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Seriously?
What licensed day care provider is this neglectful?
Check out this baby's facebook page too, it tells the whole story.
This provider had a long list of violations and parents had no way of knowing this until after their son died.
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Seriously?
What licensed day care provider is this neglectful?
Check out this baby's facebook page too, it tells the whole story.
This provider had a long list of violations and parents had no way of knowing this until after their son died. -
They saw the violations first hand though after walking in on him sleeping face down on a folded over comforter.
I feel for them, I really really do, but I have no idea why they contemplated leaving him there that entire week before bringing him back every day when there were signs something was very very wrong with the way she was caring for their baby. All of the adults in this case failed him.
We discussed this one here earlier.....I'm going to see if I can find the link....
Here are a couple:
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this is so very sad and I do agree with Willow in saying that why would they continue to bring him back there???? In my eyes are they are also to blame for continuing to bring the baby back there....
The other thing is, I try to take the things I read these days with a grain of salt. Many years ago my best friend died in a car accident. The media coverage about it was very harsh and so very very wrong. They made her out to be a horrible mother and person over all. 99.9% of the stuff written about her was not true.........
It looks like the parents are feeling very guilty and want to put someone at fault for their childs death. I guess I can some what understand that, but again. We don't have the full true story, only what the media wants us to know....Comment
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I feel bad for the parents, too, however, I don't understand why they continued to leave their baby in the care of this provider if they really had such serious concerns about the care she was providing. If I was concerned at all about the safety of my infant, I would not leave my baby at that provider for even a second more. It kind of makes me think they are not being altogether truthful about the situation...that they really did not have any issues with the care the baby was receiving prior to his death, but are hoping that by embelishing their story a bit, they can somehow get the provider punished. Or, if they really did have these concerns and left him with this provider, they are trying to relieve their own guilt by focusing all of their pain and anger onto the provider.Comment
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It doesn't sound to me like the provider actually broke any regulations at that time. Babies DO unfortunatly die of SIDS. It sounds as though the mother did ask her not to put the baby on his stomach, but if the mother asked her to lay him on his back why wouldn't she? The parents fb page is one side of the story. The fact that the provider still has her license says a lot too though.Comment
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My advice to parents is that if you have a bad feeling or get a bad vibe about your daycare provider you should take action. Trust your instincts and visit often to be sure that your child is being loved and properly cared for.
This is your child. He or she deserves the best care a person can give them.
If you don't trust your DP, take some vacation or sick days and remove him from care until you can find someone you feel safe to leave your heart and soul with.
This is so sad!!
In the DP's defense though, all 3 of my babies slept on their bellies and are all just fine. My MIL napped my DS on a comforter on the floor all the time and I never worried. Not at 5 months when a child is able to pull himself up and roll over anyway.
Maybe it was God's will. It doesn't make it any less sad though
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that was my thought too... at this age the baby should have been able to roll over or pick up their head to turn it....guess not......so sad!!!!!My advice to parents is that if you have a bad feeling or get a bad vibe about your daycare provider you should take action. Trust your instincts and visit often to be sure that your child is being loved and properly cared for.
This is your child. He or she deserves the best care a person can give them.
If you don't trust your DP, take some vacation or sick days and remove him from care until you can find someone you feel safe to leave your heart and soul with.
This is so sad!!
In the DP's defense though, all 3 of my babies slept on their bellies and are all just fine. My MIL napped my DS on a comforter on the floor all the time and I never worried. Not at 5 months when a child is able to pull himself up and roll over anyway.
Maybe it was God's will. It doesn't make it any less sad thoughComment
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what I was referring to as far as the providers neglect was all the past violations she had with leaving kids in the basement crying while she was sleeping in her own bed and many others.. You have to read the Facebook page.. This mom paid (after baby dies) for the providers public record.
And you never never sleep a baby on their tummy.
I know in the past we all slept on our tummies.
Our moms were convinced that we would spit up and die on our backs, but as NannyDe would say...once you know....
This baby probably would have died of sids at home or day care anyways but we as professionals need to do whats right and practice safe sleeping practices
My heart goes out to all involved.
