Do You Allow Hair Accessories?

[bunnyslippers]

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This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.

Thanks for the input. I will say I am a bit insulted that you think I am not a good provider, as you don't know me or my exceptional program.

That being said, allow me to further explain. First off, I have a little girl in my program who wears hair bows every day. They DO NOT stay in. They fall out all the time, in all sorts of places. Then I waste valuable TEACHING time looking for a silly bow that, by the way, does NOT hold her hair back.

As for your next issue regarding me not doing a child's hair for the father, allow me to enlighten you. I am a very caring provider, at all times. It is not, however, my job to parent a child when their own parent chooses not to. This particular family is one that will bring their child with no shoes, with no coat, with an overnight diaper on, and without having eaten breakfast. AT NINE IN THE MORNING. And where did I say he said "please". He didn't. I also don't think being a father excuses a PARENT from caring appriopriately for his daughter. I have two boys - does that mean I should never play baseball or teach them how to pee standing up? And finally, the mother is HOME in the morning. So she certainly could help with the hair if the father is that inept. As I said, not my kid, not my problem.

I am a very good provider, and I have a huge heart. My program has a waiting list, and most programs in my area are fighting to find clients.

The reason I have a waiting list is because I don't waste my time on other people's responsibilities. I have tweaked my program rules over the years, as a result of experience.

I don't mind disagreement with my opinions. Just don't make assumptions when you are clearly not fully informed.

[daycare]

I have to agree with you....if he wanted to learn how to do her hair there is a thing called youtube he can use to learn.

My best guy friend is a single dad raising two kids fully on his own. He has one o son and one younger daughter.

One day we were at the beach and he was getting annoyed with my hair in his face ( i have really long big hair) and he said do you have a brush and a rubber band??? I am puzzled. he french braided my hair. I was in shock. I asked how he learned and he told me he bought a book on how to do hair. He said that one day one of the kids teased her that her hair was always messy, so he felt like a horrible father and knew that since the mom was not in the picture, he had to teach himself.

sorry, if the dad really wanted to learn he could. I don't feel that it is our responsibility to teach them how.

It all goes back to offering SPECIAL.. you give an inch, they take a mile...

I could care less about hair and clothing....I'd rather spend time playing....

[Meyou]

I am with Willow and Silver as I have long hair too and if it is in my face, I get a little crazy so anyone having their hair fixed in an appropriate manner works for me, as long as the barrettes or ties don't fall out and aren't choking hazards.

I will also re-do or fix a child's hair if necessary.

I have a little guy here that "won't let" mom or dad take him to get a hair cut. It wouldn't be so bad but his hair is like super out of control and it is starting to actually be an issue because stuff is getting stuck in his hair and well, it is just really unruly and really getting out of control. Not really sure what to do with this issue though as I have never had to tell a parent their kid's hair is a problem... ::

I cut the bangs of two DCG's for this reason. They'll let me cut them sitting in my bathroom sink but they won't go to the hairdresser. Both have tried and I've fixed the results.

[dave4him]

I dont mind at all, mine as well look cute as long as they dont come off and become a hazard.

[PolkaTots]

I only allow hair things for those who are able to keep them in. I've had several girls in the past rip them from their hair as soon as they get here, and although have never had a child choke on them, I had a DCG that would constantly shove things in her nose. Actually was sent to the emergency room twice because she pulled her little plastic rubberbands out and had them shoved so far up her nose, we couldn't reach them. (She had this issue at her house too) Thank goodness she grew out of that phase! I do have it listed in my contract as well, that if they don't leave them in, they aren't allowed to wear them.

[Blackcat31]

I cut the bangs of two DCG's for this reason. They'll let me cut them sitting in my bathroom sink but they won't go to the hairdresser. Both have tried and I've fixed the results.

I am willing to bet mom would give me the go-ahead to do something for this little guy but I honestly have no idea what to do or how I would cut his hair....he is African-American and his hair is, lets just say really BIG right now.

[Meyou]

I am willing to bet mom would give me the go-ahead to do something for this little guy but I honestly have no idea what to do or how I would cut his hair....he is African-American and his hair is, lets just say really BIG right now.

Awwww, I bet it looks cute even if it's a pain.

[My3cents]

[QUOTE=bunnyslippers;269444]

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This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.

Thanks for the input. I will say I am a bit insulted that you think I am not a good provider, as you don't know me or my exceptional program.

That being said, allow me to further explain. First off, I have a little girl in my program who wears hair bows every day. They DO NOT stay in. They fall out all the time, in all sorts of places. Then I waste valuable TEACHING time looking for a silly bow that, by the way, does NOT hold her hair back.

