Little VEnt about Flu Shots

[bunnyslippers]

So sweet baby dcg gets dropped off this morning. She is crying like a banshee (not that unusual, as her parents hold her non-stop). DCD says, "Oh, she is really tired today. You will probably have to hold her more than usual." I respond, "She got a flu shot yesterday, right? She probably feels lousy." He responds, "I don't think so. She just needs some extra love."

OK, so here's the thing. I know she feels lousy from her shot. I also know her grandparents live up the road and are more than willing to take her. I am FINE with her being here, I have dealt with crankier babies. I just don't understand WHY they would send her, knowing she feels awful, to a place with one adult and six kids, when there is another option available.

I know they paid for today. I know I could turn them away or write a policy about immunizations. I just truly don't know why a parent would knowingly put their child somewhere less than ideal when they aren't feeling well. Why don't they care about the comfort of their child? Is everything about convenience and money?!??!

I am just disheartened at the breakdown of core family values and priorities. It is so disappointing and sad.

[Holiday Park]

Maybe the relative is not some one who they feel she should be sround that often. Just because there are blood related people willing to help doesn't mean those people are suitable enough to always take them up on their offers. A loy f times a relative ( gramdparents/aunts/uncles/cousins .. Etc) are toxic to be around or less healthy for the child emotionally and mentally.

[cheerfuldom]

they only have to deal with the crying for a few minutes and then its out of sight, out of mind. i know thats sad but that is the way a lot of parents feel. they are not thinking about the fact that you have six kids. they are thinking that they pay you to take care of their baby and if you have to hold her all day, so be it...that is what they pay you for. they are not thinking that realistically, you cannot hold her all day.

[EchoMom]

Take it as their trust and confidence in you. Obviously they think that you can handle 6 kids and that you ARE an ideal place to leave their child. That's what you WANT them to think right, and that's what should be true right? So don't be upset that they're trusting you to take care of their baby with 5 other kids because that's what you want and depend on otherwise you wouldn't have them at all.

Not scolding, I totally see your point and have struggled with the same frustration, but that's the conclusion I came to.

[bunnyslippers]

Take it as their trust and confidence in you. Obviously they think that you can handle 6 kids and that you ARE an ideal place to leave their child. That's what you WANT them to think right, and that's what should be true right? So don't be upset that they're trusting you to take care of their baby with 5 other kids because that's what you want and depend on otherwise you wouldn't have them at all.

Not scolding, I totally see your point and have struggled with the same frustration, but that's the conclusion I came to.

I agree, and you are right. I love this family...I just get sad when I think of how easy it is for parents to just turn over their littles without a second thought. THe grandparents are VERY present in their lives, and take the children ALL THE TIME, even over weekends. I just can't imagine leaving my babies with anyone when they feel sick.

Just venting, and I can handle having her here. I just am saddened by the way of the world! Sigh...

[EchoMom]

I agree, and you are right. I love this family...I just get sad when I think of how easy it is for parents to just turn over their littles without a second thought. THe grandparents are VERY present in their lives, and take the children ALL THE TIME, even over weekends. I just can't imagine leaving my babies with anyone when they feel sick.

Just venting, and I can handle having her here. I just am saddened by the way of the world! Sigh...

I agree, it's hard for me too to think of leaving my baby somewhere not feeling well. But like you say "I just can't imagine leaving my babies with anyone when they feel sick..." That's the whole difference. For example, I just can't imagine leaving my baby with anyone, ever! So THAT is one huge reason why I made my business to stay home with him because I just literally COULDN'T and WOULDN'T. But that's why you are the daycare provider and they are the daycare user, there is a huge fundamental difference and you can't think of it from your own mind. You have to put on the brain of someone who sends their child to home daycare.

That's what I've learned at least.

[daycaremum]

I agree with the other poster that talked about just because they have a blood relative doesn't necessarily mean they are going to send their child there. My own mother would not look after my baby because she was a little tired and needing snuggles. My mother is older and enjoys shorter visits with the children and would help me in an emergency for a full day.
My children have always gotten the flu shot, and never felt tired or sick after. Perhaps this little one is simply tired. Just because dad says she'll need extra hugs doesn't means she actually will. I know some people have a policy of dck's not coming for so long a period after a vaccination, so if it bothers you maybe you should implement this.

[bunnyslippers]

I know the grandparents very well, and know they would have taken her. I also know she felt icky, as her mood was completely different than usual.

My issue was just that I felt badly for the little pumpkin. She wanted to be home snuggling, and she could have been.