OT - Could Use Some Advise And Comfort - Sorry Very Long

[BABYLUVER]

I am very sorry for your SIL's loss and the loss to the entire family. This must be a very difficult time for all.

Please do not feel like you cannot feel joy for your own baby-to-be. It's ok to mourn the loss of your SIL's child while being happy about your own pregnancy. You have been blessed and know how precious and fragile life can be, and have every right to feel happiness and relief that your own child is healthy without feeling guilt for something you did not cause.

That said, the best thing is to be supportive to your SIL, and go with how she's feeling. Don't be afraid to try to talk about it, in due time. Don't be afraid to listen to her grieve. Don't be afraid if she gets angry and distances herself for awhile. Just allow her to grieve in her way and be the best listener you can be.

[pregnant too]

Hugs

Regular but logged out.

OP, my prayers are with you as you deal with the loss of your nephew. I definitely would let your daycare parents know as soon as you can about the funeral, but I wouldn't feel badly about taking off the funeral day or any others days due to this.

For your own health and your unborn baby's, please try to keep yourself as calm as possible. Stress is definitely not anything you need to deal with right now. Please try not to feel guilty about your own pregnancy.

I'm due in a couple months. One of my daycare moms texted me a couple months ago to say that her baby was stillborn. It was very difficult for me to be pregnant with that news. I don't understand God's plan, but I know that baby is in a good place in Heaven. I've been really stressed out with my own pregnancy because I worry in the back of my mind that something will happen to my baby. I felt guilty that I was pregnant when I attended the funeral. I did attend the funeral though because I wanted to support the daycare family. I've texted them a couple times since to see how they're doing. They've said that they have come to accept their loss and are just taking it day to day.

Prayers as you get through this difficult season and that you have a happy, healthy baby soon.