Had To Share...Have You Ever Had A Parent Do This?

[melskids]

If my husband calls, can you tell him I went potty, BOTH #1 and #2. I want a new car.

I just laughed so hard I went #1. In my pants.

No new car for me.

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[My3cents]

worry about what is happening when the child is in your care. It takes a lot of time patience to train a child. At four-more then ready unless medical issues. I feel at this age unless a medical issue it is more about training the provider/parent. We get into a routine of it is easy to just change a diaper. Taking the time to take the child to the bathroom, put them on the potty and wait, and wipe, and praise, and wash hands and then get them out of the fascinating bathroom- it is work and time consuming and out of our normal routine of just changing the diaper.

Tell the parent you are not telling the child that. It makes you be the heavy and you don't need that added to what you already do. It is wrong on so many levels. If the parent's want to do that, let them do that on their time. It has nothing to do with you. Explain to them with out consistency and effort it just won't happen on it's own. Praise works the best. Otherwise the focus is not on doing the deed but the prize. Praising during a movement or tinkle/pee helps the child realize the control of the praise and the body. Every 1.2 hour to catch those moments, but not sitting for long, esp if nothing happens.

Best is not easy to when parents have one way and the provider has a different way. Tell the parents before you do anything on your part is needs to really start at home and they need to be committed to making this work. It sounds like they want to be, but want the magic button that will make it happen at the click of a finger.

[daycare]

worry about what is happening when the child is in your care. It takes a lot of time patience to train a child. At four-more then ready unless medical issues. I feel at this age unless a medical issue it is more about training the provider/parent. We get into a routine of it is easy to just change a diaper. Taking the time to take the child to the bathroom, put them on the potty and wait, and wipe, and praise, and wash hands and then get them out of the fascinating bathroom- it is work and time consuming and out of our normal routine of just changing the diaper.

Tell the parent you are not telling the child that. It makes you be the heavy and you don't need that added to what you already do. It is wrong on so many levels. If the parent's want to do that, let them do that on their time. It has nothing to do with you. Explain to them with out consistency and effort it just won't happen on it's own. Praise works the best. Otherwise the focus is not on doing the deed but the prize. Praising during a movement or tinkle/pee helps the child realize the control of the praise and the body. Every 1.2 hour to catch those moments, but not sitting for long, esp if nothing happens.

Best is not easy to when parents have one way and the provider has a different way. Tell the parents before you do anything on your part is needs to really start at home and they need to be committed to making this work. It sounds like they want to be, but want the magic button that will make it happen at the click of a finger.

Sorry, I dont mean to sound rude, but where and when did I ever say I was particiapting in what the parents are doing??

I will not and have not done anything past asking this child to use the toliet, if they say no, its no and that is the end of it.

If the parents want to keep ignoring what I tell them, well then so be it. I have said my words with them and they choose to ignore me.

Why do I think its funny what is going on now?? Because I see what is going on. I see the DCG playing them like a fiddle while they just keep buying and bribing and on and on.... While I sit here and just go on with our day...

[Abigail]

The most time consuming thing I've done is being asked to take a child (almost 3) to the potty every 15 minutes. No diapers underwear. I agreed yet was really not liking it at first. We had a few good days, but when this cihld went in their pants they didn't care. It happened 4 times one day and I was so emotional I almost cried to my husband during nap I was so frustrated. I always went through all the extra pants and underwear in a day so the child went home in a diaper. My daycare friend told me to save one pair of pants and underwear to send child home in. I swear since that day when that child wore underwear home (and probably had accidents) it worked. The next day we talked on how much better it went (meaning 1-2 accidents which one was always nap time) and then I heard from the parent that the child asked for a diaper whenever they got home. So it was really just a little too much working at daycare and diapers at home since it wasn't much "awake time" at home during the week. Once they kept up with it (is what I'm assuming what happened) then it all turned around.

The 15 minutes horrible accidents DID last 2 weeks, yes, but not always tons of accidents but always 1-2 and somedays MORE. Then all of a sudden it went to 1-2 accidents a week and the 15 minutes turned into 20 to 25. Then I had another child come with a potty watch TOTALLY HATE THOSE THINGS! It goes off every hour and this child could hold it for the hour and go. This really really helped my 15 minute starter for the pt event so they learned to hold it for 45 minutes and more. Now it's amazing. I went from having 3 two-year olds in diapers in 2 months to 3 2- year olds wearing underwear but two wear diapers during nap just incase. SO HAPPY

Sorry it was a long story. I would never allow a 4 year old not to be potty trained unless it was a medical situation. If the parents were not on board with how things were expected at daycare it's just like behavior--pt that is--then they are not a good fit for my daycare. End of story.

[rbmom]

If my husband calls, can you tell him I went potty, BOTH #1 and #2. I want a new car.

I love this!!

[daycare]

The most time consuming thing I've done is being asked to take a child (almost 3) to the potty every 15 minutes. No diapers underwear. I agreed yet was really not liking it at first. We had a few good days, but when this cihld went in their pants they didn't care. It happened 4 times one day and I was so emotional I almost cried to my husband during nap I was so frustrated. I always went through all the extra pants and underwear in a day so the child went home in a diaper. My daycare friend told me to save one pair of pants and underwear to send child home in. I swear since that day when that child wore underwear home (and probably had accidents) it worked. The next day we talked on how much better it went (meaning 1-2 accidents which one was always nap time) and then I heard from the parent that the child asked for a diaper whenever they got home. So it was really just a little too much working at daycare and diapers at home since it wasn't much "awake time" at home during the week. Once they kept up with it (is what I'm assuming what happened) then it all turned around.

The 15 minutes horrible accidents DID last 2 weeks, yes, but not always tons of accidents but always 1-2 and somedays MORE. Then all of a sudden it went to 1-2 accidents a week and the 15 minutes turned into 20 to 25. Then I had another child come with a potty watch TOTALLY HATE THOSE THINGS! It goes off every hour and this child could hold it for the hour and go. This really really helped my 15 minute starter for the pt event so they learned to hold it for 45 minutes and more. Now it's amazing. I went from having 3 two-year olds in diapers in 2 months to 3 2- year olds wearing underwear but two wear diapers during nap just incase. SO HAPPY

Sorry it was a long story. I would never allow a 4 year old not to be potty trained unless it was a medical situation. If the parents were not on board with how things were expected at daycare it's just like behavior--pt that is--then they are not a good fit for my daycare. End of story.

I am on board with that I have PT 3 kids in the last 3 months, and this child obviously is not one of them....