Ahhh Mondays After Being With Grandma All Weekend

[Breezy]

****s! She must have rocked him to sleep for each nap and bedtime because he will not go right to sleep as usual. Instead he cries and cries! Can't play on his own with me a few feet away because grandma spoiled him! I love that he got grandma time but good grief!

What do you do when weekends mess up routines? Ease them back in gently or right back into the routine even if it means CIO to get to sleep?

[Country Kids]

Not to hijack your thread but wondering if anyone has actually asked for children not to visit relatives for overnight care. I'm being totally serious here!

I actually was very close to asking this from a parent because the child came back very out of control (to the point of calling parents for pickup). This three times when this child when to visit the granparents. I think the parents realized this through some conversations we had and now grandparents pretty much seem to only watch on Friday nights and then parents have the rest of the weekend to straighten child out.

[Breezy]

Haha, no worries! I was wondering the same actually. I just can't wrap my mind around why someone would put their kid in daycare for 10.5 hours a day and then bring your child to grandmas for the weekend right after picking him up on a Friday. Maybe I would understand if I was a single mom...

[Blackcat31]

****s! She must have rocked him to sleep for each nap and bedtime because he will not go right to sleep as usual. Instead he cries and cries! Can't play on his own with me a few feet away because grandma spoiled him! I love that he got grandma time but good grief!

What do you do when weekends mess up routines? Ease them back in gently or right back into the routine even if it means CIO to get to sleep?

I would treat his issues/behavior like anything else, if he cannot adjust or acclimate to the daily routine as he normally would I probably would call mom and decline services for the day.

I too, love when kids get family time but not at MY (or the other DCK's) expense.

If he had come today and acted this way and you had no idea he had been at grandma's all weekend, would you have kept him or sent him home?

I would personally have thought he was coming down with something and was about to get sick. If one kid's mood/behavior affects the normal daily routine, they need to go home.

[Country Kids]

I had one picked up last week and was going straight to a babysitters! I didn't know what to say-epecially having the child 10 hours!

[sharlan]

I just deal with it as a regular Monday.

I used to have a 3 1/2 yo that spent most weekends with the grandparents. First thing she did every Friday night was to put him back into a diaper, stick a pacifier in his mouth, and give him a bottle. It took me until Thursday to get him back in underwear and to stop crying for a pacifier. I was quite happy when this child left.

[lovemyjob]

happens every Monday

I get what you are saying. It is frustrating when kids come back from gma/gpas house....they are spoiled. That being said...I get extremely exhausted kids every Monday and have come to plan on it. Parents either don't make their kids nap on weekends or skip them. They stay up later than usual and they are just plain cranky and tired every Monday. Really, 90% come that way. I just plan for a non-exciting day..not too eventful. I serve lunch right on time and start naps 10min early. I often will extend the nap time by 10 min as well if they kids are still in that extremely deep exhausted sleep. I am too tired to keep asking parents to try to keep the same schedule. They just don't.
That being said....I don't change my expectations one bit. We have more crying "fits" than other days...take a deep breath and let it pass.

(My own belief is most parents want to take the easy way out of parenting...don't want to bother with schedules as it causes tears and tempers. Kids thrive on consistant expectations...but it is a societal issue and will take time to educate others on the idea that parenting is never easy or simple and it will consume most of your waking hours.)