This Sounds So Stupid...

[Willow]

Check with your licensing agent. I wonder if there is a rule about what age you can start at. Like 6 weeks or something. Jeez, they don't even take puppies and kittens away from their mom till 6 or 8 weeks. This is so sad.

Silver is legally unlicensed so she doesn't have to follow the 6 week old minimum rule.

[littlemissmuffet]

This has nothing to do with bottle feeding vs. breastfeeding if you read the original post.

It has to do with bottle feeding a *three day* old infant in daycare because her mother doesn't want to take any time off of work.

Actually no, it's simply about bottle feeding a newborn. ::

The fact that mom is going back to work only three days in was simply a detail. A sad detail, yes... but we don't know the circumstances as to why.

[Lucy]

They can drink from bottles just fine. Im confused.

Not ALL newborns take to bottles easily. Some do, some don't. She's asking for tips to make it a little bit easier on this 3 day old baby. What don't you get???

[SquirrellyMama]

What am I missing? Who said it was stupid? She wants tips on bottle feeding, not a debate on whether you should or shouldn't bottle feed.

I think she was saying her question might seem "stupid" in her title. I think another poster thought she was saying that bottle feeding an infant is stupid. I think it was a miscommunication.
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[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Her title says, this sounds stupid. If she means this may be a stupid question then ok, but to me she is saying that bottle feeding a newborn is stupid.

I dont know, maybe im just reading it wrong.

[Willow]

Actually no, it's simply about bottle feeding a newborn. ::

The fact that mom is going back to work only three days in was simply a detail. A sad detail, yes... but we don't know the circumstances as to why.

Ethics aside the age here absolutely matter.

A 6 week old infant is (obviously) still alive at 6 weeks old and therefor has proven it's ability to eat and function. At 3/4 days old many babies can struggle on many levels on both fronts. I would not want to be the one providing care if something tanks because when babies that small fall they fall fast and very hard. It doesn't take much at all for one that little to end up back in the hospital.....and that's WITH being home receiving near one on one care.

A newborn that level of young does not belong in daycare. Period. Grandma's house or whatever as a last resort is one thing, but this? It's insanity.....



(Nothing on you Silver....I'm sure you're just trying to help......)

[SquirrellyMama]

Her title says, this sounds stupid. If she means this may be a stupid question then ok, but to me she is saying that bottle feeding a newborn is stupid.

I dont know, maybe im just reading it wrong.

I think the title goes along with the first sentence in her post. "This sounds so stupid but but how do you bottle feed a wee tiny newborn?"

She then goes on to ask what supplies she needs and how to do it. I really don't think she meant bottle feeding was bad. She's never fed one that young with a bottle.

[cheerfuldom]

I would not deal with this issue at all as I would never take a baby so young. the youngest I will personally take is 4 weeks but I strongly prefer 6 or 8 weeks. at 3 days old, baby will literally have only hours at home (after checking out from the hospital) before coming over to your house. To me it is almost a dangerous thing to take such a young baby. her feeding and diapers still need to be carefully monitored. what is mom going to do if baby is jaundiced or any other number of issues that come up with tiny ones? This sounds like a bad bad idea OP. I hope you change your mind about accepting her.

[Lucy]

Her title says, this sounds stupid. If she means this may be a stupid question then ok, but to me she is saying that bottle feeding a newborn is stupid.

I dont know, maybe im just reading it wrong.

Sorry, I re-read the post, but forgot about the title. She was essentially saying, "this might be a stupid question, but....." She was saying that she felt silly having to ask us how to bottle feed, but the fact that this baby will be 3 days old when she gets her makes it more difficult because she's never fed a baby so young.

I'm sorry, but it seemed quite clear to me. *shrug*

[laundrymom]

1-3 ounces every 1-2 hours. Give that angel as much eye contact and secure holding as you can. Use a calm soothing voice. I've had lots of exp with bottling new ones if you dm me, I can help you if you need it.

Sad situation but it does happen. When forced with losing your job, your income. You do things others think are horrible. She has to work, I'm sure it's killing her.
But a roof in this economy sometimes leaves you doing things you hate.

Good luck.

[littlemissmuffet]

Ethics aside the age here absolutely matter.

A 6 week old infant is (obviously) still alive at 6 weeks old and therefor has proven it's ability to eat and function. At 3/4 days old many babies can struggle on many levels on both fronts. I would not want to be the one providing care if something tanks because when babies that small fall they fall fast and very hard. It doesn't take much at all for one that little to end up back in the hospital.....and that's WITH being home receiving near one on one care.

A newborn that level of young does not belong in daycare. Period. Grandma's house or whatever as a last resort is one thing, but this? It's insanity.....



(Nothing on you Silver....I'm sure you're just trying to help......)

I didn't say that the child's age or this situation didn't matter. You implied that Silver's post was ABOUT this mother leaving her child so young... when in fact that was just a detial in a post ABOUT how to bottle feed a newborn

The reality is, this isn't your choice to make. You have no idea what the circumstances are that this woman needs to put her child in daycare at this age. If this woman has no income for 6 weeks, what's she supposed to do?

Even if we knew the circumstance and didn't agree with her decision - it's between her and Silver to figure out, as Silver agreed to the arrangement. Also, keep in mind that Silver said this baby was coming PT - we don't know how PT she really meant... could be one day a week for all we know.

[Mom2TLE]

I had a mom tell me 2 weeks but then took 3.5 so hopefully she will at least take a week or two but where she is part time she probably has no leave to take and doesn't see it being that big of a deal. I would just recommend watching closely since they do tend to choke a little if the milk is coming out too fast, burp after every ounce, and realize that they need to eat more often due to only drinking small amounts. A burp rag since they tend to be a little more messy, and always hold while eating. This is a sad situation but some moms do have to return to work right away and don't have family near by.
How much does she work each week?

[MNMum]

Make sure you have a slow flow nipple. Watch the ****-swallow-breathe pattern. If baby doesn't seem very coordinated, take the bottle out of the mouth (or tip it so there is no milk in the nipple) every few ****s. I'd expect 1-2 oz every 1-2 hours at this point. Make sure you and mom are writing things down so one of you will see if there is a problem with intake. 6-8 wet diapers per day, probably minumum of 3 poops per day at this point.

[Blackcat31]

what? who? where? what am I missing here?

Are we all talking about the same thing?

If anything this thread has been sort of amusing. ::

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Silver, I too had a DCM a few years back that HAD to go back to work on Monday and had her baby on Thursday night. The baby eagerly took a bottle. I think the nurses at the hospital made sure she was eating ok before releasing mom/child so I think you will probably be just fine.

The only issue I had with feeding one that young was she tended to "forget" she was eating and would drift off to sleep after only a few ****s and I would have to gently wiggle her to rouse her back to alertness enough so she could get an ounce or two down.

I am betting you wil be just fine....and so will baby.

[Country Kids]

Silver-make sure you are legally allowed to take an infant that young. We are not allowed to take any child younger then 6 weeks.