The One That Cries For Everything

[AllDeezBabies]

I have a dcb that is 3 years old. He cries about everything and it is starting to drive me nuts.

He'll either cry when we transition from circle time to activity time, activity time to lunch, outside time to inside time(lunch), lunch to naptime, if I take off his shoes, if I tell him to quiet down when screaming inside. You get the drift; he wants his way and when he can't get it, he screams.

I've tried time outs and when he's calm I have a talk with him about his behavior and my rules. I've told mom and dad and this does nothing.

What to do??? I'm about to pull my hair out. He's screaming at the top of his lungs now because I wouldn't allow him to throw toys...HELP???

[Bookworm]

When you talk to him, how long does it take to calm him down? Are you able to take him to an area away from everyone else to calm down? What happens after he calms down?

[AllDeezBabies]

It all depends. Sometimes he's calm after a minute or two, today he screamed for 20 minutes!!!

I take him to our quiet area next to my daycare area away from the children and he sits in the chair there. After he calms down, I have a short chat with him we give hugs and we resume to whatever activity we were doing.

[cheerfuldom]

If it really is screaming (tantrum style) and not crying from actual need, you might be making things worse by continually trying to talk him out of his moods and giving negative attention for the behavior. I would make a cry spot, send him there every time he starts up and ignore the behavior. He cant come out until he chills out. No attention whatsoever for the crying besides "Aiden, you can come out when you stop crying". Then give lots of attention to the other kids that ARE behaving. If you go outside, do a cry spot out there. He is old enough to learn how to control himself a bit or use his words if he really needs something....but screaming because he doesnt want to cooperate is just plain out bad behavior. Just let him go at it until he sees that it gets no attention and worse, he misses out because he is acting like that. Forget trying to get the parents to do anything about it. There isnt really anything they can do about his behavior at daycare, thats your job. It would be nice if parents were more of a team to overcome issues like this but 90% of the time, parents will do nothing. If he cant get it together, dont feel bad if you just let him go permanently.

[Bookworm]

If it really is screaming (tantrum style) and not crying from actual need, you might be making things worse by continually trying to talk him out of his moods and giving negative attention for the behavior. I would make a cry spot, send him there every time he starts up and ignore the behavior. He cant come out until he chills out. No attention whatsoever for the crying besides "Aiden, you can come out when you stop crying". Then give lots of attention to the other kids that ARE behaving. If you go outside, do a cry spot out there. He is old enough to learn how to control himself a bit or use his words if he really needs something....but screaming because he doesnt want to cooperate is just plain out bad behavior. Just let him go at it until he sees that it gets no attention and worse, he misses out because he is acting like that. Forget trying to get the parents to do anything about it. There isnt really anything they can do about his behavior at daycare, thats your job. It would be nice if parents were more of a team to overcome issues like this but 90% of the time, parents will do nothing. If he cant get it together, dont feel bad if you just let him go permanently.

Cheer is right. He will soon learn that tantrums will get him nowhere.

[AllDeezBabies]

If it really is screaming (tantrum style) and not crying from actual need, you might be making things worse by continually trying to talk him out of his moods and giving negative attention for the behavior. I would make a cry spot, send him there every time he starts up and ignore the behavior. He cant come out until he chills out. No attention whatsoever for the crying besides "Aiden, you can come out when you stop crying". Then give lots of attention to the other kids that ARE behaving. If you go outside, do a cry spot out there. He is old enough to learn how to control himself a bit or use his words if he really needs something....but screaming because he doesnt want to cooperate is just plain out bad behavior. Just let him go at it until he sees that it gets no attention and worse, he misses out because he is acting like that. Forget trying to get the parents to do anything about it. There isnt really anything they can do about his behavior at daycare, thats your job. It would be nice if parents were more of a team to overcome issues like this but 90% of the time, parents will do nothing. If he cant get it together, dont feel bad if you just let him go permanently.

When I place him in time out, I don't talk to him at all. I give a chat AFTER he calms down. I put him in the same place when he does this (maybe this will be the crying spot, thanks).

We all continue on with our activities and ignore him. When I used to say "dcb you can come out of time out when you're much calmer" he screams louder so I stopped saying it. When he acts up, I take his hand, sit him in the chair, and go on about my day. It seemed to be a lot worse today and it is tap dancing on my nerves.

[SilverSabre25]

Sounds like he has a hard time with transitions and possibly gets overstimulated easily. Can you make a time out/cry spot away from the noise and chaos of everyone else? Someplace calm and soothing, where he can let his brain decompress?

[AllDeezBabies]

Sounds like he has a hard time with transitions and possibly gets overstimulated easily. Can you make a time out/cry spot away from the noise and chaos of everyone else? Someplace calm and soothing, where he can let his brain decompress?

Yes he does have a hard time transitioning. One thing I noticed is he is a couch potato. If I have the tv on, like in the morning or Fridays, he will sit and disregard everything around him. That is the only thing that calms him but I'm not a tv daycare, so...

I do have a spot away from the children and I will try that tomorrow. I will surley follow up

[Meyou]

I have a 2.5 year old DCG who is prone to drama when things change. When I moved my crying spot to somewhere where we were out of her sight but I could still keep an eye on her the crying decreased ALOT. Often now I just have to say, "Do you need to go cry for a minute?" and she will try very hard to calm herself and avoid "the spot".