Sticky Situation:: Would You Term?

[Brooksie]

Dear Out of Touch with Reality Sister,
After November ___, 2012 I will no longer be able to care for Stumble Bunny.

Your Annoyed Sister

Can't argue with a sentence written on a piece of paper, can ya?

Love it!!! !

this is your way out! take it

"Sister, I know you are concerned about his napping. So am I. I cannot get him napping at daycare and have tried everything that I can with my current set up. I think now is a the best time to begin looking for care so you can get him in a setting where is napping, just as you want. I will watch him until the end of November but you are welcome to take him out sooner if you find a good fit before then. Nov. X will be his last day in care"

put it on her....SHE is the one that is complaining about his napping and SHE is the one that is now free to find a new daycare. YOU totally understand her concern and support her in finding a new daycare

Yea I totally agree. Its in everyone's best interest at this point and I think that's the best way to approach it. Thanks everyone!!

[MarinaVanessa]

You might not have to term her immediately if you don't really want to. Now if your nephew is making your life a living nightmare because of the napping issue and that's a big enough issue for you to term then go for it if that's what you want. There's absolutely no reason to keep a client ... any client ... if it makes your whole day difficult especially when you can fill the spot immediately.

If you want to try to work things out with your sister with the whole respect thing then read on:
I have a SIL and I watch my nephew. She is one piece of work. I had much of the same issues that you had ... she didn't see herself as a client but as my SIL first, no contract, always asked for special, picked up late, paid late, got a HUGE discount, wanted to pay only for days she brought her DS, didn't follow ANY policies etc. (LOTS of etc.) HUGE thorn in my side.

One day I had enough and I had a contract ready for her. I sat down with her just me and her and I told her EXACTLY how I felt. I told her that this wasn't just something that I did for extra money ... this was my career, this was my business and I took it very seriously. I told her that NONE of my other clients took advantage of me in the way that she did nor did they show me so much disrespect and they were clients, she was family. As family I expected her to be the role model not my worst client. I laid down how I wanted things to be (raised her rate, she pay a flat weekly rate, she follow all policies etc). She cried, asked me why I was doing this to her and I just said "If 6 other families can treat me with dignity and respect and follow my policies then I'm not doing anything to you ... YOU are doing to me."
I gave her a choice with no hard feelings ... she could sign the contract and during my DC hours she behave like a client or she go somewhere else. She stayed and I took back control of my daycare and things have been soooo much better.

So if you want and are willing to try things out with your sister then sit her down and calmly but honestly talk to her about what has been bothering you. Your sister won't know what the problem is unless you tell her so don't be mad at her without explaining to her why you are upset first. If she doesn't get it or things continue then you deffinetely should let her go if only to save your relationship. Keep us posted!!