Waking Child Up During Naptime

[momma2girls]

I have had a fillin that asked me to wake her daughter up after one hr. then another one has told me that their one yr. old child only takes one nap from 10:00-11:00 or 11:30 and that is it!!! HA!!!!!! I just can't wait to have her come back after summer break, telling me that I am to be on their schedule for naptime!!! !!!!
Do you wake up a child after one hr. to satisfy parents? I have never before, and do not plan on doing it now!!!

[jen]

God no....

And I'd bet they don't either!!!

[SunflowerMama]

Ummm no way::. Only time I wake them is if they sleep past 4p and parents are coming to pick-up .

[momma2girls]

SO what do you tell the parents? Have you had this happen before? I have really never had this come up before in all my yrs.

[Janet]

Yeah, sure I'll wake your child up early....

when pigs fly and monkeys rule the world!!!!!!!!!

Seriously, I would never, ever agree to that. I've been asked and I've said "no" every single time. I've had parents ask that their toddlers not nap so that they will go to bed earlier at home. Nope. I've had a parent TELL me that her daughter who was 16months old at the time shouldn't nap for more than a total of 45 minutes and she was to be fully awake by 2:00PM. Did I mention that they arrived at 5:30AM??? That did not happen. I let that child go back to sleep when she arrived (mother said I was not to let her go back to sleep) and I let her take a regular afternoon nap.

Children need sleep, plain and simple.

[Daycare Mommy]

Do you wake up a child after one hr. to satisfy parents?

No! If they're asleep I let them keep at it. I'll wake them at 3 hours or 3:30pm whichever is first, if they go on that long on their own, but generally everyone here gets up after 1.5-2 hrs, but mine are older (2-5yrs), so that baby especially is not getting a healthy amount of sleep.

SO what do you tell the parents? Have you had this happen before? I have really never had this come up before in all my yrs.

I'd find some good articles on healthy amounts of sleep for that age group to show her and then if she still wants to argue it I'd just straight up say no. I refuse to deliberately do something that I know is unhealthy for these little guys in my care.

[Francine]

I have a new one year old that is here Monday and Tuesdays until 11:00-11:30 am, Dad picks up and wants to take him home and give him lunch and a nap so they don't want me to nap him at all in the a.m. He is exhausted, I don't put him down for a nap but every single day he falls asleep on the couch. BUT I DIDN'T PUT HIM DOWN FOR A NAP. Dad wants it this way because he has to go back to work at 3:00 so HE wants a nap ( works until 3:00 a.m.) in my opinion they should just leave him here all day if Dad needs the sleep so bad. I'm not going to listen to a one year old scream because he is tired so that the Dad can sleep. At home this works because he doesn't wake up until 8:00-9:00 but on my days he has to get woke up to come.

[momma2girls]

No! If they're asleep I let them keep at it. I'll wake them at 3 hours or 3:30pm whichever is first, if they go on that long on their own, but generally everyone here gets up after 1.5-2 hrs, but mine are older (2-5yrs), so that baby especially is not getting a healthy amount of sleep.



I'd find some good articles on healthy amounts of sleep for that age group to show her and then if she still wants to argue it I'd just straight up say no. I refuse to deliberately do something that I know is unhealthy for these little guys in my care.

Yes, I have an article out of a med magazine that I receive, with the amt. of sleep a child should receive everyday- toddlers/preschoolers- 11-14 hrs., and 5-12 yr. old 10-11 hrs. I plan on showing everyone, if anyone complains again!!!

[Daycare Mommy]

I have a new one year old that is here Monday and Tuesdays until 11:00-11:30 am, Dad picks up and wants to take him home and give him lunch and a nap so they don't want me to nap him at all in the a.m. He is exhausted, I don't put him down for a nap but every single day he falls asleep on the couch. BUT I DIDN'T PUT HIM DOWN FOR A NAP. Dad wants it this way because he has to go back to work at 3:00 so HE wants a nap ( works until 3:00 a.m.) in my opinion they should just leave him here all day if Dad needs the sleep so bad. I'm not going to listen to a one year old scream because he is tired so that the Dad can sleep. At home this works because he doesn't wake up until 8:00-9:00 but on my days he has to get woke up to come.

