Potty training help!!!

[mbullette]

I have a 2 year old girl that started 2 months ago. When she started her parents told me that she is fully potty trained. She comes in underwear but she never will use the potty for me. I take her every 30 mins and sit her on the potty and she does nothing. She has accidents all the time and I have other kids that I watch. I feel its really unsanitary but the parents will not allow her to wear pull ups or diapers. I have talked to them about this a number of times and tell them she will not use the potty for me. I have tried the regular potty and also a potty chair. The parents want her to be older than she really is and I feel she is not ready.
Has anyone experienced this and any suggestions would be nice. I have no other problems with the little girl or the parents. She is great but the potty training issue is getting old.

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Blackcat31]

If she is having accidents on a regular basis then she is NOT potty trained.

I would absolutely REQUIRE that she has Pull-ups, plastic pants over her undies or diapers until she IS totally toilet trained. If they refuse, then you have a couple options;

• Term
• Call and have them pick her up EVERY.SINGLE.TIME she has an accient
• Bill them for the carpet cleaning EVERY.SINGLE.TIME she has an accient
• Buy Pull-ups/diapers yourself and bill parents
• Buy Pull-ups/diapers yourself and simply write it off
• Not say anything and continue doing things like you have been.

I am sorry, I can't offer anything besides those options.

I get that it is hard to talk to parents about this and it is even harder to do stand your ground so that you aren't continually having to clean it up but things are only a problem as long as YOU let them be.

This is your home, your business and your carpet. It is going to keep happening until you make a choice about what you want to do about it.

Sorry you are in this situation. It IS hard..... (((hugs)))

[blandino]

We had almost this exact situation. Luckily DCG had a younger sister, so we put her in sister's diapers. It was about 5 months (a month before DCG's 3rd birthday) that the accidents stopped. Each day mom sent her in panties, despite the fact that she NEVER used the toilet at daycare.

I wouldn't tolerate it again. In our contract it states that more than two accidents in two weeks, means a child needs to go back to training pants.

They are showing no respect for you, by allowing her to pee everywhere. The child is clearly not potty trained. I would tell them she has to be in pull-ups. A compromise would be training pants with plastic liners. They would need to send enough for a day, and you could just send them all home dirty. But at least in their mind she wouldn't be in a diaper.

[Unregistered]

I have a 2 year old girl that started 2 months ago. When she started her parents told me that she is fully potty trained. She comes in underwear but she never will use the potty for me. I take her every 30 mins and sit her on the potty and she does nothing. She has accidents all the time and I have other kids that I watch. I feel its really unsanitary but the parents will not allow her to wear pull ups or diapers. I have talked to them about this a number of times and tell them she will not use the potty for me. I have tried the regular potty and also a potty chair. The parents want her to be older than she really is and I feel she is not ready.
Has anyone experienced this and any suggestions would be nice. I have no other problems with the little girl or the parents. She is great but the potty training issue is getting old.

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She maybe potty trained but not comfortable at your house yet to use the potty, maybe she is shy about it, maybe she is having a hard time adjusting to daycare etc. I would try working with her a little longer taking her potty every hour giving her lots of praise for using it and when she has an accident tell her big girls dont pee or poop in there undies if it doesnt work then you will have to have a meeting with the parents to talk about what to do next. I would not term over something like that.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Absolutely tell them that she cannot come back unless she has Pull-Ups on. Tell them that according to your state you cannot have feces and urine on the floor because the other children could come into contact with them. "Sorry! It's unsanitary and unhealthy!"

[itlw8]

I agree with the parents about not putting her back into diapers or pull ups.

I also agree she can not be making messes in the house. They need to provide very thick training pants and waterproof covers to keep everything dry.

Then every 30 minutes is really too much. ask them EXACTLy how she goes at home. do they take her does she go herself how often do they remind her. Do they reward her and with what. Try to do what they do at home.

i found setting a timer and then when it goes off the child runs to the potty put it in their hands to succeed.