Any Of You Watch Kids Everyday Even Though A Parent Doesn't Work?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If you change it, be prepared for the parent to leave. Some parents do not want to spend time with their children and will avoid it at any cost.

I used to work as an in-home attendant. That child had people with her from sun up (7:00am) to sun down (9:00pm) 7 days a week. If there wasn't a second shifter coming in that day, the Mom would look extremely beaten down and say, "I guess you can't stay. *BIG SIGH* I think we'll be ok. It will all be ok." The Dad would never spend time with his child beyond saying hi and bye. This was a married couple who had a person watching each of their 2 children daily. The funny thing? This Mom blogs about her "hard life" all the time and how hard it is to be a parent. ::

[providerandmomof4]

I never question a persons needs. It keeps me in business.
I look at it as their choice.

This is how I used to feel and really still do. As long as they are here on time, they can do whatever they want. However, if dcd is paying for dc when they don't actually need it (because of dcm) this is where it becomes touchy. I had a similar situation and it ended with the non custodial parent pulling the child from dc and attempting full custody. I was right in the middle. I'm not sure what I would do in your situation because in mine...the custodial dcp paid for dc, even when he didn't need it, and dcm was livid cause she wanted dcg with her and not in dc. Soooo. I'm not sure if I wouldn't say something to both of the dcp and especially whomever pays for dc about not being able to cont working that many hrs. Maybe they will have to work it out themselves.regarding who will care for dcg when you can't.

[daycare]

Same here until I went to part time this year and the parents got 3months notice. So as a favor (off day sitter became ill) I said I'd take on the other two days for this child. Ex pays daycare so sole custody parent gets free care. Now sole custody parent will be home and still won't fill in for the off day sitter but will choose to bring the kid here.

I get paid of course but Would rather have two days less pay (and dcp is fully aware of this) to be with my kid.

To each their own but the extent a parent takes to not be with their kid amazes me.

Someone said maybe the parent is depressed. I'm sure this is most of the case. Part of it stems from "leaving my kid boohoohoo ::cry cry cry::". Yet on time off for "stress days" it's "I slept from 8a-3p, boy I must've needed the break!".

Its an issue now. Kid was sick and I called "someone needs to get dck ASAP" as I have to throw out rugs and clean up my house now with other dck in tow and I didn't get one callback and dck was last to leave.

I don't have to do daycare but know my son enjoys the kids and I mostly do too. Until this crap happens.

I also love to do things to help families when I can. However, in the future, you need to make sure that they are aware that you are giving them special and make them sign a contract stating the new terms and conditions.

Example, if this was my client and I really wanted to help them out and it worked for me too, then i would have made a contract with terms that this new schedule will only be valid so long DCM still has the same work schedule.

I would have also included that the signer of the contract also understands that the daycare is normally closed on tuesdays and thursdays, however, have agreed to open to be able to accommodate DCP new schedule. Should parents schedule no longer have a need for full time care, parent will be expected to resort back to prior conditions of the previous part time contract???

Something to this extent..
when you offer special, we all know that it becomes expected. If you make sure that you give special with a contract and a full understanding, then I think it does help the parent to understand that you are giving them special and that YOU are laying the terms for it, not them.

anything that you don't want to do on a normal basis and it's only a temporary or one time thing, I would suggest writing up new terms and conditions for it.

like you let DCP slide on their late fee. I would be handing them something to sign that made them aware that I was waving the late fee this time, but next time they are getting one.... and so on

[littlemissmuffet]

Currently 4 of my families are stay at home moms and their child attends full time care.

I just REALLY have to point this out because it's bothering me.... but stay-at-home moms don't put their kids in daycare full time. Your moms are stay-at-home women.

[daycare]

I just REALLY have to point this out because it's bothering me.... but stay-at-home moms don't put their kids in daycare full time. Your moms are stay-at-home women.

great point.... however, some of them do have other children at home. The one that I love the most is the SAHM that has one little one at home and two Nannies?? Still trying to figure it out. But it could be for reasons that I have no clue and I would never ask..

[rhymia1]

Personally, I no longer care where the parents are during my open to close times. I don't ask, I just keep cell phone numbers programed in my phone for emergencies.

IMHO, The kids are here and safe. My program is 50 hours a week, for one set price (not attendance based), my group and family benefits from the routine, reliability and consistency of everyone keeping the same schedule.

As for the resentment, by not making exceptions to my policies I find I no longer feel taken advantage of. Simplifying has its rewards.

This is what I have done.
I can understand in the OP's case it seems like she is working additional hours for this parent, something she agreed to because of the working schedule. So I can understand that if you are now working outside your normal working hours that this can be frustrating. I would probably tell her that you are going back to your orginal agreement as of x date. Then the next time she asks for extended hours, you'll know what the answer will be

[canadiancare]

I have had parents keep their oldest with me while home on maternity leave with the baby a) so the baby gets special one on one the way the older child did and b) to save the spot so the baby can take it when she needs to go back to work. here most of the working moms get a year off so it often works out that when baby is ready for the spot, older sibling is ready to start school.

[E Daycare]

This is what I have done.
I can understand in the OP's case it seems like she is working additional hours for this parent, something she agreed to because of the working schedule. So I can understand that if you are now working outside your normal working hours that this can be frustrating. I would probably tell her that you are going back to your orginal agreement as of x date. Then the next time she asks for extended hours, you'll know what the answer will be

This is exactly why. I'm only open 3days a week but made the exception for this child due to backup sitter unforeseen issues. This is the run down:

Ex pays for daycare

Ex also had it set up with the backup sitter to cut down on cost. Backup sitter got hurt.

Sole custody parent Asked for me to go full time the day my 3day contract went into effect.

Parents had 3mo to get their crap together before my 3 day schedule started.

Sole custody parent might be a sahp but still keep kid full time.

Sole custody parent keeps kid here 10hrs a day.

Dck and myself aren't too thrilled about the situation as dck is ALWAYS asking to go home.

[E Daycare]

Also, will I be the bad guy that says:

" yeah I know you're not 'feeling well' but I need us to go back to our arranged schedule if you stay home"

This dckp is trying to get out of work due to being ill. When this happens how do I not seem so insensitive?

Dcp really lays the thick coating to being sooooo sick yet come the evening/weekend is magically better (possibly that 7hr nap did wonders). I'm not dcp so I can't vouch for what dcp is going through but after 3mo of favors will I be the bad guy who makes the dcp take cae of their own kid when they are so sick they need to take leave from work?

This is cutting into my own kids time. I know I sound super selfish and insensitive but this is not what I wanted and Im starting to burn out from it.

If parent stays home this favor ends the day after Halloween.

[canadiancare]

if you only want to operate 3 days a week then it isn't your duty to offer extended care beyond your comfort level. This has nothing to do with whether she is working or not. This is the terms of your service. Give her a deadline and let her know that your 3 day schedule will be resuming after this time. It will be up to her to decide if she wants to stay with you on these terms.

[E Daycare]

if you only want to operate 3 days a week then it isn't your duty to offer extended care beyond your comfort level. This has nothing to do with whether she is working or not. This is the terms of your service. Give her a deadline and let her know that your 3 day schedule will be resuming after this time. It will be up to her to decide if she wants to stay with you on these terms.

This is perfect!