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I'm registered, logged out for privacy. I know this is not daycare related but I can't get on my normal parenting forum and need to vent/pour my heart out about a major family situation happening this week.
I am currently pregnant with my third child. DH and I postponed getting pregnant a few months because his little sister was having trouble conceiving her first child and we wanted to wait until they made it through their first infertility treatment hoping that it would work. She was having a tough time coping with the infertility. The treatment worked and we were soon celebrating both of our pregnancies. Over the last several months we have talked about how amazing it is that our little ones would grow up together and be only a few months apart. I was set to provider child care for her baby boy after my maternity leave.
Our joy turned to fear a few weeks ago when she was rear-ended by someone too busy texting to pay attention to where he was going. Her back and neck hurt terribly and because she was nearly 7 months pregnant she took an ambulance to the ER to be checked out. She started having contractions and they kept her over night. The contractions stopped on their own and she was released. She went back a few days later for a check up and she was measuring very small. The u/s showed the baby was still growing and at the right size but her fluid had gone down a lot. They did more tests and let her go. We had her shower the next day and the following day she went in again for a check up. They admitted her right away and she spent the next two weeks in the hospital. All of her fluid was gone by that time and they determined that her uterus had torn in the accident. The baby was doing ok so they wanted to try to keep him in there until 35 weeks so that he would be more fully developed. At 34 weeks (this past Monday) she began dilating and contracting and they did an emergency c-section. He wasn't breathing when he was born and had aspirated part of the placenta and went without air for too long. His kidneys were not working and was bleeding internally though they didn't know where.
We all got a big shock last night when the doctors determined this wasn't all due to the accident. His brain was not fully developed. My husband just called and told me they are taking him off of life support. I have parents coming in less than five minutes and I'm crying my eyes out. There are so many things going through my head right now. I can't imagine what they are going through. How they will be going home to the beautiful nursery they just finished with no baby. How do I even talk about my pregnancy? I'm a mess.
I am currently pregnant with my third child. DH and I postponed getting pregnant a few months because his little sister was having trouble conceiving her first child and we wanted to wait until they made it through their first infertility treatment hoping that it would work. She was having a tough time coping with the infertility. The treatment worked and we were soon celebrating both of our pregnancies. Over the last several months we have talked about how amazing it is that our little ones would grow up together and be only a few months apart. I was set to provider child care for her baby boy after my maternity leave.
Our joy turned to fear a few weeks ago when she was rear-ended by someone too busy texting to pay attention to where he was going. Her back and neck hurt terribly and because she was nearly 7 months pregnant she took an ambulance to the ER to be checked out. She started having contractions and they kept her over night. The contractions stopped on their own and she was released. She went back a few days later for a check up and she was measuring very small. The u/s showed the baby was still growing and at the right size but her fluid had gone down a lot. They did more tests and let her go. We had her shower the next day and the following day she went in again for a check up. They admitted her right away and she spent the next two weeks in the hospital. All of her fluid was gone by that time and they determined that her uterus had torn in the accident. The baby was doing ok so they wanted to try to keep him in there until 35 weeks so that he would be more fully developed. At 34 weeks (this past Monday) she began dilating and contracting and they did an emergency c-section. He wasn't breathing when he was born and had aspirated part of the placenta and went without air for too long. His kidneys were not working and was bleeding internally though they didn't know where.
We all got a big shock last night when the doctors determined this wasn't all due to the accident. His brain was not fully developed. My husband just called and told me they are taking him off of life support. I have parents coming in less than five minutes and I'm crying my eyes out. There are so many things going through my head right now. I can't imagine what they are going through. How they will be going home to the beautiful nursery they just finished with no baby. How do I even talk about my pregnancy? I'm a mess.
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