I Hate Being the Meanie!

[Happy Hearts]

This week is the third week of care (2 mornings a week) for my dcb. Mom is a scatterbrain. Always late, pushing the envelope. So, today she's 35 minutes late with no phone call. Really? Again?
At pick up I tell her she's late over half an hour. She says she's sorry. I said that I told her child she was coming half an hour ago and he's been waiting. And that it's interfered with nap time. AND, that I feel disrespected. I didn't want to use that word; I think, taken advantage of would have been better. Anyway, I also wanted to say that it might have made me go over ratio if another child was to come as I counted on her being on time. But, I felt myself starting to stammer and I didn't want to come off too much of a b**ch. Next time, though (and I'm sure there will be) because after all she's so special and busy and has alot on her plate, she'll get the whole speech and a late fee.

[grandmom]

Disrespected is the right word.

She will continue as long as you allow it.

[DaisyMamma]

I hope you charged her a 35 minute late fee. Many daycare charge $1/minute per child
If not, let her know you will be charging a late fee from now on and do NOT be lenient, even allowIng one minute will show her that you aren't serious.

[DCMama]

You know if it's the first time, I really hope she has a good excuse but still she should really time her her time accordingly. it is frustrating dealing with those type of parents and they do not understand why we charge a late fee. Once i worked at a center and we had a parent that completely forgot about her daughter. We had to call her and and she told us "oh I thought she was sleeping in the bed room...?" ARE YOU SERIOUS???

[Kaddidle Care]

This week is the third week of care (2 mornings a week) for my dcb. Mom is a scatterbrain. Always late, pushing the envelope. So, today she's 35 minutes late with no phone call. Really? Again?
At pick up I tell her she's late over half an hour. She says she's sorry. I said that I told her child she was coming half an hour ago and he's been waiting. And that it's interfered with nap time. AND, that I feel disrespected. I didn't want to use that word; I think, taken advantage of would have been better. Anyway, I also wanted to say that it might have made me go over ratio if another child was to come as I counted on her being on time. But, I felt myself starting to stammer and I didn't want to come off too much of a b**ch. Next time, though (and I'm sure there will be) because after all she's so special and busy and has alot on her plate, she'll get the whole speech and a late fee.

You said nothing wrong and she owes you money honey! She's getting free care all this time and she probably owes you a full hour in late fees.
Go over your contract and make sure you can charge her - otherwise you need to amend your contract.

When you start charging her $1.00 a minute she will miraculously show up on time.happyface

[Blackcat31]

Ya know what I don't understand?

Why do WE feel like meanies because parents are disrespectful, rude or needy?

Why is it the provider that is the one feeling like they did something wrong or has to watch their footing or say not say the wrong thing?

Sounds to me like daycare mom IS being disrespectful and should be called out for it. I would also not feel one bit badly about it.

I highly doubt my bank had sleepless nights or stressed employees because I made my loan payment after 3:00 so it didn't post until the next day.

I just didn't get off work in time to make it through the drivethrough to deposit.

Nope, pretty sure they don't really care. Heck they still charged me a late fee AND an overdraft fee too so...sheesh!

I have been banking there for over 20 years! Thanks for treating me "special" hometown bank!!! (insert swear word here ) ::::

[cheerfuldom]

Ya know what I don't understand?

Why do WE feel like meanies because parents are disrespectful, rude or needy?

Why is it the provider that is the one feeling like they did something wrong or has to watch their footing or say not say the wrong thing?

Sounds to me like daycare mom IS being disrespectful and should be called out for it. I would also not feel one bit badly about it.

I highly doubt my bank had sleepless nights or stressed employees because I made my loan payment after 3:00 so it didn't post until the next day.

I just didn't get off work in time to make it through the drivethrough to deposit.

Nope, pretty sure they don't really care. Heck they still charged me a late fee AND an overdraft fee too so...sheesh!

I have been banking there for over 20 years! Thanks for treating me "special" hometown bank!!! (insert swear word here ) ::::

absolutely! I call parents after they are 5 minutes late. 35 minutes late and I would be LIVID. I had to call out a dad on pushing the few minutes late to closer and closer to 15 minutes and boy was he not happy. But you know what, ever since then, he has been up to 20 minutes early! I dont care if that makes me mean.