*sigh* Just Venting.......

[daycarediva]

Maybe this should be it's own thread, but if anyone wants to expand on WHY they don't like to have kiddos show up in pajamas I'd love to have it for reference, especially the ones that have low enrollment (our provider just takes care of 1-2 kids besides her own, our included so the argument that it'd be disruptive to dress 6-8 kids every morning wouldn't help)

I have to argue with not just my 3 year old, but frequently my HUSBAND as well and insist that DD must be dressed, fed and have her hair fixed before I drop her off at our provider's house and yes she does need to be wearing comfortable play clothes and closed toes shoes with traction (not dresses or tutus) because they play outside most days. (My daughter can dress herself for the most part, she just doesn't want to get out of her warm comfy pajamas some days - which I can I totally relate to!) My husband suggests that our provider won't mind, that we're paying her to care for our child for 9 hours/day and part of caring for a child is changing her clothes. I've even told him that I visit a daycare forum and it drives the ladies on there nuts but then he just tells me to stay off the Internet ::

I don't think it's a matter of inconvenience even (with 1-2 kids) I think it's disrespectful. Plus, it's YOUR child, not mine. Mine are dressed and ready to go before I open. I have made arrangements with ONE family that drops off a LO early (leave their house at 5:30-5:45 AM depending on traffic and weather) and arrive at my house at 6:00ish, that she can come in jammies, because she goes right back to bed.

When my oldest was in daycare, we would have a breakfast together in the morning, ALWAYS. It was part of our routine. She wanted to wear pj's and comfy clothes, and I bought matching track suits, or plush suits, etc. I think you're missing out on that time. Plus at 3, it becomes a routine, and those routines won't have to be started in kindergaten.

[Country Kids]

My parents never came to the door to find any (unless an infant and then rarely) of my own children still in the pajamas. My kids were up and dressed for the day when the first child arrived. This was as early as 6:30 in the morning but they were up and ready to go. It was also a point to show parents that if I can have me and four children up and ready there is no reason they couldn't.

This was my job and if they were going out the door to a childcare, I would have had them up and fed/dressed also. When I did work outside the home, I had to drop my little one off at 5:30 in the morning. They were up at 4:30/dressed/fed breakfast and then we left. So when I have had parents tell me they don't have time, I let them know that yes its hard but its a requirement to come. here. If I could do it that early in the a.m., I'm sure someone that has to be at work at 8:00 can find the time.

Let your hubs know that no, its not our job-its the parents job. Let him know that she won't be allowed to show up to preschool/school in her pajamas. I let my parents know that I'm the training ground for parents and kids to see how they will handle mornings when the child has to go to schoo.

[Lucy]

Maybe this should be it's own thread, but if anyone wants to expand on WHY they don't like to have kiddos show up in pajamas I'd love to have it for reference, especially the ones that have low enrollment (our provider just takes care of 1-2 kids besides her own, our included so the argument that it'd be disruptive to dress 6-8 kids every morning wouldn't help)

I have to argue with not just my 3 year old, but frequently my HUSBAND as well and insist that DD must be dressed, fed and have her hair fixed before I drop her off at our provider's house and yes she does need to be wearing comfortable play clothes and closed toes shoes with traction (not dresses or tutus) because they play outside most days. (My daughter can dress herself for the most part, she just doesn't want to get out of her warm comfy pajamas some days - which I can I totally relate to!) My husband suggests that our provider won't mind, that we're paying her to care for our child for 9 hours/day and part of caring for a child is changing her clothes. I've even told him that I visit a daycare forum and it drives the ladies on there nuts but then he just tells me to stay off the Internet ::

I feel that changing them falls into the "nanny" category. My job is to supervise them while you're at work. Yes, I feed them because they are here 8-10 hours and HAVE to eat. Yes, I change diapers for the same reason I just stated. But other personal care, or activities of daily living are the parents' job, not mine. I don't brush their hair, brush their teeth, give them vitamins, give them a bath, etc. etc. Those are activities of daily living that are out of the realm of Daycare or Babysitting. In my opinion, anyway. I know that many on here feel differently and wouldn't mind dressing their daycare kids, but this is how I personally see it. It just comes off to me as the parent pushing their own duties off onto us. Maybe they need to feel like our "boss" or something. Like "I pay you, so you do what I tell you." That's just how it makes me feel. Your mileage may vary.

[canadiancare]

I will do occasional pajama days just because it is fun for the kids but only on special occasions. For example Halloween. Instead of coming in a costume they can come in pjs.

On that note if they come in a costume they aren't allowed any accessories and the parents have to accept that I am not responsible if it falls apart before they can go trick or treating.

[bunnyslippers]

I will not change into clothes unless the parents have discussed it with me beforehand. I also don't comb hair, finish breakfast that was started in the car, or brush teeth. Do it before you get to my house.

[nanglgrl]

I feel that changing them falls into the "nanny" category. My job is to supervise them while you're at work. Yes, I feed them because they are here 8-10 hours and HAVE to eat. Yes, I change diapers for the same reason I just stated. But other personal care, or activities of daily living are the parents' job, not mine. I don't brush their hair, brush their teeth, give them vitamins, give them a bath, etc. etc. Those are activities of daily living that are out of the realm of Daycare or Babysitting. In my opinion, anyway. I know that many on here feel differently and wouldn't mind dressing their daycare kids, but this is how I personally see it. It just comes off to me as the parent pushing their own duties off onto us. Maybe they need to feel like our "boss" or something. Like "I pay you, so you do what I tell you." That's just how it makes me feel. Your mileage may vary.

Exactly, and I LOVE the highlighted part.

I will not change into clothes unless the parents have discussed it with me beforehand. I also don't comb hair, finish breakfast that was started in the car, or brush teeth. Do it before you get to my house.

[Cat Herder]

On the money issue. NO PAY NO STAY. I enforce this one HARD. I have no problem turning them away at the door. I can't see them going back to their job without payment, either.

For jammies:

If the DCM is not wearing makeup, has bedhead and looks thrown together herself, I can laugh off an occassional PJ drop off day on a toddler or preschooler. (insert old Cathy cartoon image here)

I prefer them for infants.

[Heidi]

Maybe this should be it's own thread, but if anyone wants to expand on WHY they don't like to have kiddos show up in pajamas I'd love to have it for reference, especially the ones that have low enrollment (our provider just takes care of 1-2 kids besides her own, our included so the argument that it'd be disruptive to dress 6-8 kids every morning wouldn't help)

I have to argue with not just my 3 year old, but frequently my HUSBAND as well and insist that DD must be dressed, fed and have her hair fixed before I drop her off at our provider's house and yes she does need to be wearing comfortable play clothes and closed toes shoes with traction (not dresses or tutus) because they play outside most days. (My daughter can dress herself for the most part, she just doesn't want to get out of her warm comfy pajamas some days - which I can I totally relate to!) My husband suggests that our provider won't mind, that we're paying her to care for our child for 9 hours/day and part of caring for a child is changing her clothes. I've even told him that I visit a daycare forum and it drives the ladies on there nuts but then he just tells me to stay off the Internet ::

For me, if it's the exception, not the rule, that's fine. I think we're talking about parents who do it regularly and expect it.

I had a 4 yo for a while that would pull the "I don't want to get dressed". I TOLD his mom to bring him in his pj's. Then, he would need to sit somewhere off to the side and get dressed once he got here. Once he was ready, he could join the group. Matter-of-fact-like...

But, that's a situation where he was being stubborn, and was perfectly capable of getting dressed himself. That's a bit different than someone handing over their sopping wet, pajama'd baby or toddler every morning.