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I have a dcg who has been with me 10 months and her mom is always calling me about something. Anyway her mom called me about 20 minutes after pick-up asking me if the little girl had been in a fight with another dck or something? ummmmmm no she had not, the mom goes to say well she got a whelp on her face.:confused::confused: I'm telling you every little scratch this child gets the mom questions it. This girl is around kids all day long,to me the dcm act as if she be looking for something.
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I send home owie reports if they are hurt and it leaves a mark. Other than that I even have a part in my handbook about how a normal part of childhood is bumps and bruises. I had a dcb that from 9mo (cruising stage)-2 years he ALWAYS had a bruise on his forehead. ALWAYS. The first time it happened was at my house (he would fall and hold on with one hand, and swing down/smack his head) and Mom freaked. I really thought I was going to lose them over a pencil eraser tip sized bruise. THEN dcb came the next week with a MASSIVE egg on his head. END of nit picking.
I say, give it back to dcm. (way to be passive aggressive, I know). "Hey DCM noticed that dcg has a little scratch on her leg, it's about 1cm long. I applied a little neosporin. How did she cut it?"
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I also have a part in my handbook about bumps and bruises. She has let me know before that she "inspects" this child everyday before bringing her here. That's the exact word she used. This dcg is always got her hand on another dck when my back is turned. The dcg has came here several times with scratches or bruises on her and I do question her about it. It couldn't have been that noticeable because I do clean them up before leaving and I didn't see a bruise.....idk..... I guess she is just concerned.Comment
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I inspect each child at drop off.
i touch their heads to see if they are hot
i look at them the best that I can to see if there are any new owies.
if they are either, I will take a temp, ask questions if they gave meds or has child been running fever.
If I see marks, I will ask what happened.
At first diaper change, I will do full body inspection looking for anything I cant see when they first arrived.
If I do and it's ok to take a picture of that area, I will take a pic and send to the parent. If I know how it got there I will tell them so. If I do not, I will question it.
I always try to be one step ahead of the parents. I don't wait for them to ask me. Usually when I do this, it will shut those parents down like the one that you are talking aboutComment
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I have a DCG whose dad is just like this. DCD didn't want her in daycare and would interrogate her everyday to get the answer he wanted. He was looking for any excuse to pull her even though DCM wanted her with us. I finally had to call him out on this and it stopped for a while. She started up again a few weeks ago and I have to go through this all over again.Comment
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owie reports!!:I send home owie reports if they are hurt and it leaves a mark. Other than that I even have a part in my handbook about how a normal part of childhood is bumps and bruises. I had a dcb that from 9mo (cruising stage)-2 years he ALWAYS had a bruise on his forehead. ALWAYS. The first time it happened was at my house (he would fall and hold on with one hand, and swing down/smack his head) and Mom freaked. I really thought I was going to lose them over a pencil eraser tip sized bruise. THEN dcb came the next week with a MASSIVE egg on his head. END of nit picking.
I say, give it back to dcm. (way to be passive aggressive, I know). "Hey DCM noticed that dcg has a little scratch on her leg, it's about 1cm long. I applied a little neosporin. How did she cut it?"
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Geez. Good thing that's not my dcm! Her son got a bloody nose yesterday after slipping when he and ds were playing in the water in the bathroom! I am so shocked that I didn't freak when he came running to me with a bloody nose! I wiped it, put ice on it & into time out they both went. She barely batted an eye. She asked why he was playing in the water...I doubt they will do that again! Did not think I had to supervise hand washing with 3-4s
Now this is not to say that I didn't worry all night about his nose! I sent her an email and got no reply which, of course, makes me nervous! They should be here in a minute though so we shall see. She seems really down to earth though.
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I have some moms who are great and don't bat and eyelash and then I had this mom who babied her kid. Well, after telling her numourus times that her 4 yr old keeps picking his nose like crazy he ended up with a bloody nose. Dh was home at the time. She started asking how he hurt himself and blah blah, and when he started to cry she assumed he was afraid to tell me. Well, I had enough and went at her and told her again that his excessive nose picking (and wiping it all over the place including my furniture) she left abruptly and never said anything again.Comment
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I allow my dcks to play. And they play hard! I am lucky to have understanding parents who have the same philosophy that I do, that children learn by doing. Doing, means that sometimes, you fall when climbing the ladder on the play set, or running fast in the grass with your friends. I couldnt keep a child like that in my care, only because they all play so hard that I would be way too stressed out, and that would affect the dynamic of the group.
I like daycare's inspection idea. I suppose it is necessary these days with all of the paranoia out there.
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Well just as thought dcm didn't bring dcg this morning. This is not the first time this has happened. A few months ago dcg had started a hitting match with a dcb over a book and resulted with dcg being hit in the face, when I told the mom about the incident she was highly upset and didn't bring the child the next day. All I can say is kids are gonna be kids, do I allow them to hurt one another here...no I do not! Am I gonna stop them from playing and having fun because they may get scratched up or bruised up...no I am not!Comment
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I allow my dcks to play. And they play hard! I am lucky to have understanding parents who have the same philosophy that I do, that children learn by doing. Doing, means that sometimes, you fall when climbing the ladder on the play set, or running fast in the grass with your friends. I couldnt keep a child like that in my care, only because they all play so hard that I would be way too stressed out, and that would affect the dynamic of the group.
I like daycare's inspection idea. I suppose it is necessary these days with all of the paranoia out there.
this is the same way I feel
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That is such a lousy feeling! I have had parents call me and question a scrape, bump, etc. Even if I know I did nothing wrong, I always get an uneasy feeling. And I can imagine her not showing up the next day just adds to the stress of it all. No matter how many prescautions you have in place, toddlers and kids are going to get into bodily scuffles, bangs, falls, etc.
I don't have anything in my handbook about bumps and bruises. I think a revision is in order!Comment
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I had a new baby start and he has very nervous, first time parents! He was here maybe 3 days (12 weeks old) when I noticed a TINY scratch on his cheek near his nose. It already had a fine scab over it, so I knew it wasn't super fresh.. I just hadn't noticed it when he came in bc babies scratch themselves and i guess after 20 years doing this, it didn't seem like a big deal. Well... Of course I got a phone call 1/2 hour after pick up about the scratch! Babies have fingernails, they need to be trimmed or they will do this. I told the dad that I had noticed it too and that he probably needs his nails trimmed. What do ya know, the next day he came and his finger nails were NOT trimmed and were like razors! I promptly pointed this out, to make sure the heat was off me!
The reason I felt I had to do this is bc when they were interviewing they were reluctant bc I also watch an 18 month old and they were afraid she would hurt their baby (from an experience with a friends 18mo). Glad I got the chance to clear it up!Comment
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Ha! Guess who just showed up???? They dcg with the whelp on her face, so as they entered I checked the dcg out and then asked mom where is the whelp? O it's gone, she just had a long scratch across her face, but it's gone now, it wasn't nothing....well if it wasn't nothing why did you call me about it??
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