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I run a preschool: 4 classes, 2 3-hr sessions per week. In one class I have a 3yo who is very smart, extremely verbal, but can also be very difficult. From my observations, he is a child who needs a lot of stimulation, an authority figure, and is lacking in attention. Whenever I have a problem with him, it is during waiting periods or free play. During activities he is great. I have had him for two months now.
My last class he was actually doing really well. Though, at one point he grabbed a stroller from someone. When I went to approach him, he essentially freaked out and started swinging it nearly hitting all the kids in the room. I got behind him and hugged him and gave him a few breathing exercises to calm down. I told mom "he was great, but there was this one incident where I had to put my hands on him to calm him"
Today, he starts playing with the door waiting to go outside. I do my usual discipline techniques; however he really slamming on it. I said, "No" firmly and put my hand on the door (I am at his level at this point) and he hits me. We have a quiet conversation about hitting. We go outside and I can tell I am loosing him as he is throwing his shoes. I do not give him any negative attention, but I do my countdown a little early. I took his shoes and when he is next to me, I put my hands on his shoulders and say to everyone "time to go inside" he freaks out and starts to run. I tell him firmly, "B, I am going to hold your hand and shoulder to walk inside. Do you want to hold the stroller or walk with me". This is usually ok, but he is wiggling so bad I don't want to pull him. I am very calm (I have a lot of paitence). "B, I am afraid I may hurt you [because you are pulling your arms so much], I am going to pick you up now 1, 2, 3" I pick him up on my hip and he starts striking me face. Inside, explain that he will be dismissed because he cannot hit me. I told mom every detail including whenever I touched him.
However, I am nervous that this will be a child I will continue to be physical with and it is not something I am comfortable with. I do move children to quiet areas so we can breath and relax and I do the hand/shoulder to guide a child, but I don't want it to be a requirement. How many more times would you allow this if any? I have him again in two days and already getting really nervous.
I run a preschool: 4 classes, 2 3-hr sessions per week. In one class I have a 3yo who is very smart, extremely verbal, but can also be very difficult. From my observations, he is a child who needs a lot of stimulation, an authority figure, and is lacking in attention. Whenever I have a problem with him, it is during waiting periods or free play. During activities he is great. I have had him for two months now.
My last class he was actually doing really well. Though, at one point he grabbed a stroller from someone. When I went to approach him, he essentially freaked out and started swinging it nearly hitting all the kids in the room. I got behind him and hugged him and gave him a few breathing exercises to calm down. I told mom "he was great, but there was this one incident where I had to put my hands on him to calm him"
Today, he starts playing with the door waiting to go outside. I do my usual discipline techniques; however he really slamming on it. I said, "No" firmly and put my hand on the door (I am at his level at this point) and he hits me. We have a quiet conversation about hitting. We go outside and I can tell I am loosing him as he is throwing his shoes. I do not give him any negative attention, but I do my countdown a little early. I took his shoes and when he is next to me, I put my hands on his shoulders and say to everyone "time to go inside" he freaks out and starts to run. I tell him firmly, "B, I am going to hold your hand and shoulder to walk inside. Do you want to hold the stroller or walk with me". This is usually ok, but he is wiggling so bad I don't want to pull him. I am very calm (I have a lot of paitence). "B, I am afraid I may hurt you [because you are pulling your arms so much], I am going to pick you up now 1, 2, 3" I pick him up on my hip and he starts striking me face. Inside, explain that he will be dismissed because he cannot hit me. I told mom every detail including whenever I touched him.
However, I am nervous that this will be a child I will continue to be physical with and it is not something I am comfortable with. I do move children to quiet areas so we can breath and relax and I do the hand/shoulder to guide a child, but I don't want it to be a requirement. How many more times would you allow this if any? I have him again in two days and already getting really nervous.
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