Letting A Family Go :( Support Please

[rbmom]

It is so hard to term a family! I feel for you. You have to do what's best for your program. (((hugs)))

[rhymia1]

Have you considered allowing the twins to stay longer to keep trying to adjust and just terming the 4 year old? Maybe the parents would be open to separating the kids in order to avoid terming. maybe the 4 year old really belongs around kids his age or older and needs to be separated from the "babies". I would imagine that his parents accept his behavior partially because it is easy to just lump all the kids together and accept 2 year old behavior from him.

Yes, but it's an all or nothing family. I do think that they allow the 4 yo to act like the 2 yo - to no one's benefit
But honestly, even the twins are criers (they don't misbehave the way the 4 yo does) but they are trying as well.

[rhymia1]

wow, can the 4 yr old go to preschool. Sounds like the 4 yr old is the problem. Who was watching the kids before you had them. If they have never been in care before then where were they.

Mom took a leave of absence from work. While the 4 yo has the poor behavior, the one twin cries all day, and the other cries for about 3 hours mid day. So it's not like they are acclimating well either. And if I were to separate them now, the 2 yo's would have a hard time adjusting to being here without him. I think if they had started that way, it would have been one thing.