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[Unregistered]

So I have a dcb that I have had for 3 of his almost 4 years, and his big sib/SA. Longer hours-earlier drop off- for less pay -5/day because I was an idiot and never raised their rates when I upped my rates for incoming/new clients.

Dcb's behavior has been out of control lately. He is spitting, hitting, throwing dirt out of plants, hitting our dog, licking people, potty mouth (poo/peep words), etc. lately and NEVER behaved this way before. The big sister and he are ridiculously affectionate, it borders on really weird. She is going to age out soon/this summer because I am not taking SA kids for summers.

I am honest about dcb's behaviors to Mom and she is blaming me, essentially. Tonight she said 'He never behaves that way when I am around.", and then DCB repeated the EXACT behavior. A few other dcf's saw this behavior (pretty bad) as well.

Since dcb has been acting up in front of other dcf's, the parents have begun commenting on it. I repeat that it's being addressed and that I have it in control.

I am torn between sticking it out until this summer. Pretty sure that when I give DCM notice about no SA she will pull both kids.

or replacing just dcb, which I can easily do. Difference is a SA loss of income, which I fully plan to reduce anyway.

[Blackcat31]

Personally, the minute DCM started pointing the finger AT me and not trying to work WITH me to figure out the root of the issue and a way to solve the problem I would have termed.

I can't and won't work with parents who blame rather than address and work on things.

[cheerfuldom]

I would term. The longer the other families see this behavior, the more it is clear that you dont have it under control, regardless of what you are saying to them. plus with the aggressive behavior, it is just a matter of time before someone gets hurt. you already know that mom will do nothing but blame you and that this kid is escalating. time to jump ship and let them go. replace them now.

[daycarediva]

I am the OP. The issue is now resolved so I feel comfortable with my screen name on the post. I did term, I gave two weeks notice and let her know that the cost of continually replacing things was out weighing the desire to keep them and she seemed understanding.

[countrymom]

good for you. I had one like this too. That behavior never ever happened at home only at my house. Amazing when the trouble maker left the kids are so good. I also find that I'm not as stressed like before.

[daycarediva]

And my position is already filled with a kid on my waiting list. I emailed the first one and she is coming Saturday to sign paperwork and new dcg will start 1/3 after the holidays.