DCM is Setting Herself Up for Disaster!

[Lilbutterflie]

I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.

I have a 4 yo DCB who goes commando EVERY day. I don't really understand it and at first I was put off by it; but it hasn't really been an issue at all. He never has any potty accidents, and he is modest so none of the other kids even know that he doesn't wear underwear.

I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.

[countrymom]

I have a mom who does this, she would bring her 3 yr old in pj's. So after sleeping in them all night and wearing them all day they would go back to bed in the same jammies--talk about germs gross. Her other child (he's 7) answers the door in his underware not boxers either. And if they want comfort for their kids they sell sweatpants too.

[countrymom]

I have a 4 yo DCB who goes commando EVERY day. I don't really understand it and at first I was put off by it; but it hasn't really been an issue at all. He never has any potty accidents, and he is modest so none of the other kids even know that he doesn't wear underwear.

I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.

so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this::

[Lilbutterflie]

so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this::

LOL!!!

I have never seen him wear anything but athletic pants or sweat pants. He will be starting kindy next year though and the school does not allow athletic or sweat pants to be worn. I figure it's the parents responsibility to figure that out when the time comes!! But yeah, a boy should not go commando if they are wearing something with a zipper! OUCH!

[daycare]

I have to chime in on the commando thing....sorry to hijack

My son is now 5 and he always hated wearing underwear. He refused to wear them...

Well about 4 months ago, we were getting ready for some family photo and I put him in jeans.... Well lets just say have you seen the movie something about Mary??? LOL
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He wears underwear now....

[melilley]

I have to chime in on the commando thing....sorry to hijack

My son is now 5 and he always hated wearing underwear. He refused to wear them...

Well about 4 months ago, we were getting ready for some family photo and I put him in jeans.... Well lets just say have you seen the movie something about Mary??? LOL
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He wears underwear now....

Sorry, but LOL!!!!::

[crazydaycarelady]

I have seen young adults go to job interviews in their just slept in sleep clothes and messy hair, I see grown people everyday walking around the mall/stores in pj pants with all sorts of cartoon characters in them, young women in clothing that would have gotten me thrown out of school, church and my home, I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class.....

THIS is exactly why I want dcg to know that you can't ALWAYS wear your jammies. Sometimes clothes are not an option.

also, if I go out with the littles I expect them to look presentable because they are representing my daycare.

I feel this way too! I would NEVER take this child out in public in her condition because I feel it woulde be a bad reflection on me (and my business.)

As far as dressing myself for daycare - I am on the floor, up and down, wiped on, snotted on, cried on, spit up on, so I usually wear black yoga pants and a clean t-shirt, WITH underwear and socks. I feel this is appropriate for the job I do. I change if I go out in public or have a dc interview and I would never weat flannel or printed pj bottoms duyring work hours.

[daycarediva]

I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.

THIS happened to me with a DCF. They are my first arrival so I told dcm to go ahead and leave grumpy dcb in pj's. Well, then he would stay in pj's (too small, mis-matched and dirty from sleeping in ALL DAY... sooo, I had to specify to bring a change of clothes. Yes, this kiddo now gets dressed at my house in the AM, but he has come the next day in the same clothes! GROSS!


I REQUEST that all the kids wear comfy clothes. Cotton pants, fleece, sweats, don't care but I KNOW jeans aren't comfortable for me to roll around in (and nap in jeans? Not comfy! I feel bad and usually take them off and swap for sweats out of my stash) I also have to say, jeans are NOT warm for going outside and my dcb who wears jeans every day is ALWAYS saying his legs are cold AND he unbuttons his jeans to play indoors.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I acutally don't mind getting her dressed but dcm does not bring clothes for her. It is dcms intention for her to stay in jammies, no underwear, and no socks for the whole day. Yesterday I used her spare outfit for clothes.

I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.

P.S. Blackcat - I AM wearing yoga pants! LOL

Ehhh ... a lot of people hang out commando. My husband used to, but recently stopped. I have several friends that do as well who are adults.

[laundrymom]

I don't dress them. Lol how they come is how they leave. And seriously DYING LAUGHING about commando!!!!!!

