Should I keep checking daily?

[EchoMom]

I have a new DCG, been with me only about a month. DCD drops her off and DCM picks her up (dating couple, seperate homes). Her contract is for a 9am drop off and she used to come about that time when mom was doing drop offs. But all this week she's been arriving later and later at 10:30, 11, it's almost noon now and she's still not here. No text, no call.

I texted the parents on Mon, Tues, and Wed to make sure all was ok (makes me worry when they just don't show up or are hours late!) and each day he said oh they're just running late and they'll be over sometime later.

DCG gets picked up at 2:45 so she's barely here! Just to eat lunch and have a nap. She cries almost the whole time because she has no time to play with the kids and make friends or spend time doing activities so she's not warming up to us very much.

I hate to keep texting every day I don't want to be a nag. But I'm also annoyed not knowing when/if they're going to show up.

Should I keep asking everyday? I don't want to run them off.

[MarinaVanessa]

I would address it. Just let her know that at any time they are running or going to run late they need to let you know and that they need to give you a specific drop-off time. If they don't arrive after 15 minutes of their drop-off time without notice then they should know that you'll consider them as not coming for the day. Time to nip it in the bud.

If you don't want to risk them leaving then you can always accept that they'll drop off whenever they're ready to. I know that for many DCP this would be a dream. DCM is spending time with their child when they have a chance instead of dropping off at DC even when they're not busy.

[daycarediva]

You could always say something like "Dcm I know that you love spending time with dcg but I think it's best for dcg if she is dropped off around the same time each day so that she has consistency in her schedule and she gets a change to adjust to being here and has a chance to make friends. If you would like to set up a different drop off schedule for the time being, please let me know in advance as a courtesy so that we aren't waiting for dcg to start our day."