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so in a nutshell, I am having health issues with my fourth child (not due for another five weeks). The doc says I have to slow down or get admitted to the hospital! I let two kids go today (hopefully they will be back after my maternity leave...not sure....) and there will be more cuts down the road if need be. I had to let both parents know by email and will not see them again till after maternity leave so at least I didnt have to do it in person (neither were here today and it needed to be effective immediately). so yeah, thats not going to go over well but there is nothing I can do to change the situation. I have always worked up till the day before the babies were born so this is new territory for me. Hiring help was not an option because my current assistant did not have more availability and there is no way I can get a stranger in here and trained fast enough to actually help
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I was in a similar sitiuation with my last baby. Only I didn't listen when the Dr said to stop working, I hired someone and kept helping her with lunch, ect. In the end I was sent to the hospital at 32 weeks and had baby 1 day later. Don't feel bad baby HAS to come first. I ended up just closing for for 4 months and all of my families came back to me and most were more than understanding and helpful. One mom even brought us dinner once a week until I was able to get LO home from the hospital. If they aren't understanding then I would not want them as clients any longer anways. Good luck, take care of yourself everything will work out. Baby is close to where if it is born it shouldn't have to spend too much time in the NICU. -
Aw, Cheer....I am sorry to hear that. Your health and that of your unborn baby is definitely way more important than anything else at this point.
I am glad you are taking the necessary steps to slow down.
Hope you have a very uneventful next 5 weeks to give the little one some more baking time.
Hang in there, sending good thoughts and keeping you in my prayers
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thanks for this reminder! It has been a hard morning with this news and the decisions to be made but I have to remember the priority of keeping baby and me healthy....then being there for my other kids and my husband. Letting kids go is a hardship financially but the alternative is a NICU baby and all the bills and stress that come with that....not a good alternative!Comment
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thank you! your post means a lot. it is always nice to have some extra support after a hard decision about the daycare.Aw, Cheer....I am sorry to hear that. Your health and that of your unborn baby is definitely way more important than anything else at this point.
I am glad you are taking the necessary steps to slow down.
Hope you have a very uneventful next 5 weeks to give the little one some more baking time.
Hang in there, sending good thoughts and keeping you in my prayers
My DH was trying to be supportive but his idea was to get his nephew in here to help out.....like a 14 year old teenager is going to be that much help. I dont need more kids to take care of! sheesh. plus what parent is going to be that excited to know the plan is for a teenage boy to be helping at the daycare, you know?Comment
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update....one mom came by for a refund check (we agreed to that beforehand) and was very understanding and there was no drama. I really enjoy that mom!
the other mom texted me this morning to complain that the provider name I listed as a possible backup was too far. She basically expected me to work out alternative care. I told her that I knew of no one closer that took part timers, especially on an emergency/temporary basis. According to my contract, I am not responsible to provide ANY backup care ideas although I do try to help if I can.
I am just over this one part timer. I feel bad that I have only had them for like 3 months and then this baby thing came up but now, I am thinking that I will just let them know NOW that I am going to full timers only. I wasnt planning to do this till after the new year but now with her complaining and the family constantly being drama in some way (small doses but still, more than I want to deal with), I think it is best to just make these changes right now. This mom will be crazy if I take them back after maternity leave only to find that they are not willing to adjust to the new policies coming round the corner.Comment
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Thank you for sharing your story, it's a good reminder to put ourselves and baby first! I only a few weeks behind Cheerfuldom and so far I'm okay, but I can totally see myself pushing myself beyond my limits, so thank you for sharing!
Cheerful- sorry your part timer is causing issues- what a pain! Parents are aware that you are pregnant and they need backup incase- not your problem. Best of luck for a healthy full term baby! You're almost there!!Comment
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[QUOTE=cheerfuldom;277153]thanks for this reminder! It has been a hard morning with this news and the decisions to be made but I have to remember the priority of keeping baby and me healthy....then being there for my other kids and my husband. Letting kids go is a hardship financially but the alternative is a NICU baby and all the bills and stress that come with that....not a good alternative![/QUOTE
YES YES, YES, I wasn't working when our first son was born, but just my husband cutting down to 40 hours a week, the gas for him to travel to from hospital daily, eating at the hospital/out for 3 weeks took a toll on us when our son had to stay in the NICU after being born. Then when the bill came there was an additional finacial burnden. I'm sure your families understand and if they don't they wouldn't be the kind of families I'd want to be working with. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.Comment
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YES YES, YES, I wasn't working when our first son was born, but just my husband cutting down to 40 hours a week, the gas for him to travel to from hospital daily, eating at the hospital/out for 3 weeks took a toll on us when our son had to stay in the NICU after being born. Then when the bill came there was an additional finacial burnden. I'm sure your families understand and if they don't they wouldn't be the kind of families I'd want to be working with. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.[/QUOTE]
Yes this! Our bill was close to 100,000 + over $1,000 in gas for 2 trips back and forth per day, + having to be closed longer than if she would have been term. On top of it all the emotional toll it takes on you to have a baby in the NICU is tremendous I am still suffering from PTSD almost a year later. And the toll on these poor little babies when they are born too early. Keep the parents that care in the loop those who don't call and check in to see how you and the baby are just don't call them back, I called one back that never called and regret it. Two of my DCMs checked in weekly and let me know exactly how much I mean to them and thier children. They were the first two allowed to come back.Comment
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