Ugh! What time does he come? I'd give him a normal AM nap after he's been up 2 hrs or so. He's too little to be down to just an afternoon nap. This arrangement will be fine when he's older, but that doesn't sound good at all for one so young.

[momma2girls]

My one yr. olds that come still need their am naps- one is up at 5:00-5:30, they live an hr. away, so the child is up very early. She is definately tired by about 9:00am!!

[nannyde]

I have had a fillin that asked me to wake her daughter up after one hr. then another one has told me that their one yr. old child only takes one nap from 10:00-11:00 or 11:30 and that is it!!! HA!!!!!! I just can't wait to have her come back after summer break, telling me that I am to be on their schedule for naptime!!! !!!!
Do you wake up a child after one hr. to satisfy parents? I have never before, and do not plan on doing it now!!!

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Heck NO. Parents don't decide when a child sleeps in my house. I decide that.

[Francine]

Ugh! What time does he come? I'd give him a normal AM nap after he's been up 2 hrs or so. He's too little to be down to just an afternoon nap. This arrangement will be fine when he's older, but that doesn't sound good at all for one so young.

I agree, that's why I let him go to sleep when he wants to in the morning. He get's here at 7:45 and usually crashes at about 9:00 until about 9:45-10.00, when Dad picks up at 11:00 he looks fully awake. I was desperate for clients when I took them on, I think if I would have come right out and said that I refuse to keep him up they would have went someplace else. I really like them, this is their first child and she is pregnant again so it's a family that I can ultimately have for years. I am hopeing that as time goes on they will realize that leaving him here all day is a better idea, I'm SURE they will once baby #2 is born.

[nannyde]

I have a new one year old that is here Monday and Tuesdays until 11:00-11:30 am, Dad picks up and wants to take him home and give him lunch and a nap so they don't want me to nap him at all in the a.m. He is exhausted, I don't put him down for a nap but every single day he falls asleep on the couch. BUT I DIDN'T PUT HIM DOWN FOR A NAP. Dad wants it this way because he has to go back to work at 3:00 so HE wants a nap ( works until 3:00 a.m.) in my opinion they should just leave him here all day if Dad needs the sleep so bad. I'm not going to listen to a one year old scream because he is tired so that the Dad can sleep. At home this works because he doesn't wake up until 8:00-9:00 but on my days he has to get woke up to come.

Please tell me you are charging them for a full time slot. I don't do half days. BTDT and all it is is the parent wanting to pay for half a day of care when the half the kid is missing is a time when they would be asleep anyway.

[nannyde]

Yes, I have an article out of a med magazine that I receive, with the amt. of sleep a child should receive everyday- toddlers/preschoolers- 11-14 hrs., and 5-12 yr. old 10-11 hrs. I plan on showing everyone, if anyone complains again!!!

See I don't give out articles like this if they say something like eleven hours for a toddler. The low end of the range is what they will use to justify their request. The parent comes back with "he's sleeping twelve hours at night so he doesn't need any sleep at your house".

Parents who ask you to do stuff like this are asking you to make it possible for them to put the kid to bed for the night very shortly after the kid goes back into the care. They want the kid to drop dead asleep and sleep until it's time to come back to your house.

They want as little time with their child awake as they can possibly get. They don't want them up in the evening and they don't want to have to have a family routine where they put the child to bed awake and they put themselves to sleep.

These are very important child rearing times and they are trying to get you to make up for what they don't want to do in the evening/night so they don't have to do it.

[misol]

No! If they're asleep I let them keep at it. I'll wake them at 3 hours or 3:30pm whichever is first, if they go on that long on their own, but generally everyone here gets up after 1.5-2 hrs...

This is what I do too. WHen waking them I also take into consideration what time they actually fell asleep. Sometimes mine play/talk/ laugh for 30-45 minutes before they actually drift off to sleep!