What Do I Do To Protect Myself …?

[familyschoolcare]

I have a non-verbal 4 year old in my care (only communications skills child has is to point and/or drag you to whatever he wants). This child is not on

my food program and the parents supply all his food they do these because they have him on a very strict diet of no food coloring, no dairy, and no

gluten (I offered to do that for them as I have experience with no food coloring and no gluten diet). After I enrolled the child, (hours before the first

time I ws to pick DCB up the father informed me that a third party would be picking him up from my house and taking him to speech therapy. Yesterday

was the first day that this happened. Yesterday when I left my house at 4:25 to take a different DCK to soccer practice. This person we will call her

Nanny, was parked across my street in her car with a teenaged person. I thought this was strange, because I told Nanny would pick DCB up at 5:00

but went about my business. The Nanny does pick DCN up fro my house at 5:00. At which time she hear me call the child by his “Americanized” nick

name and asked what do you call him. Again, I thought this was strange but since DCD brought Nanny to my house and introduced her to me that morning

(because the other Nanny quiet at the last minute on Tuesday) I did not do or say anything about it. I did ask the Nanny if she would see the parents

and she said yes, I then asked her to give a sealed envelope to the DCP’s (it had a note in it about how the day went) Then as they are leaving, my

house I over hears Nanny ask DCB if he wants to go to the park. (I thought he was going to speech therapy which is why I have such strict getting him

ready to go home direction but that a whole different story) Again, thought was strange but did not do or say anything. Today DCD meets me at the

school at pick up time to give DCB some medicine that he takes every Friday on a strict schedule (I new this was going to happen and it was arranged and

agreed upon at enrollment). DCD talks to me about a few things one of which was he said that yesterday DCB was drinking some juice and DCD was like

what where did this come from he asked if it came from my house. I told DCD that the only thing DCB had to drink at my house was water. I asked

what the juice was in and DCD said a
juice box. Therefore, I told DCD we do not even have those at my house. So

now, I am thinking that the nanny gave to DCB and I am not sure what I
could/should do to protect myself.

[Blackcat31]

I don't think you need to do anything other than follow your normal routine. Dad needs to trust that you are honest and doing what you say you are. If DCB is old enough to nod or shake his head he can answer dad when asked if Nanny gave him the juicebox.

I personally wouldnt worry about anything beyond what happens at your house.

[Chipmunk]

Also, I wouldn't use Nanny as a go-between.

Document EVERYTHING the child eats or drinks at your house, and note whether you or the parents provided it.

Do you have everything written out - the parents' expectations of care you'll provide, and your solutions to issues discussed?

[familyschoolcare]

The DCB does not know what way to move his head to indicate yes or no.
I don't have a problem with documenting every thing. If I had realized at enrollment that a third party would be picking the boy up every day, then I would have brought the subject up at that time. The parents and I would have agreed on what information they want everyday and how to get it to them. I will talk to Dad about what this Monday morning when he drops of DCB 'so bag. I am going to suggest that I put a note in the daycare bag.