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Yeah i think we are way to much alike in that way, we both have to have it this way and done this way. Im just more relaxed than she is which gets interesting
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"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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BTW DO NOT call my wife names like spoiled brat or otherwise. She is the most wonderful hard working woman i have ever met. I love her more than my own life times forever. She is precious, compassionate, and the most beautiful breath taking creation i have ever seen. So please refrain from name calling!"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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That's ok. Do you have a grocery store that delivers? I use Shoprite at Home. We also have Peapod from Stop & Shop in my area.
Or with a little organization for meals you and your wife can make a shopping list and go shopping once a week.
Also, your comment makes me wonder if you eat out a lot? Or does your wife shop and cook? Eating out can really cause hardship to the budget. Eating out only 3 nights a week can cost $60-$100+ when $100 can feed you morning/noon/night for 7 days.
Anyhow, it's really hard to work at a job that you don't like. I really understand. I once had a job where a woman was mean to me the entire day
with snotty comments, etc. I had to do it for the $ for my family, but I got out of there as soon as I had the opportunity 
. Is your wife looking for jobs?
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I think she will be okay where she is for now. Hopefully after being there a year she can transfer to something better or different at least.
We try not to eat out a lot. The main problem is not having a lot of options when it comes to dinner. And of course the daycare kids plus mine eat a lot
"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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ok so we need a thread to find some easy meals that do not cost much. Our meals have gotten BORING you can only eat so much chicken eggs and hamburger. Then we have the grandkids most evenings. Whie they are not picky they are slow to try new adult foods.It:
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Before I began this job I was an in home health care attendant (fresh out of college, newlywed, who brought in a teenager to live with my husband and I two months into our marriage). I had to do what I had to do and I hated it. The woman I worked for hated life and made sure to follow me around 50 hours a week making sure I hated mine, too. It was the worst 9 months of my life.
If she doesn't like her job but still goes then I don't see how she is being a brat? She isn't throwing a temper tantrum saying she won't return when she knows she needs to. She's been a responsible adult helping to pull the weight at home despite her unhappiness. I would be hurt as well if I would have been called a brat for being miserable at my job.
An unhappy work environment can absolutely drain you and throw you into depression so I really feel for her. I hope she is sending out applications elsewhere!!! happyfaceComment
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Things can change. My goal is to be a school teacher soon, so that will help!"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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That's what I was thinking.I'm not entirely sure I know the whole story of why you stay home but....... could you find an outside job and then your wife could stay home with the kiddo's?
It just seems that both of you are unhappy with your current situation. Maybe try reversing and see what that does.
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I just want to share the story of my BIL He goofed off in school and was asked to leave. He was a great frat brother but not so good of a student. He married raised 3 kids went back to school to finish his degree and finally said heck If I am back in schoo is this realy what I want to do. So he started over.
At the same time he had teens in highschool and entering college he went for his teaching degree. At age 53 he became a music teacher. LOVES IT He has middle school and high school/
So just keep working towards that degree You will finish. We all get depressed at times.It:: will waitComment
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Wish i could be a better husband and have a job which actually could support my family.... im depressed and sad today, cause i know my DW is miserable at her job and needs more from me that i just dont have.....
I'm sorry you feel so sad and depressed. When my husband and I were first married he had a job that made him miserable, but we didn't have any options and I felt very guilty nowing that he went to a job that treated him like crap to support us. It helped me feel better when I was able to start daycare and bring home some money. I didn't feel so helpless. My husband has never asked me to get a job or do daycare, but I know that he is very greatful for what I have done. After I started daycare he was able to take a lower paying job and eventually things worked out of us. I feel that your guilt maybe a bit worse because of the "man taking care of his family sterotype." You should take comfort knowing that you are doing everything in your power to support your family. You and your wife made a choice for you to stay home with the kids. You are working weekends and doing daycare to support your family in addition to taking care of your own kids. I'm sure your wife apperciates you staying home with your kids. Hopefully her job gets better or something else will turn up. Honestly I don't know how much more you can do. From my perspective you are doing everything in your power to bring home income while keeping your own kids out of daycare. Please take comfort in knowing that you are doing your best.Comment
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Dave, my husband works until 8 pm. Because I am providing childcare and freelance writing on the side, and with kids evening activities I am too tired to cook dinner at night. My solution, which works for my family, is to make the lunch meal our "hot" meal of the day. We have dinner type food for lunch. In the evening we have sandwiches or waffles and yogurt. That kind of thing. Quick and easy to prepare. Little clean up.I think she will be okay where she is for now. Hopefully after being there a year she can transfer to something better or different at least.
We try not to eat out a lot. The main problem is not having a lot of options when it comes to dinner. And of course the daycare kids plus mine eat a lot
Give yourself a break. Do what works for your family. As long as the kids eat something in the evening, with some protein/milk/fruit/vegetable it doesn't matter if it is a masterfully crafted meal.
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