Is It Worth Bringing Up?

[Blackcat31]

I wouldn't at all be surprised if you don't get notice from them in the next couple days.

Since it was important to you to call her out for lying, then you definitely stood your ground and did what you needed to do.

[littlemissmuffet]

So I had a missed call from DCM and I call her back.

I think the dye from getting her hair colored my have fogged up her brain..

READY................she asked me if I could keep DCB until closing, because she wanted to get to costco and she just barley got done with her hair appointment...

I almost laughed...

SO I said...You know sue, I am a really easy going flexible person when people respect my rules and policies. I just have to be honest with you and ask you why you have not been honest with me about your time off from work. I know it's not really any of my business what decisions you make for you and your family, but I am just feeling really hurt that you have not been honest with me.

She says what do you mean..

So I told her...you just told me that you didn't have any more time off of work, but today you are able to go out and get your hair done and etc., again not my business. The only reason why I am saying anything at all, is becuase I have DCB best interest at heart and I just don't understand why you would take a day off to get your personal stuff done when you could have taken time off so that dcb could be well. (he is still not 100% btw)

Then dead silence.................I hear frogs, crickets and spiders crawling........

So she says, I guess you aren't willing to keep him until closing then huh and I said NO, sorry. I can't help you if you can't be honest with me. I feel that I am owed at least that.

She said sorry you feel that way, did not even try to explain herself or cover it up.....

DCD calls and says oh I will be over at normal time to pick up DCB....

LOL
UUUGGGHHHH

I bet you they will go elsewhere. But... I think deep down, you kinda wanted that. So keep us in the loop of what happens from here!

[daycare]

I wouldn't at all be surprised if you don't get notice from them in the next couple days.

Since it was important to you to call her out for lying, then you definitely stood your ground and did what you needed to do.

seriously BC you know how done with this family I am....I think I am just nit picking to find a reason for them to term right now...

If they did it would be a great christmas present for me....

Well, I don't know if they are, because they already paid me for next month.....we shall see..............

But I feel better now....

[allsmiles]

hahaha.. im over here ROLLING.. she was SPEECHLESS.. you know she talking about you right?? OHHHH WELLLLLLLL.. sometimes you just wanna give these ppl a reason to hit the road, so be it!!!

[daycare]

hahaha.. im over here ROLLING.. she was SPEECHLESS.. you know she talking about you right?? OHHHH WELLLLLLLL.. sometimes you just wanna give these ppl a reason to hit the road, so be it!!!

exactly........................one can only hope right

[lovemykidstoo]

I bet you feel like you've had a weight taken off your chest. Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do. Alot of people thought maybe you should have not done that, but you know your heart and your heart was saying to call her out on it. You know I was thinking through this whole thread that we call kids out on lying and they're just kids. Why not adults? Why shouldn't she have been called out on it?

[lovemykidstoo]

The same rule goes when people say why does a child do a certain type of behavior and you say, because they can. They're never corrected. Why does she continue to lie? Because she can. Probably noone has ever called her out on it.

[lovemykidstoo]

Curious to see what the husband says when he picks up.

[daycare]

Curious to see what the husband says when he picks up.

you and me both...
I do agree with what you are saying..

Of course the issue with DCM goes A lot deeper than just what I have talked about here in this thread and I am just over it...done, finished, complete....I am checking out...

I don't care if she continues to lie or not, I just want her to know that I am on to her and now she knows..........

The worst part, is that her husand is the one who always throws her under the bus telling me she is lying about what she is saying. I asked him several months ago why does she lie to me about all this silly stuff and he said he thinks because she is embarrassed that she can't do it herself....................

[Unregistered]

Jpppnq

Question? Why nit-pick? If a family isn't working out, why not term before it gets to this point?

[lovemykidstoo]

Sounds like he's tired of her crap too!

Just noticed that you're in California. So, it's what time there right now about 3:30? It's 6:30 here in Michigan.

[daycare]

Sounds like he's tired of her crap too!

Just noticed that you're in California. So, it's what time there right now about 3:30? It's 6:30 here in Michigan.

yes 3 hour time difference...

Yeah I think DCD and I might be in the same boat..... The DCM wears the pants and she makes sure that eveyone knows it too..

Kind of like that other thread about the crazy DCMs..... this mom would qualify as one...

[lovemykidstoo]

yes 3 hour time difference...

Yeah I think DCD and I might be in the same boat..... The DCM wears the pants and she makes sure that eveyone knows it too..

Kind of like that other thread about the crazy DCMs..... this mom would qualify as one...

I guess the best thing you can do now that she knows you know her deal is stick to the books and do not do her any more favors. Business hours only, payment on time etc. She may want to term you, but I have a feeling that dcd won't allow it because he knows how she is.

[daycare]

I guess the best thing you can do now that she knows you know her deal is stick to the books and do not do her any more favors. Business hours only, payment on time etc. She may want to term you, but I have a feeling that dcd won't allow it because he knows how she is.

DCK just got picked up...

I talked to DCD about the issue.... He didn't say anything at first and asked how was DCB day. I said it was really good. He went on to tell me so I heard you called the wife on her BS. I looked at him and said, is that what you call it????


He said that she does that to him too. She will buy a purse for $4-500 bucks and then tell him she got it for $100.00, when he finds the receipt or the credit card statement, she just won't answer him.

He laughed and said you can't live with her and you can't live without her. He said I just never take her serious anymore and I understand if you don't either. He said he was sorry for any troubles and then gave me a big fat hug and said happy holidays.... an awkward one.....

[Lyss]

I wouldn't at all be surprised if you don't get notice from them in the next couple days.

Since it was important to you to call her out for lying, then you definitely stood your ground and did what you needed to do.

I'd be expecting notice in the next few days as well, but as you said that would be a Merry Chirstmas to you then it wouldn't be a bad thing!! :: You felt you needed to deal with it and kudos for doing what you think is right.

I have a DCM that lies about this same thing all the time and its annoying but I just roll my eyes and tell DH the latest "story" after she leaves. this DCM always forgets what she's told me! "Oh DCB got exposed to something but if he gets it I can't stay home, I have no time off left this month! I just don't know what I'll do!" too bad because he can't come sick, then next week (same month) DCB isn't here because "grandpa is in town and watching him" but then right after that I hear "yeah well when i took last week off and were @ my friends beach house last week blah blah blah" wait? I though gpa was in town...

seriously BC you know how done with this family I am....I think I am just nit picking to find a reason for them to term right now...

If they did it would be a great christmas present for me....

Well, I don't know if they are, because they already paid me for next month.....we shall see..............

But I feel better now....

update on how pick up goes! I'm guessing uneventful if DCM is the authority in the house!