[Crystal]

Oh, I hear you (and I agree) but in today's world rolling out of bed IS ready and awake. ::::


I have seen young adults go to job interviews in their just slept in sleep clothes and messy hair, I see grown people everyday walking around the mall/stores in pj pants with all sorts of cartoon characters in them, young women in clothing that would have gotten me thrown out of school, church and my home, I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class..... ::

Anyways, I guess my point was, that we all have different expectations of what is and isn't proper clothing and as long as a child is clean, I don't really care if they wear pj's (even fresh from sleeping) or anything else as long as it is safe and comfortable for them.

Re; the bolded part above.....maybe you see this because they were not taught by their parents or child care providers that it is appropriate to get up, wash up and change into proper attire for the day. just sayin'

Except the yoga pants part....I don't wear them except to work out in, but I see absolutley nothing wrong with them for day wear. I think they are quite cute, actually

[Crystal]

so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this::

I am seriously ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PECKER!!!!! I haven't heard that word in ages!!!! Thanks for my laugh of the day!!!!!!!

[Blackcat31]

Re; the bolded part above.....maybe you see this because they were not taught by their parents or child care providers that it is appropriate to get up, wash up and change into proper attire for the day. just sayin'

VERY good point... ::

Except the yoga pants part....I don't wear them except to work out in, but I see absolutley nothing wrong with them for day wear. I think they are quite cute, actually

Our school district recently sent home a notice to all parents saying that yoga pants will no longer be considered acceptable. Not really sure why, just had several of my DCM's who are teachers tell me the girls are no longer allowed to wear them. They can wear leggings IF there is something covering their rear ends.

Again, not sure what their line of thinking is/isn't but it has supposedly been an issue so they are no longer allowed.

I also have to agree that yoga pants are REALLY REALLY comfy but I just can't bring myself to wear them in public. It feels weird. :confused:

[littlemissmuffet]

I may have contributed to this unfortunately. Dcm has a long drive so I told her that she could bring dcg in pjs. I assumed she would also bring clothes so I could change her later.

Anyway, she brings her 2yo child everyday in pajamas, no underwear, shoes but no socks, and hair in a messy tangle. My contract does say that kids need to be ready for the day and technically she is ready, just not presentable. Dcm brings her this way to avoid a fight with her. Does dcm not realize how she is settng herself up for later?

Yesterday to prove a point I made dcgirl get dressed with underwear, put on her shoes with socks, and we combed her hair. Of course she didn't like it but I did not give her a choice. I understand the whole "pick your battles" thing but doesn't socks and underwear seem like something that is a given, not a choice?

I honestly don't care how long a parent has to drive or what time they have to wake up, etc - it's a parent's responsibility to dress and get their child ready each morning. There are plenty of parents and children who have to get up much earlier than the average bear and survive just fine by adjusting to an earlier bed time Children need to come dressed and ready for the day!

As for the no undies, that's completely inappropriate and I would send back home with child to get some! It would probably never happen again if this parent has as long of a drive as you day.

[spud912]

I think it is funny how so many providers require the DCK's to come dressed but yet, they themselves wear yoga pants and/or sweatpants for comfort and easy moveability.

Aren't PJ's the most comfortable thing a kid could wear? I guess I don't understand why they HAVE to wear something other than pajama's when they are just kids.

Plus, if you walk into any mall or store these days, more than half the population of people (including adults) are wearing pajama pants or yoga pants so I don't see how kids are suppose to be any different when adults don't seem to care any more.

I don't care what my DCK's wear for clothing provided it is clean, the right size and doesn't pose a safety risk to them or the other kids.

fwiw~ OP, I NOT saying you or any other poster in this thread wears only yoga pants or sweatpants .....I was just adding my 2 cents about the topic in general.

I don't care what the kids wear as long as the clothing is clean (as in it wasn't worn all night and now the day too), they can easily be changed or go potty, it doesn't obstruct their ability to play, the parents are ok with it getting messy and it's weather-appropriate. I've had kids wear everything from pj's to costumes (and it's not Halloween) and I really don't care as long as it meets my above requirements.

As far as I go, I dress based on how I feel that day. Bloated and yucky = skirts and pants with elastic waists (although they do look appropriate IMO...like wide leg black pants, long cotton skirts, linen pants with a rollover waist, etc.). Feeling good about myself and/or we are going in public = jeans. Either way, I wear nice tops (not T-shirts) and make-up all the time because I look like a wreck otherwise. My hair is another story...it's either a pony tail or air-dried. I don't like using heat on my hair unless I want to look really nice.