New Sibling And 3yr Old Acting Up. HELP!!

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I have a 3.5 year old that has been with me since infancy. They now have a new baby in their house. Baby is 3 weeks old. The 3.5 year old has been having melt down after meltdown here at DC. Has stopped napping as well. Seems so tired and craving attention. Very impatient etc.

I should add, mom is home for 12 weeks, but bringing the older child here the entire time, regular full time day care schedule. My thought is partly that she knows mom is home! Honestly, I have never had anyone on maternity leave bring the other here the entire leave. They usually cut back on hours here. I have even had a couple keep them home during their entire leave.

Any advice??

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I sent my 2 year old to daycare the entire 9 weeks I was on maternity leave...mama needed some rest and bonding time. my only advice would be to talk to the parents-maybe they don't realize it's an issue for you. If my little guy had been having issues I'd want to know so I could make a point to spend a little more time with him during the transition.

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All of my DCK came here the whole time their mom's were on maternity. must have been someting in the water, cuz I had 5 families have babies all within a few weeks of each other.

I also had the issue with one of my 4 year old DCK displaying bad behavior and baby talking. I just carried on as normal with it. I did not change any thing here, because the issue was at home not here. I decided that if I were to try to step back and let him just be, then I would be creating a monster.

SO I just kept things the way that they are. I talked with the parents about it and let them know so that they could decide what to do about it.

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Just seemed strange to me that parents dont want to spend any extra time with their kids. The mom said today that it is just easier to bring the older one here. I am sure it is, but wanted told ask her, why she wanted another child then. Surely 2 will be more work!

This the problem with the kids today. Parents want kids, but don't want to raise them.

Btw, I do allow parents to decrease hours and rates during maternity leave. This the first time the parent did not want to!

[daycare]

Just seemed strange to me that parents dont want to spend any extra time with their kids. The mom said today that it is just easier to bring the older one here. I am sure it is, but wanted told ask her, why she wanted another child then. Surely 2 will be more work!

This the problem with the kids today. Parents want kids, but don't want to raise them.

Btw, I do allow parents to decrease hours and rates during maternity leave. This the first time the parent did not want to!

what about giving that new child some one on one attention like their older child got when they were born? What about building a bond with that new child. I think that it is great that the mother is trying to build a bond with her new baby and trying hard not to off-set the older siblings schedule. Having a new baby is hard work. I am sure that the mom needs to catch up on sleep that she is not getting during the night or perhaps had a difficult pregnancy that she would like time to rest and heal from.

Dont be mad at this mom for not doing things with her children the way you wish she would do them. Just thank her for keeping her child that is in your care on a consistent schedule. NOw you will not need to retrain this child like you would if they stayed home with mom while on her maternity leave....

[Scout]

Really?? I kept ds home with me the whole 12 weeks i was. They need to feel just as loved as that little baby that is getting most of mom's attention! I didn't want him to feel replaced or forgotten. I felt it was the most important thing for him during the most confusing time in his little life thus far.

[daycare]

Really?? I kept ds home with me the whole 12 weeks i was. They need to feel just as loved as that little baby that is getting most of mom's attention! I didn't want him to feel replaced or forgotten. I felt it was the most important thing for him during the most confusing time in his little life thus far.

each person is different and I think that as providers that we should try to respect whatever they decide to do with their children while on their maternity leave.

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I agree that they have the right to do as they want. I know that I have my job BECAUSE parents work.
It just makes me sad. I took care of my own as infants, with a VERY short maternity break AND my day care kids, 6 kids and some parents can't do it with 2. I just don't get it. Whenever I take a day off I do it to be with my own children. Can't imagine being off for 3 months and not having them with me.
Honestly, most of my parents go to at least part time when on maternity leave and others have just come one or two days. I give them a good break in cost when they do that because I feel it is important to spend time with all of your children!
Guess I am just the odd one these days!

[Scout]

each person is different and I think that as providers that we should try to respect whatever they decide to do with their children while on their maternity leave.

I wasn't judging. It just makes me sad. I also was the only mom in the hospital that kept her baby in the room with her the whole stay! Maybe I am not the norm! I just did what I felt was right for my situation, I know it is not right for everyone else!