My First Term... Update

[EchoMom]

Well, the DCM of the 5 year old boy I just termed is so mad I guess that she just emailed me back and said "We will be forfeiting our last week of care! **** will no longer be attending your daycare!"

Do I just leave it at that now? Do I answer back and say something like "That is your choice, but it is your week to use if you want and I would like to say goodbye to ***"

I mean, I'm glad he won't be coming this week because I really do need him out of here, but I like him as a person I don't want there to be no closure for him. And I have his replacement already ready to start on Monday so that's great he'll be out sooner, but I just don't like it to end this way.

Is this just inevitably the usual ending to terming someone? This stinks, but I knew it would.

[Springdaze]

good luck to you ..and leave it at that. whos going to watch the kid by the way:confused:

[bunnyslippers]

I would just leave it at that. The week would have been awkward for you. I wouldn't even respond.

[providerandmomof4]

I have only had a couple of terms and they didn't end well. I figure there are bound to be bad feelings because there is a reason why your terming and the parents don't generally like to hear it. I would just leave it how it is. Maybe with some time the dcp will realize that your not the bad guy. They are obviously trying to prove a point. At the very most I might consider sending a reply text saying something such as, "Okay, I understand your decision. Thank you for letting me know."

[julie]

At the very most I might consider sending a reply text saying something such as, "Okay, I understand your decision. Thank you for letting me know."

I would do this also. Don't take it too personally, OP. Terminations are never easy, but from someone who has had terms where the parents went absolutely ballistic on me, I would welcome a grumpy email anyday. kudos for already having the spot filled!

[cheerfuldom]

Just leave it. If she doesnt care enough to give her own son closure, than there is nothing you can do about it. You also dont want to respond in an emotional way at all.

"Thank you for letting me know and good luck at Aidens new daycare"

[EchoMom]

good luck to you ..and leave it at that. whos going to watch the kid by the way:confused:

I have no clue.

[Blackcat31]

Well, the DCM of the 5 year old boy I just termed is so mad I guess that she just emailed me back and said "We will be forfeiting our last week of care! **** will no longer be attending your daycare!"

Do I just leave it at that now? Do I answer back and say something like "That is your choice, but it is your week to use if you want and I would like to say goodbye to ***"

I mean, I'm glad he won't be coming this week because I really do need him out of here, but I like him as a person I don't want there to be no closure for him. And I have his replacement already ready to start on Monday so that's great he'll be out sooner, but I just don't like it to end this way.

Is this just inevitably the usual ending to terming someone? This stinks, but I knew it would.

I would let it be. It's hard for families to be termed....even if it was in the best interest of the child.

This mom will calm down eventually and she will be ok. From their point of view, it hurts anyway you say it. All they hear is that you are kicking them out.

I would probably go buy a card and write a nice note saying that you really enjoyed having them in care, that they were a great family and that you wish them nothing but luck in the future and maybe even offer to be a reference for them when they look for new care.

It is hard, but it will be ok. For both of you.

[Southern Mama]

I would let it be. It's hard for families to be termed....even if it was in the best interest of the child.

This mom will calm down eventually and she will be ok. From their point of view, it hurts anyway you say it. All they hear is that you are kicking them out.

I would probably go buy a card and write a nice note saying that you really enjoyed having them in care, that they were a great family and that you wish them nothing but luck in the future and maybe even offer to be a reference for them when they look for new care.

It is hard, but it will be ok. For both of you.

This. I think that would be very professional and show there really is no hard feelings and that it was just in the best interest of your daycare and the child. What a yucky feeling though.

[sharlan]

I think your only mistake was terming via email rather than in person, just my opinion.

I would say at this point, just walk away and let it go. What's done is done and there's nothing you can do to change it.

[Kimberli]

Considering my last term ended in a lawsuit ... dare I say that people take things very personally?! - no matter how diplomatic you are or how much you have the best interest of their child in mind.

ALWAYS take the high road and be professional! I wouldn't go out of my way to get a card, but a quick e-mail of "Thank you for letting us know - we will miss little Johnny this week. We wish you and your family all the best." would be a very nice gesture and show your ability to not engage in drama. I believe that good karma comes around - as does bad. Put your new kiddo in place, focus on the little ones you've got your hands on and move on.

[e.j.]

ALWAYS take the high road and be professional! I wouldn't go out of my way to get a card, but a quick e-mail of "Thank you for letting us know - we will miss little Johnny this week. We wish you and your family all the best." would be a very nice gesture and show your ability to not engage in drama. I believe that good karma comes around - as does bad. Put your new kiddo in place, focus on the little ones you've got your hands on and move on.

This is how I would handle it, too. Not responding at all seems a little unprofessional to me. I would at least want her to know I received her message.

[EchoMom]

I did what many of you said and simply sent an I understand and thank you type of email.

Now, I have to quickly say that my new girl, the 2 year old replacement for the 5 year old boy I termed, showed up today for her first day and I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy!