on a thin line with this kid and his family....

[sharlan]

My just turned 3 yo has started tattling all day long. The baby this, the baby that. The other day, I was cleaning up lunch when she started with "the baby......." I told her to play toys before naptime. I go into the playroom to find TWO WHOLE containers of babywipes all over the carpet. I guess I should have listened to what the baby was doing.

Last week she started to get into whatever the babies were getting into like my lid drawer, my rag drawer, the cubbies with the babywipes, and spare clothes. She's decided that if they can do it and get away with it, so can she.