Terming an acquaintance?

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  • JustMe
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2012
    • 41

    Terming an acquaintance?

    I am so tired of this family. Their child (an infant) wants to be held all day, won't take a bottle, and cries a lot. Their other child is part time and is mean to the other kids, and has lied about things here. Like, this child claimed that they got a cut on their face here during an activity, when he had not been around anything sharp. DC Mom asked me about it a week later, and I had no idea anything had even happened, but I know nothing happened here - I mean, I'm sure this kid would have said something at the time... Previously they tried to blame me for a giant bump on the same kid's head, but luckily I had pictures from days before proving it had been there for some time. DC Mom is very defensive about older child (never does anything wrong ) and doesn't seem to entirely trust me. She also treats me like I am stupid, frequently telling me things I already know regarding childcare. DC Mom is type A and very controlling, which I can't stand. There is just so much I can't stand...

    Also, they are the type that will keep their kids here as much as possible. Even when they are not at work, their kids are here, frequently past the 9 hour mark that my daily rate is good up to - they are supposed to pay extra after that. Of course they never do. They always pay on time, but never pay quite what they should have paid... I know this is my fault, too.

    I really want them gone. Despite the stuff above, I think they like us as their provider, and they definitely want to keep using us. For one, we are very cheap. Being new at this, I did not perhaps charge as much as I should have, because I didn't anticipate people abusing my rates. But if they are gone it will be so much easier on me, stress wise, hours wise, etc.

    They are acquaintances. I see them frequently and don't know how to term them because of this. So do I redo my contract, raising my rates significantly and otherwise making things a lot stricter, so that they drop me? One thing I am considering is taking an extra day off per week, because one day per week I only have one of their kids and I work all day long for about $1.50 per hour... it really ****s. Or should I just term them. Say it's not working, and be done with it.

    What would you do?
  • MarinaVanessa
    Family Childcare Home
    • Jan 2010
    • 7211

    #2
    If you raise your rates and take an extra day off and they decide to stay with you anyway will you be okay with that? Really think about that. Who knows, getting paid more and having an extra day off might just make dealing with her personality worth your while but if you think that you'll be miserable even with the added compensation then I would deffinetely term.

    Personally if I thought that I could handle her personality but wanted to at least be compensated adequately for my services I'd go ahead and make the changes that I wanted. If they decided to stay at least I was getting paid enough now and dealing with type A mom would at least make me feel that much better about it, if they decided not to sign my new contract with the updated changes well at least it wouldn't be any skin off my back KWIM. But that's just me.

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    • Blackcat31
      • Oct 2010
      • 36124

      #3
      Honestly I would simply say that things are not working out. Tell them the difficulties you are having with their infant and that you just think you are not the right fit for the care the baby needs.

      I know it isn't true necessarily but just tell them you are finding that the baby's needs are just more than you can deal with when you have other kids in care that also need attention.

      Sometimes taking "the blame" helps alot.

      I wouldn't give them any other options other than the last day you are willing to provide care for their children. Say something like;

      Dear DCP

      This letter is notification of my intent to discontinue our child care agreement/contract.

      At this time, I feel that I am not able to provide to little Johnny the care he needs and feel that it would be in his best interest to terminate our current contract.

      The last day I will provide care for your children is December xx, 2012.

      I have also included the number to the local Child Care Resource & Referral office to assist you in your search for new care arrangements.

      Please understand that this was business decision and that I must always do what is best for the group as a whole.

      Thank you,

      Provider.

      Keeping it short and sweet is always best IMO when it comes to friendly or aquaintance type situations.

      If you give too many details, it only opens the door to more questions and then who knows what else. Sounds like you are more than ready for this family to be gone.

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