As for your next issue regarding me not doing a child's hair for the father, allow me to enlighten you. I am a very caring provider, at all times. It is not, however, my job to parent a child when their own parent chooses not to. This particular family is one that will bring their child with no shoes, with no coat, with an overnight diaper on, and without having eaten breakfast. AT NINE IN THE MORNING. And where did I say he said "please". He didn't. I also don't think being a father excuses a PARENT from caring appriopriately for his daughter. I have two boys - does that mean I should never play baseball or teach them how to pee standing up? And finally, the mother is HOME in the morning. So she certainly could help with the hair if the father is that inept. As I said, not my kid, not my problem.

I am a very good provider, and I have a huge heart. My program has a waiting list, and most programs in my area are fighting to find clients.

The reason I have a waiting list is because I don't waste my time on other people's responsibilities. I have tweaked my program rules over the years, as a result of experience.

I don't mind disagreement with my opinions. Just don't make assumptions when you are clearly not fully informed.

I am sorry if I insulted you- was not my intent. I just wanted to state that I don't think that way, "not my kid, not my problem"

If a child is going to be with me all day or most of the day, I don't want the child to have hair in her face, eyes. I can make a difference while that child is in my care...... even if the parent/s doesn't for whatever reason. It takes me no time to throw a child's hair up out of the way. When a child is in my care, I feel like it is my problem.

We all do things different and that I have respect for. If it is working for you great! It would not work for me-

Best-

[JennyBear]

I have to agree with you....if he wanted to learn how to do her hair there is a thing called youtube he can use to learn.

Ditto! we have a 3 year old daughter and my hubby tries very hard to do her hair. (It's actually funny watching him struggle, when I can do a great job in seconds, ). She may have lopsided pig tails or a crooked ponytail but dad tries and he's getting better.

Just because they are men it doesn't make them completely useless :P
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[My3cents]

Ditto! we have a 3 year old daughter and my hubby tries very hard to do her hair. (It's actually funny watching him struggle, when I can do a great job in seconds, ). She may have lopsided pig tails or a crooked ponytail but dad tries and he's getting better.

Just because they are men it doesn't make them completely useless :P
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LOL my hubby does the same with our 3 year old. She loves it!

I had a Dad come in and Mom was away for a while (service) and he had brush and elastics in hand, said he tried but his hands are big to get around the elastic and the child's hair and he just struggled trying to do something with her hair. He asked if I would mind. I said I would do it, no problem. He was frustrated with himself for being able to do everything else but not this. I can cook, clean, baths, diapers etc, but this is not my thing at all.

Then I have had men come in that have better hair then I do. LOL

I know for me that I am completely useless when it comes to doing anything with the car. I have no interest to do that, unless I absolutely have to do it and then it is usually fail on my part, because I just don't know. He does it and I do other things. It is not a male-female thing for us. We both would learn if needed. Our strengths are just different.

Anywhoooo

[countrymom]

I have 3 girls of my own, they love doing hair on the dcgs. So I have no problem. I supply the stuff too. i can't stand hair in faces, this drives me crazy. I even if they need a haircut get one of my parents to do it (they are a hair dresser) I know that parents are capable but when my girls do it, makes it so much more special.

[Meeko]

I love this. I love it when parents say that their kid "wouldn't let them" do something. I always think seriously? UGH

I laugh at those kinds of comments too. I have actually asked a mother
(who lived a few doors down from us) who always used the words "he insisted" (when her son would bring things from home that she knew were not allowed)....

"What will you do when he is 16 and "insists" on taking the car and staying out all night? If you can't control him now, what makes you think he will listen then?"

She would just shrug.

He left me when he was 5, but is now 14 and already has a police record.......

[Simpli Adorable]

Totally Agree

Hello.

I came across your thread and thought I'd post my comment. I make and sell handmade hair accessories, and continuously stress the importance of small hair accessories that pose as a choking hazard to small children. I totally agree with your feelings on removing small hair accessories when the child is at school, daycare, sleeping, playing outside, etc as it so easy for them to put it in their mouth. They're definitely cute, but need to be removed when the child is not being supervised 100% of the time. I think more parents need to become more aware of the danger of leaving hair accessories on their babies.

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[melilley]

NO! I once had a child once when I worked in a center, get ahold of a small hair clip and he swallowed it. We had to call his parents and they had to go to the doctor and the doc suggested that he get an x-ray. Sure enough it showed up. Luckily we just had to watch for it when he had a bm and it did pass. It was a scary situation, we were lucky that the mom saw that it was an accident! From that day forward we banned any hair pieces in the infant and toddler rooms. So with that being said, I won't allow hair pieces in my home unless they are big and do not come apart!

[Meeko]

Only very simple accessories like an elastic for a ponytail. Too much of a liability to have a crawler choke on a barrette that may fall on the floor.

Just yesterday, I had a three year old come with long dangling earrings in. I took them out and handed them to the mom and said "We don't want torn ears!" She said "Oh I didn't think of that!"

Note: Due to my new teeth I actually said "We don't want torn eershhh" ::::