Do You Get Involved?

[Jenniferdawn]

I've had a dcm ask me to document somethings dcd said about his parent practices for mediation coming up. I wouldn't say what he told me is abusive, but they were definitely poor parenting practices. Would you get involved? My dh says no. Have any of you been here before?

[sharlan]

Are you concerned for the safety of the child? If not, I'd stay out of it. If you truly have concerns, then I would say yes.

[Brooksie]

Unless the child is in harms way or he has given you a reason to be legitimately concerned then its not your responsibility to get involved.

[Country Kids]

Is there a chance you could be asked to speak with someone on this? I just had a parent ask me to talk to a couselor type person on this. I couldn't though as a family member works for the office this goes through and the parents had forgotten about this. If its something you might be called up for in court or mediation you might want to.

[grandmom]

Ditto. But mostly: NO, NO, NO.

You really only see a small portion of the child/parent interaction. You have no idea what each parent is like at home when alone with the child. Let the courts do their work.

Just tell the mom you thought about it and/or talked with some other providers who have had the exeprience, and the answer was: sorry, I can't.

[Jenniferdawn]

I personally have not seen anything that I would say make me concerned for the dcb safety. Poor parenting style, yes. But I could say the same for dcm too. Guess I should stay out of it. I'm just wavering because the truth is that i did hear him say this so I would be stating the truth. Only i just don't feel like it is a big enough of a statement to turn the tide either way.

[Crystal]

I would document it. I would document certain things Mom says too. It sounds as if at some point you may be asked to testify and it would be in your best interest to have proper documentation. Also, if abuse is at all possible, documenting may show a pattern that you wouldn't recognize otherwise.

I would tell Mom that I am remaining neutral and that it is not your business to get involved in their business. I would document for myself.