I feel guilty but...Hallelujah

[AllDeezBabies]

Have you all ever had that child that you wanted so bad to term?

I have 2 girls in the evening, sibilings 6 & 7, they are like night and day. One is as sweet as can be (7 yr old); brings me a flower everyday, very well behaved and well mannered. The sibling is soooooooooooooooooo hard headed, doesn't know how to talk to people and is just plain disrespectful.

Yesterday was the last straw for me. She pulled up my window screen propped herself on to a chair and was looking out my window. Then she talked to my 1 year old like she was a dog (*** sit, roll over and making noises you would make to summon a dog to you)

I advised mom of this and she didn't seem to be the least bit phased by it. I even sent letter out regarding respect for not only each other but my family. I wanted to term right there but the 7 yr old was so sweet when she told me " Ms. *** I'll make sure dcg does better tomorrow.

Well here is today and they didn't arrive. I called to make sure they will be here and mom didn't answer. Texted and she didn't text back. I praaaaayyyyy that this child doesn't come back but I'll miss the 7 yr old. I still feel guilty that I'm rejoicing in a child probably no longer being here. I don't even want a term fee. I want my sanity.

Have you ever dealt with rejoicing when a child was no longer under your care? Please help me get over the guilt before I open up a bottle of celebratory wine::

[EchoMom]

So far I've never lost a child so I don't know. But yeah, I have a kid I'm really really on the fence about terming or keeping. I mull over it every day he's here whether to term or not. If he just quit, I'd be SOOOOOOOOOOOO happy because then the decision would be made for me without me having to be the bad guy! Don't feel guilty, I wouldn't.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Absolutely. If you're that happy and they ARE coming back, you need to term them.

[Bookworm]

You are only human. It's been said here several times that you will not like every child in your care. Don't feel the slightest amount of guilt. There are bunches of us who feel/felt the same as you. I had one child who was 100x worse than your DCG and I thought that I wasn't doing my job properly because I couldn't change his behavior. It took my DH telling me that I'm not this child's mother and it was not my job to change his behavior. I also agree that if DCG not being at daycare is a relief, then term her.