Red Flags

[momofsix]

First of all, while you are in one room with the children he could be ANYWHERE in your house doing/taking who knows what!
Second of all, with a computer I'm sure he has a webcam and could be recording you, the kids...anything he wants and you wouldn't even know it!
If anyone makes you uncomfortable, ever, that is a red flag. You don't even have to have a real reason-a gut feeling of uncomfortable is often the best gauge of people we have.
If you're not comfortable with being firm yourself with them do as others have said and blame licensing. Strange adults are NEVER allowed to hang out in a daycare. You are responsible for all the other children first and foremost!

[HappyHearts]

Wow! Every time I think I've heard it all, I see something like this! Kind of scary in a strange sort of way! Definitely agree with the others, these are some HUGE red flags. I would never feel comfortable with them in my home even for a second after this, so I would run away fast too!!

[daycare]

Yeah, what she said.

I had to go back and make sure I was not responding to an old post because I saw your response..............

so great to see you!!!

and yes this is a real post.....I have emailed with this provider and she is very very new and you all know that we have all made mistakes starting out...

[cheerfuldom]

Please dont do this OP!!!

[mom2many]

This is just very, very strange and I would never allow a parent to do this on so many different levels!

I agree with everyone else...HUGE red flags!!!! No way, No how would I allow this to go on!

[DaisyMamma]

we have all made mistakes starting out...

Isn't that the truth!

[crazydaycarelady]

Absolutely do not do this!

A NORMAL person would find someone to come to their house a watch the child, a NORMAL person would not want to sit at a strangers house and work, and a NORMAL person would realize it is crazy to even ask.

AlsoI don't think its been mentioned but wouldn't he be using your interent!

[clep]

And I thought I heard everything. This is crazy and I would be deeply concerned about this couple taking my house hostage, literally. I would very quickly terminate them, completely in a nice way.

This is the craziest thing!!!!

[renodeb]

How weird. You know there is just something you feel with a prospective client when it feels right. Like a connection with them. Its hard to explain. Maybe its a vibe. Or an instinct we as providers have.
Debbie

[DCMama]

First of all thank you for the responses. Second of all i must clarify somethings ( not like it make it any better) he asked that, i did not agree to it. I agree for them to stay a little bit on the first day to see how i run things, but after that off they go to wherever they must. My annoyance is that he asked that during the interview. I was literally like looking at him and was like are you serious? That cant happen. I just cant... But for them to ask that an want to come over at times just to stay with their child i think is werid, just bring him home for goodness sake. I think they should just keep stayin home and take care of their own child now that i think about it. All the responses (although appericiated) make me even more scare. Okay thats it, they are out of here if they try to stay for longer than 3o min!!

[daycare]

First of all thank you for the responses. Second of all i must clarify somethings ( not like it make it any better) he asked that, i did not agree to it. I agree for them to stay a little bit on the first day to see how i run things, but after that off they go to wherever they must. My annoyance is that he asked that during the interview. I was literally like looking at him and was like are you serious? That cant happen. I just cant... But for them to ask that an want to come over at times just to stay with their child i think is werid, just bring him home for goodness sake. I think they should just keep stayin home and take care of their own child now that i think about it. All the responses (although appericiated) make me even more scare. Okay thats it, they are out of here if they try to stay for longer than 3o min!!

We all made mistakes starting out. You will make many many more...lucky for you that you found this form while starting out....

I would just tell him what I told you. It is the truth. Let him stay 30, no computer and thats it.

BTW how many other kids do you have? Can you maybe do a circle time reading while he is there and just let him sit with his kid?

[DCMama]

We all made mistakes starting out. You will make many many more...lucky for you that you found this form while starting out....

I would just tell him what I told you. It is the truth. Let him stay 30, no computer and thats it.

BTW how many other kids do you have? Can you maybe do a circle time reading while he is there and just let him sit with his kid?

Thanks daycare, will definitely learn from my mistakes. It will be him, his wife , and their son coming today again together and that if they have all the papers filled out and immunization record to give me in the morning. He actually ask for his wife to stay and for him to sometime be there if we ever decide to go long term. The while laptop thing is not for today. Of course it will b not for ever cause i didnt agree. I will deinfitely tell them about the 30 min rule and if they cant do it i will turn them away at the door. Right now i have my son, nephew, and a friend's kid. So 3? Ya we just go on with our daily routine.

[daycare]

Thanks daycare, will definitely learn from my mistakes. It will be him, his wife , and their son coming today again together and that if they have all the papers filled out and immunization record to give me in the morning. He actually ask for his wife to stay and for him to sometime be there if we ever decide to go long term. The while laptop thing is not for today. Of course it will b not for ever cause i didnt agree. I will deinfitely tell them about the 30 min rule and if they cant do it i will turn them away at the door. Right now i have my son, nephew, and a friend's kid. So 3? Ya we just go on with our daily routine.

thats how we learn with anything in life. As long as we learn from my mistakes we are good.

Well good luck to you, I hope that it all works out. Let us know if there is anything else we can help with

[DCMama]

Problem solved thanks!

[lovemykidstoo]

Good luck DC, but I seriously wouldn't even let them stay 30 minutes. He asked for his wife to be there and him sometimes? That is just not right. They need to bringing him in the morning and GO TO WORK! I don't have anyone that stays for longer than 5 minutes. You don't have to put up with that and it is very bizarre.