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I dont have face book, so I could not read any of the information on that..
but that does sound horrible. Do you know that these were actual found violations??Comment
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I cannot fathom WHY she would be allowed to keep her license. Regulations or not, as a provider it is her RESPONSIBILITY to ensure the safety of all children in her care. It is COMMON KNOWLEDGE that you NEVER, EVER lay an infant on their belly to sleep, and anyone with any common sense should know not to lay them face down on a folded up, soft comforter.
Regardless of whether or not safe sleep practices were a regulation at the time, this provider was directly told by the parent not to sleep her infant on it's tummy, was told not to sleep him on a comforter and INTENTIONALLY, after being informed that it was UNSAFE by the parent, did so anyway. That, in addition to the many prior violations should add up to revoking her license.Comment
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While the provider neglected to practice safe sleeping practices, and should have checked often on the child, I also think the parents should have pulled the child from care if they were expereincing the feelings that they described. They knew something was not right and did not act immediately. The mom even witnessed unsafe sleeping practices.
The provider did not lose her license because apparently she did not violate any regulations, just recommendations. It just goes to show that licensure and regulations don't necessairly mean much- anyone can break them at any time. That's why it is important for parents to always check out their providers, get references and background checks, etc.
In all the years I have been doing daycare, I have never had a parent ask me for a background check. It's odd to me. My background is flawless, but the fact that I never get asked always is a surprise. I know that if I were to leave my child with someone else, I would probably ask for a background check, 10 references, a drug test, and a blood sample
... but I'm really overprotective 
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what about that NewYork nanny case. She stabbed those kids to death.While the provider neglected to practice safe sleeping practices, and should have checked often on the child, I also think the parents should have pulled the child from care if they were expereincing the feelings that they described. They knew something was not right and did not act immediately. The mom even witnessed unsafe sleeping practices.
The provider did not lose her license because apparently she did not violate any regulations, just recommendations. It just goes to show that licensure and regulations don't necessairly mean much- anyone can break them at any time. That's why it is important for parents to always check out their providers, get references and background checks, etc.
In all the years I have been doing daycare, I have never had a parent ask me for a background check. It's odd to me. My background is flawless, but the fact that I never get asked always is a surprise. I know that if I were to leave my child with someone else, I would probably ask for a background check, 10 references, a drug test, and a blood sample... but I'm really overprotective
those poor parents did everything to check this woman out ... even went to her home country to meet her family etc.
I am so glad that I don't have to worry about this.Comment
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I agree that there is some level of responsibility on the parents part, however, due to their paying the ultimate price - the loss of their child - I feel there should be no blame pointed at them. I am sure they have agonized over their decision to send back and are already bearing the blame themselves.While the provider neglected to practice safe sleeping practices, and should have checked often on the child, I also think the parents should have pulled the child from care if they were expereincing the feelings that they described. They knew something was not right and did not act immediately. The mom even witnessed unsafe sleeping practices.
The provider did not lose her license because apparently she did not violate any regulations, just recommendations. It just goes to show that licensure and regulations don't necessairly mean much- anyone can break them at any time. That's why it is important for parents to always check out their providers, get references and background checks, etc.
In all the years I have been doing daycare, I have never had a parent ask me for a background check. It's odd to me. My background is flawless, but the fact that I never get asked always is a surprise. I know that if I were to leave my child with someone else, I would probably ask for a background check, 10 references, a drug test, and a blood sample... but I'm really overprotective
IMO, as a provider it was her professional and ethical duty to ensure that all children are properly cared for. It is her responsibility to know, understand and FOLLOW safe sleeping practices. I believe she DID know....just as with her previous violations she KNEW what she was doing was wrong, yet she continued to practice unsafe caregiving for young children. It is HER FAULT this child died.
I am mad as hell that there are no set National Standards and oversight of child care facilities. We have national standards and regulations for nearly every public entity out there, yet one of the most important social services offered - child care - is, at best, regulated on a local, minimal level and at worst, not at all. There MUST be more oversight and action taken to prevent even one more child from dying due to provider negligence.
Children are DYING due to irresponsible and oftentimes INTENTIONAL decisions made by providers. That is NOT OKAY and something MUST be done about it.
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