Help!

[wahmof3]

Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

I am working on sticking up for myself in my business, I tend to people please.

BUT they would not be welcome back into my home after all of this and the request to steam clean would've sealed the deal if the whole floor sniffing hadn't already.

I would eat bread and butter until I found a replacement! SMH

Sorry you are going through this!

[canadiancare]

wait until they notice that it is something at their place.

[lovemykidstoo]

Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

Good luck today. I hope it goes well. Absolutely look for someone else and give these a@@holes the boot. They are just outrageous. Tell them that they can pay for the steam cleaning since they are the only one with the problem.

[lovemykidstoo]

BTW, did you ever find out what he had in the bag?

[dave4him]

My response would be, um the floor is where all the dirt is. I would be more excited my child is crawling then worrying about a what they are crawling through. Crazy

I have laminte flooring and its very hard to keep clean 100% of the time

[Meeko]

Show up on their doorstep in the next day or two armed with a bag of swabs, disposable overalls, rubber gloves, hair net, shoe covers, a surgical mask and a hazardous waste container and say you smelled something on her clothes that you didn't recognize. It might be something that would cause a reaction to your other daycare kids, so you need to swab their home for filth.........

Seriously.....I would have ordered him out of my house.

[HappyHearts]

This is outrageous!!! I've been in this business for almost 20 years and never heard something as out of this world as this!!

I too would have booted them out as soon as he hit his knees to the floor.

I am so very very sorry you are dealing with this. How dare they humiliate you this way. And, to not even offer some sort of apology after talking to them about it.

I sure wish you didn't need the income and could term them now instead of waiting. If it were me, I just couldn't be comfortable with them in my home.
I hope you find a replacement very soon. {hugs}

[crazydaycarelady]

I think they handled this whole thing wrong! Since they have been with you for so long wouldn't it have been nice if they bought you a gift cetrificate for carpet cleaning and just said something like "now that the baby is crawling" instead of going the humiliation route?

My crawlers go home with dirty knees and sometimes tummies. I apologize but the parents brush it off, say it happens at home too, and are glad the kids are scooting all over!

[Lilbutterflie]

Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

I would be so livid!! Not only did he crawl on his hands & knees inspecting and smelling around for "Grunge and filth", and then not even apologize after you explained how insulted you were, but then they had the nerve to request your carpets be steam cleaned??? I don't care if I needed the money, I'd terminate care immediately & we'd be on a super strict budget until I found their replacement.

Are your carpets due for a steam cleaning anyway? Or have they been done recently? If they were fairly recently done, I'd show them your receipt and request they pay for it since the carpets are not due for steam cleaning yet.

[Blackcat31]

Seriously?!? WTF? Pardon my expressions, but I have to admit I am completely shocked and dumbfounded that a parent would be so down right insulting to actually do something like that!

I find their behavior to be rude, disrespectful and absolutely NOT accetable!!!!

I would be mortified and humiliated if a DCP asked to crawl around my floors.

OP, I surely hope you aren't having the carpets cleaned at YOUR expense...I am thinking DCF should be paying for it out of their own pockets!

Wow! I just don't even know what to say. I know for me personally, I would have showed dad the door and termed IMMEDIATELY the second he told me that DCM sent him to sniff my floors!

I have said it before and I will say it again:

My time, sanity and personal self-worth are far more valuable to me than keeping clients who think they can treat me like dirt!(or sniff my floors)

[SilverSabre25]

Unbelievable.

Just...absolutely unbelievable.

I cannot believe the nerve of some people.

OP I am so sorry your are dealing with this situation...how stressful!

[SilverSabre25]

Seriously?!? WTF? Pardon my expressions, but I have to admit I am completely shocked and dumbfounded that a parent would be so down right insulting to actually do something like that!

I find their behavior to be rude, disrespectful and absolutely NOT accetable!!!!

I would be mortified and humiliated if a DCP asked to crawl around my floors.

OP, I surely hope you aren't having the carpets cleaned at YOUR expense...I am thinking DCF should be paying for it out of their own pockets!

Wow! I just don't even know what to say. I know for me personally, I would have showed dad the door and termed IMMEDIATELY the second he told me that DCM sent him to sniff my floors!

I have said it before and I will say it again:

My time, sanity and personal self-worth are far more valuable to me than keeping clients who think they can treat me like dirt!(or sniff my floors)

Yeah, this!

[SunshineMama]

I am mortified for you- how insulting! I'm sorry that you had to endure that its sad what we have to put up with to get the bills paid.

[dave4him]

It is very insulting and i would begin fishing for a new kid to take their place

[shelby]

It is very insulting and i would begin fishing for a new kid to take their place

this is what I would do! Insulting but RUDE also!