How Do You Term?

[wahmof3]

Ok so I will be terming a DCF in the very near future and I am wondering if you all give the DCF a reason, or if you are honest, or if you sugar coat?

Lets base "terming" on issues with the DCP/DCK... not when the daycare provider needs to downsize- etc. I hope this makes sense

[Blackcat31]

I am honest and they know EXACTLY why I am terming but I have no filter between my brain and my mouth so in my defense, I can't help it.

[wahmof3]

I am honest and they know EXACTLY why I am terming but I have no filter between my brain and my mouth so in my defense, I can't help it.

I wonder if I can have my filter surgically removed ::::::

[daycare]

you need an other selection

depends on what happened would determine how I would deal with it.

[crazydaycarelady]

I rarely ever term someone - maybe 5 times in 21 years.

But it does depend on the situation. A couple of times it was in anger (client 2-3 hours late and no call, another had a ridiculous accusation,) once I blamed it on a new state rule that kids HAD to be picked up from school which wouldn't work for me (I just wanted them out of here,) and once I sugar-coated it.

[Country Kids]

Never ever termed anyone in 17 years!

Have had a few, very few leave on their own but most just aged out.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

The letter terming them is 1-2 sentences in length with no reasons given. I have used a termination FORM before and checked off multiple reasons and I have told people to their faces why it wasn't going to work. I did so with a smile on my face and a cheery attitude so I am sure that it was very confusing for them.

If we can, though, we try to make it so families term themselves. We just had one that termed themselves trick or treat us on Halloween. LOL!

[MarinaVanessa]

I chose the second option but only because the letter that I write is vague and doesn't specify or give reasons as to why I'm letting them go. It's just a generic letter that I can give to everyone regardless of whether they are being terminated on good terms or bad terms.

BUT before that I do sit down with them and discuss with them issues that I feel need to be brought up. So in the end if a client that I've had issues with doesn't comply after being warned then I just give them the termination letter and they pretty much know why they are getting let go. No need for me to repeat myself and put in writing what I've been telling them all along.

If a vhild is aging out of my program or if I will no longer be offering services that a client is enrolled in then the simple letter is enough and again I just sit and talk to them. I prefer to talk to people in person and thank them personally.

[SunshineMama]

I chose the third one. I figure that parents are going to believe what they want to believe anyway.

I have only termed 2 families so far. The first was a 10 month old who cried all day and just wasn't happy, and I did tell the mom honestly that it just wasnt a good fit, and that he was unhappy, and that I think he would do better with a lower ratio. The parents hated me... but it was best for the child so oh well.

The second family I termed kept bringing their sick child to care with diarrhea, HFMD, and everything else (he was a germ factory). After stretching myself (and my policies) to the limit, (I happen to get pregnant at the time), I told them that due to my pregnancy I was no longer able to care for their son, and gave them 2 weeks. They came everyday for those two weeks, then trashed my name all over town and hated me. They were in denial that their child was sick and even blamed all of the other dck's.

Any time you term a kid, I have found that (in my experience), parents will hate you. That is, until they hear their problems confirmed by someone else (like the next provider).

[daycarediva]

I always tell them why. I don't think it helps to sugar coat or lie. They pretty much know why when they get my term letter as the issue(s) have already been addressed and they have failed to work on them.

This is my job/life and I enjoy it very much when I have the right mix of kids/families so I do term after warnings. I have termed 4 times in 7 years. Three were kid issues and one was all the parents irresponsibility.

[Holiday Park]

Question:

What if I wanted to end caring for a 2 day a week child so I could get onr of those off because the ther baby I watch doesn't come on that day? Also, the other day she is here is the only day I also have the other baby at the same time. She gets picked up late on that day, and the other baby gets picked up early.

[Blackcat31]

Question:

What if I wanted to end caring for a 2 day a week child so I could get onr of those off because the ther baby I watch doesn't come on that day? Also, the other day she is here is the only day I also have the other baby at the same time. She gets picked up late on that day, and the other baby gets picked up early.

Just let them know that you will no longer be able to continue providing care to them on certain days. You don't HAVE to tell them why, just let them know that the current arrangement is no longer working so you will be terming and the last day they can use that particular day is ***XX, 2012.

[Live and Learn]

Honesty is the best policy. They choose what they want to do with it.

[EAP]

It really depends on the issue, I do try and spin it some as not a good fit or if there is an on going safety issue, but try to stay honest and positive. I have had to term because of issues with a parent and just lied about the reason because she was a little "off".

[Cat Herder]

Verbally, I tell them everything.

Written, I give no specific info.

They get both.