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I am in desperate need of advice. I have 2 little boys in my care who are cousins. They are 9 months apart in age (3 and 4 at the moment), and both come 5 days a week. They ride together on arrival and departure. Their dads rotate bringing them and picking them up each day.
Here's the problem...they CONSTANTLY fight. The dads don't care. They both say at least they are fighting each other and not other kids...Umm, yeah, but don't ya think other kids watch them and do what they do?! The youngest one is the toughest..He pushes his older cousin, throws toys at him, hits him, pulls on him, ANYTHING he can do. They do these things before anyone can ever see a sign of anger from them. The oldest boy has been going home every day with a new bruise where his cousin is fighting him, and the dads always say it's okay. We don't think it's okay..They go straight to time-out EVERY SINGLE TIME it happens. I have even started making them hug for extended periods of time, just hoping they'll get tired of it and quit hurting each other!!!
I was on vacation last week, so my two assistants and my mother were covering the daycare for me. I got a text from the oldest boy's mom wanting to know why her kid was coming home with so many bruises. I told her they had been fighting, and SHE HAD NO IDEA, so was thankful I had told her that info. Then, the next day she sent me another text and said he had another bruise and people were starting to ask her where they came from, like she did it. I don't know what to do??? I have separated the boys, put them in time-out, made them play alone, and nothing is stopping them. Even when they play alone they end up throwing something to hit the other kid, or sneak to the other one when someone turns to another kid for 2 seconds. It's like they can't get enough of each other, but yet they fight every time they are around each other. What can I do to stop it??? I am going to start writing down every single time either boy falls, gets hit, hits, or fights. I'm so tired of this. They are both otherwise awesome kids. They never whine, never cry, are great eaters, awesome nappers, and both families pay perfectly. HELP, please!!
Here's the problem...they CONSTANTLY fight. The dads don't care. They both say at least they are fighting each other and not other kids...Umm, yeah, but don't ya think other kids watch them and do what they do?! The youngest one is the toughest..He pushes his older cousin, throws toys at him, hits him, pulls on him, ANYTHING he can do. They do these things before anyone can ever see a sign of anger from them. The oldest boy has been going home every day with a new bruise where his cousin is fighting him, and the dads always say it's okay. We don't think it's okay..They go straight to time-out EVERY SINGLE TIME it happens. I have even started making them hug for extended periods of time, just hoping they'll get tired of it and quit hurting each other!!!
I was on vacation last week, so my two assistants and my mother were covering the daycare for me. I got a text from the oldest boy's mom wanting to know why her kid was coming home with so many bruises. I told her they had been fighting, and SHE HAD NO IDEA, so was thankful I had told her that info. Then, the next day she sent me another text and said he had another bruise and people were starting to ask her where they came from, like she did it. I don't know what to do??? I have separated the boys, put them in time-out, made them play alone, and nothing is stopping them. Even when they play alone they end up throwing something to hit the other kid, or sneak to the other one when someone turns to another kid for 2 seconds. It's like they can't get enough of each other, but yet they fight every time they are around each other. What can I do to stop it??? I am going to start writing down every single time either boy falls, gets hit, hits, or fights. I'm so tired of this. They are both otherwise awesome kids. They never whine, never cry, are great eaters, awesome nappers, and both families pay perfectly. HELP, please!!
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